Under-eating - do you comment or not?

I said that I would comment earlier. I meant, as other mentioned, that I would send them a private message. I don´t just comment for a single day, I do it if it´s looks like a habbit. I to have days of under-eating. I don´t have that many friends, and those I got I consider close friends. If they don´t response, I wouln´t keep telling them. Untill now, I only had posive reactions, where friends told me thanks or told me why they were under-eating.

1200 calories is low for a lot of people, but please keep in mind there are some very small, lightly framed girls here, where 1200 calories may only be giving us a small calorie deficit.

Agree completely. I'm only 4ft10 and sometimes don't always need 1200 in my day.

I am assuming you don't do nothing the whole day then?

Don't do 'nothing'? My BMR is 1100 and I have a sedentary job which involves sitting in front of a screen all day. One of the reasons I got overweight in the first place was because I was eating the same food as my 6ft tall husband who is a construction worker. I am losing weight slowly but surely (about 0.5 pounds a week) and I am happy with my progress. I eat my allocated calories, get a balanced diet and I exercise in the gym.

I try to eat 1200.....I eat over sometimes it just depends on how hungry I am, but if you're not hungry....how can you force yourself to eat and not feel ill?

People shoot themselves in the foot with this most obvious form of self-sabotage.
It's part guilt and self-hate mixed with impatience.

I have resolved to warn once, and if somebody persists in the absurd notion of crash dieting, I BLOCK them.
It hurts me to see somebody do that to themselves.
Oprah Winfrey is a perfect example of an intelligent lady who just can't seem to get it. Most people, like Oprah, will yoyo diet their whole life.

Sad...

I begged her three times to stop with the 900 calorie days. She then made it so that I couldn't see her diary. I haven't taken her off my friends list, but I don't comment on anything anymore except when she asks people how they feel about specific diets or weight loss tactics. I've considered removing her because I know what she's doing and I find it painful to me, personally, that someone would be so traumatized by weight they'd go to extremes to lose it, but I figured I accepted her friendship request so I shouldn't say goodbye.

I think it is a matter of personal opinion. What one person sees as under eating another person does not. What one persons body needs to function, another persons does not.

I genuinely find it very hard to consume above 1000 calories and from my food diary anyone would see that I have a healthy balanced diet and my calorie consumption works for me. Just because someone has a low calorie diet does not mean they are under eating. You can decide for yourself whether someone is starving themself or whether they are eating a balanced diet. . I do not believe in forcing down high calories for the sake of it.

I do not use a calorie deficit to lose weight but do it through exercise and toning up.

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For example......
Science and human physiology don't change. All I can say is GOOD LUCK!

I don't comment, just as I don't comment when someone eats the "right' amount of calories but the wrong food entirely. Sometimes I am under 1200 by eating breakfast of granola, a salad with protein for lunch and protein with veg for dinner. I think that is better than people who eat 1400 calories but so much processed food and fast food and junk food

1200 calories is low for a lot of people, but please keep in mind there are some very small, lightly framed girls here, where 1200 calories may only be giving us a small calorie deficit.
I usually consume about 1300-1400 a day, but for the past few days have consumed way less. I have been a bit off colour and haven't had much of an appetite. Also, I have a take away food night coming up tomorrow night with family, so can afford to splurge a bit, seeing as I didn't hit my calorie needs the past few days.

I agree that under eating is definitely not the way to go, but its not always completely wrong - sometimes for whatever reason, we may not meet our calorie needs - its not necessarily because we are starving ourselves.

Yes, agree with this completely.

I also agree with this.

I admit that I under eat usually a couple days a week, not on purpose..I just get busy, my friends remind me. And I also have commented on friend's diary's if I see they under eat as well.

also it could be that the person is doing calorie cycling aka zigzag where there are high & low days and it happened that he could be on his low day so we shouldn't just judge people that way.

I'm an u der eater, so keep my diary closed to prevent the expected bombardment of 'starvation mode' which does seem to be the go-to phrase on here. I eat 800 cals a day plus exercise cals. This is not my choice really but my drs. I have a pituitary gland issue which affects my thyroid, presenting symptoms similar to that of an under active thyroid. I physically do NOT need more calories than this ATM, my metabolism is slower than a blooming slug. It sucks! But the doc and I are working on it together, this 800 cal is not for life, it's a starting point fr me to build up slowly from. Ive also researched this starvation mode- yes it happens, after a prolonged reduction and hen the body fat % is less that 5-8% not after 2 weeks of low cals.

Obviously not everyone has the same issue, but people do have different reasons for reducing cals, I'd say if you are worried, pm them - but otherwise let them be.

i am on 1200 calories a day i have good nutrition and i even allow myself to have a day where i wont watch what i am eating every couple of weeks. i dont feel hungry and i am very hydrated. i am 5ft tall with a small frame my tdee is 1700 so i believe i am doing whats right. i dont think going below what i am eating is good however and i am at one end of the scale being such a tiny person i dont need the amount of food say a 6ft body builder would need.but no i leave the people who starve themselves to get on with it because they wont listen they will believe living on cabbage soup or cayan pepper and maple syrup will help them in the long run

I don't usually comment unless it's really off the wall low. But there are so many differing ideas on this site about what is the best way to lose weight, that I am more prone to assume that they are adults and can manage their lives. I am more irked by people who continue to eat WAY over their calorie goal, loading their diaries with tons of sweets and high calorie foods. It makes me wonder why they are even on this site. I would be more likely to delete that person.

I look at my friends diaries every day and look to see what they are eating - not just the amount of calories but the content. If they are consistently way under 1200 then I will make a comment encouraging them to try and increase their calorie consumption. Also I try and encourage people to eat healthy food because I firmly believe that this is not just a weight loss journey but the quest for good health too. I will not make comments such as 'well done' on people who's diaries are not available to view ... how can I say that when maybe they are eating only a few hundred calories per day or may be eating cake and soda all day. If someone objects to me making a comment then that is fine and usually - although this has only happened once - I will let them know that I feel unable to encourage or help them in any way and I wish them well and then de-friend them ... but I do let them know first. If someone lets me know that there is a reason why they eat the way they do then that is ok too but i don't want to just be a 'great hun' sort of friend.