Annoyed by People Commenting??

No, I doubt that. I think people are just being very encouraging and supportive. I think it is nice to get a "pat on the back", when doing something well sometimes.

I like hearing about people commenting about my weightloss instead of hearing about how I've gained weight, if the reverse were to happen.

ohh why do you take it that way?

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wow...if you want to complain about getting a compliment...just wow

change that attitude before it changes you!

Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

I'm with the OP on this one. I've learned from my own weight-loss experience that the best compliment to receive (and to give) is very simply.... "you look great!". period. No need to carry on asking them to tell you how much they lost (or in other words... just how FAT were they before?). If they want to say how much they lost that's fine but I never ask. And if anyone ever asks me, I just say "enough to fit in these cute jeans".

It's just a personal preference for people and I think it's best to let the person being complimented dictate what they're comfortable with. No need to judge.

seems no pleasing some people... :laugh:

some complain because you comment... some complain because you don't say anything... damned if you do - damned if you don't.

It's just a personal preference for people and I think it's best to let the person being complimented dictate what they're comfortable with. No need to judge.

so how would this work? I go up to you and say..hey...I want to give you a compliment but Im not sure if you are going to go all negative on my *kitten* with it so what should I say? is that how we let the complimentee dictate their preference?

OP - is it that you don't like the attention? I'm just genuinely curious...

I can relate to the OP. It's not so much that it's annoying that they compliment you, but it does get tiresome when 99.9% of your conversations with people are based off of your weight loss. Sometimes I just want to talk about the Yankees game, or who the Bills drafted, etc. In my second job as a bartender, I literally talk to a few hundred people in a typical shift. It does get repetitive after a while! I didn't do this to change how others see me, I did it for me. I would still like to live a normal life and just be known as Ox, not the former fat guy who lost a ton of weight.

I will, on the other hand, never get offended by someone giving a genuine compliment.

OP, it sounds like you have some soul searching. I think it all boils down to the truth. Maybe you did look like *kitten* before the weight loss as most people do. It's just an opinion though but something drove you to lose it, perhaps vain reasons. My curiosity lies in why do you even care? You look great now, and that's all that should matter. Me personally, I like occasional compliments but I get uncomfortable with too much attention, however it seems like you're too worried about what people thought of you before the weight loss that's neither here or there. It's best to focus on the now, otherwise if you gain the weight back, you'll obsess about what people think.

I can't wait for that!! When I've lost before though, I LOVED the compliments!

What annoys me is that no one ever says anything when you are gaining.... I would have rather heard something to the effect of "it looks like you are putting on a lot of weight" (in a concerned, non-rude way) than waiting to comment until I lose it - maybe that reality check would've helped with my denial LOL. For me it was so easy to gain and it was easy to tell myself no one noticed because no one EVER said anything! That and my clothes still fit for a long time (didn't realize all my jeans had like 5% lycra LOL).