giving up seems much easier....???

I would like to kick your butt to get you into gear (:laugh: ) butt no one can make the changes but you!

Is your husband supporting you in wanting to lose weight? Maybe he could take the kids an hour or two a couple of times a week? Then you will have some time for yourself to do some work out. If that´s not possible, find a appealing work out dvd, so that you can work out at home. A friend of mine work out together with her children. They think it´s so much fun, like playing with her. Once you get started, it´s makes you addicted. Sometimes it´s so hard to get going, but you will feel sooo much better and have a lot more energy. You will feel good about yourself for going.

And when it comes to food... Make the changes nice and easy. You don´t have to change your entire life all at once, if it seems impossible. Start by getting rid of the soda and sweets (it´s not good for your children either. If not for you, then do it for them). Drink some water. Then later maybe eat a fruit with your breakfast, maybe som vegetables with your lunch (like a carrot, for instance.) Small changes can have a great impact- and you´re going! Start in one place and work your way to the changes.

You have children and you have to teach them some good habbits! They will watch you and follow your example as they grow up. You will feel much better and confidence is sexy.

Get honest with yourself. If you don't want to do the work, stop. If you want to do the work, log in everything you eat, get off your duff and get that body moving, and you'll see the scale inch its way downward. Won't be fast but it will come off eventually. Read about women and men who have hundreds of pounds to lose; if they can do it so can you.

There is no simple, quick easy answer here. It just doesn't sound like you've made fitness a priority in life. You will never succeed until you realize that it is a commitment. Just like being in a committed relationship. Unless you take it seriously, it is never going to work.

I always try to remind myself that being overweight is just as hard as trying to lose or maintain weight. You can do it!

Get honest with yourself. If you don't want to do the work, stop. If you want to do the work, log in everything you eat, get off your duff and get that body moving, and you'll see the scale inch its way downward. Won't be fast but it will come off eventually. Read about women and men who have hundreds of pounds to lose; if they can do it so can you.

It's true. Do you want it not? I finally came to the conclusion if I'm not happy about it, and don't wanna work for it, I better not be complaining either.

You need to be able to see your goals. Here on MFP you can sort of feel like you have to be accountable for foods and excercise by having to enter it. Not mandatory but it is a motivator.

A visual goal poster. They work great. Get a piece of cardboard poster size. Cut out pictures of all motivational things that you are aiming for. This can be not only fitness but money, a car, holiday, study achievement, work. Get pictures of your fav car and put it up, get pics of your fav holiday destination and also get pics of yourself. Ones you really like the most, at a time when you were closer to your goals, if you have some from when you were younger, it can still be a good motivator to see yourself at a size you were happy with. Get pictures of fit women who's figures you admire and can aspire to. There's a lot of fitness guru's out there that aren't overly bulked up but are really nicely toned. I have a pic of someones legs and backside, nice for hubby to look at too lol, I dont mind as thats my motivation pic.

Seeing your goals and what you are working for is a great motivator. Being a Mum means being busy. I do find it hard to set aside 30 mins for fitness routine because when I actually get 30 mins its to rest right! It happens being so busy all the time. I do my kitchen exercises. No excuses allowed. i'm in the kitchen every night, I love cooking, its my 'thing' and doing some regular exercises in there helps. My bench push ups are a great starter. 3 types, hands close together, hands shoulder width apart and hands out wider. Start with 5 of each. Stand about a metre away from the bench top. Put your hands on the edge and keeping your body stiff, lean towards the bench just as if you were doing a push up on the floor. Get up to 10 of each, then 15, just keep increasing every few days and the work on your upper body/arm area is done while making dinner!

Lunges during ads watching tv are a quick one as well. Alternate feet you step out first with, step together and do 3 squats, then step out with the other foot. Turn around and do two lunges back with 3 squats at each stop. Done in the 30 seconds of ads and done several times during a show. I've started doing them with a weighted medicine ball and it ups the anti for sure. Got sore the first day. The ball stays in the lounge room near the tv cabinet. Its my visual reminder!

Hope you can find the little things easy to do. Putting a note up in the kitchen to remind you, works well also. Best of luck, this is an ongoing journey and you will find the downer times challenging but the only way to go now is up. Up the anti, up the motivation and up the movement chicky babe. You deserve this time for yourself hey. cheers

if getting fit and healthy was easy.. everyone would do it..

Things that are worthwhile are never easy.. but always worth it..


you have to find your internal motivator.. you have to just finally be so fed up with not being healthy that you aren't willing to spend another day the way you are without change.

Sounds like you did well in a group class, i would recommend joining another one to kickstart you back into it

You just have to stop making excuses and do it, just do something every day, at least 4-6 days a week, it doesn't have to be for hours and hours, do 30DS or something from home, then you don't even have to leave the house and its free on youtube, its 30min a day...no more excuses, just do it.

No one said this was easy, and results do not come fast, but persistence is the key.

I agree with the one step at a time.

I failed so many times because of trying to go from crap to perfect in one fail swoop.

So this time I did it step by step - today one small change, and when I could cope with that easily then another. The changes sometimes were fast, sometimes slow. But I haven't gone back and I don't plan to.

They can be as small as you like but every one is a step forward instead of staying where you are.

Does your husband know that you're feeling like this, or are you just venting here? If he knows, then he should encourage you, and motivate you, so that you DON'T quit and give up. I do that for my wife though. We both know that we have to push each other in order to stay healthy and not veer off. When we're scheduled to get up in the mornings to exercise before work (i get up before she does, and do my workout), i make sure she's up, i have the treadmill ready for her, and have her water sitting in the cup holder on the treadmill. I'm not saying your husband should follow exactly what i do, but words of encouragement and motivation can go a long way, so that you don't quit on yourself, and also to not quit on your family. The one question i ask myself is, "how bad do i want to be healthy for myself and my family'? I wish you luck in finding that motivation, because i know myself that i've felt the same way you're feeling, and thought about just not caring about my health like alot of other people i know.