Annoyed by People Commenting??

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  • PonyTailedLoser
    PonyTailedLoser Posts: 315 Member
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    I hate the compliments that are excessive or when people try to tell me what I should do with my body (you don't need to lose more, etc). It generally makes me feel uncomfortable and after you have the exact same conversation with the same people for the 40th time it tends to get old. I do like a matter of fact compliment though, I'm not going to lie.
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
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    Why would you write a post about comments if you don't want any? ;) I think you love them.
  • kadyjackson
    kadyjackson Posts: 11 Member
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    The 90/10 Principle by Author Stephen Covey

    What is the Principle?

    10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
    90% of life is decided by how you react

    What does this mean?

    We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.

    You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction.

    Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react.

    Let us use an example…

    You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.

    You have no control over what just happened. So what happens next will be determined by how you react.

    You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.

    You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

    Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing a $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. Your day started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.

    You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

    Why?

    Because of how you reacted in the morning.

    Why did you have a bad day?

    A) Did the coffee cause it?
    B) Did your daughter cause it?
    C) Did the policeman cause it?
    D) Did you cause it?

    The answer is “D”

    You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

    Here is what should have happened…

    Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.

    You gently say, “It’s okay honey, you just need to be more careful next time.”

    Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.

    Notice the difference?

    Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

    Why?

    Because of how you reacted.

    You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

    Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches. We must all apply the 90/10 Principle. It can change your life!

    I love this is so true!!!
  • WaterBunnie
    WaterBunnie Posts: 1,370 Member
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    I think it would annoy me if it was ALL they wanted to talk about.
  • Kara_xxx
    Kara_xxx Posts: 635 Member
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    The comments that really bother me are "you don't look that bad" or your not that fat. It isn't a compliment.

    Isn't it??

    I gained 40lb after an injury. When I tell people they often say "oh really, it doesn't seem like you gained THAT much..." of course it's kind of a compliment...

    Better than them saying "oh yes I can see you're at least 40lb up!" :laugh:

    And to the OP... if you post something on an open forum, then chances are a proportion of those people may say something you don't wish to hear. That doesn't mean you can tell them to get off the forum.
  • Sbehlmer
    Sbehlmer Posts: 464 Member
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    When someone pays me a compliment about looking better & how much weight I've lost, I take it as a very positive thing...Just like many others here, we all work hard to reach our goal (whether short term or long term), & it's a great feeling when others notice....I could never take that as a negative thing :)
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
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    I don't know about anyone else, but when someone compliments me on the weight I've lost, it sets something off in my head and I want to eat things I shouldn't eat. It's the same as when I tried to quit smoking a million times (been quit for over 8 months now). Friends or family would say "Oh, you haven't smoked for a week?.. WTG! I am proud of you!" Then, I would go buy some cigarettes. Go figure. I'm the same way about dieting. I guess, in my mind, it's not something I should be complimented on. It's something I shouldn't have let happen in the first place and doesn't deserve praise. I am my own worse critic. All I can say is keep your eye on the prize and don't let them get to you.
  • Neecy_Pooh
    Neecy_Pooh Posts: 122
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    Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

    Stop losing. Problem solved.

    Get an attitude adjustment. Problem solved.

    They are right. If you don't like the comments or compliments, stopping effing losing weight. Really!! This person doesn't need an attitude adjustment just because they simply suggested a solution. As far as YOU go, 20 lbs is a lot and yes you really DID look big, so stop complaining because people notice that you are not so big! OMG!!
  • hkevans724
    hkevans724 Posts: 241 Member
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    Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

    Personally I am quite annoyed that I have lost 20 lbs and not one even noticed!
  • Kara_xxx
    Kara_xxx Posts: 635 Member
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    loved the 90/10 principle post. Thank you. :drinker:
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
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    YES. It drives me completely up the wall. I was at a party recently where literally every person there commented on it. I haven't lost any weight in a year now, I lost most of my weight 18 months ago. GET OVER IT! I am not a fat person who lost weight. I was a thinnish person who had babies and hung onto to the excess while breastfeeding. It's not something worth mentioning. I find the whole subject of weightless incredibly boring.
  • Prudiddy
    Prudiddy Posts: 262 Member
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    Thanks to all the people who actually took the time to read what I posted...and didn't twist it into all sorts of negativity.

    Sometimes it makes me sad to know so many people jump to the negative and come to their own conclusions about a complete stranger.

    I thought this was supposed to be a place where we could talk about how we felt and what we were going through during weight loss without judgment.

    Please...if you are looking to judge and point fingers and make assumptions and tell me how terrible I am go elsewhere.

    I want to say I completely understand what you are saying, for instance this guy at my job: Every 2 min is asking how much weight did you lose again? And telling me to turn around. PERV. That is annoying, on the other hand, There are the haters that say, "it took how long again to lose 20lbs?" That is annoying too. as if I've been trying forever. Then there are those who tell me " See Pru and you said you couldn't do it we are so proud of you" They say this often and I love it! So I can feel you on this completely!

    :drinker: :flowerforyou: :wink:

    Absolutely
  • kcox4166
    kcox4166 Posts: 20 Member
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    I think this is probably the issue. I've lost before and regained because I didn't like the attention.
  • HIITMe
    HIITMe Posts: 921 Member
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    I agree with the OP... and whats worse are the folks that want details.... not because they are caring but because they are NOSEY & want to GOSSIP....

    -How much DID you lose?
    -What size do you wear?
    -I think you are too skinny...



    Im glad that I have the personality that not too many would have the nerve to approach me in that manner
  • MonkeyBars
    MonkeyBars Posts: 266 Member
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    Am I allowed to comment on this thread?

    LMAO!
  • michelleepotter
    michelleepotter Posts: 800 Member
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    It would not bother me in the least to have people commenting on how much I've lost. So far it's only been my husband and my grandma, LOL. I think people just want to encourage you.

    What irritated me was when people kept saying I looked like I had lost weight, when I knew I hadn't, and in fact knew I had gained weight. I told myself it was just that I was getting better at dressing for my body shape, but I felt like people were giving fake compliments just to be polite, and I can't STAND that.
  • StarkLark
    StarkLark Posts: 476 Member
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    I never, ever get annoyed when I hear stuff like that. Not to mention I personally DID look awful before :laugh:
  • Gilbrod
    Gilbrod Posts: 1,216 Member
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    Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

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  • StarkLark
    StarkLark Posts: 476 Member
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    I agree with the OP... and whats worse are the folks that want details.... not because they are caring but because they are NOSEY & want to GOSSIP....

    -How much DID you lose?
    -What size do you wear?
    -I think you are too skinny...



    Im glad that I have the personality that not too many would have the nerve to approach me in that manner
    It might be a gender difference or simply because we are at different points in our paths, but I LOVE those types of questions. I don't care if they want it because they are nosey or they want to gossip, it gives me a chance to talk about it and not feel like I am outright bragging. Well, except for the too skinny part, I am not sure I'll ever hear that one! :bigsmile:
  • JediMaster_intraining
    JediMaster_intraining Posts: 903 Member
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    I think if people tell me "you look great!" and leave it at that, I would love to hear that and say "thanks".

    But if everyone tells me "you've lost sooo much weight" or "did you not eat?" or "you weren't that big in the 1st place" I would be annoyed.

    I'm very very self-conscious still and people pointing out what my physical flaws were just makes me want to hide in my room. (I'm working on my self-esteem still.)

    Don't get me wrong. I am glad people are noticing but sometimes I just don't want them to say too much. A simple comment or compliment works for me.

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