I don't think weight has anything to do with attractiveness

ramgi
ramgi Posts: 196 Member
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Hi,

I know some of you are just starting out on your fitness journeys. I just want you to know that you are loveable just the way you are. Do this weight loss thing for you and your health. It's not about what others think of you that matters. It's what you think of yourself. So many people think if they lose weight they'll be prettier or more likable. If someone doesn't like you big than maybe their too superficial to be friends with anyway. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Love yourself and realize that you deserve to be fit and healthy. It's not about the outside so much but it's about getting to your happy place. That starts from within. All the best to each and every one of you!

Ramgi (The female Rambo)
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  • JPZ98
    JPZ98 Posts: 70 Member
    Thank you for those kind words of encouragement!
  • paulipet
    paulipet Posts: 70
    Yes- thank you. I pay way too much attention to what other people think/might think.
  • sassydebbie67
    sassydebbie67 Posts: 76
    YES!! Thank you so much for this.. This is what i needed to make my day even better... Much Love to you
  • Iron_Maiden
    Iron_Maiden Posts: 326 Member
    LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS!!!! YOU ROCK!
  • bigjax1
    bigjax1 Posts: 56 Member
    my partner met me slim.... still loves me now I'm fat
    I am losing the weight for me

    but I still look at my reflection and cringe
  • ohtobequeen
    ohtobequeen Posts: 2
    You are so right! What a great thing to read first thing in the morning. :)
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    love it! embrace your flaws folks. if you don't like yourself now, how will you like yourself when you're thin?

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  • je551caDan13ls
    je551caDan13ls Posts: 114
    Thanks...a warm glo....it feels nice.
  • trishgrace
    trishgrace Posts: 279 Member
    Thank you :flowerforyou:
  • EpiGaiaRepens
    EpiGaiaRepens Posts: 824 Member
    Hi,

    I know some of you are just starting out on your fitness journeys. I just want you to know that you are loveable just the way you are. Do this weight loss thing for you and your health. It's not about what others think of you that matters. It's what you think of yourself. So many people think if they lose weight they'll be prettier or more likable. If someone doesn't like you big than maybe their too superficial to be friends with anyway. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Love yourself and realize that you deserve to be fit and healthy. It's not about the outside so much but it's about getting to your happy place. That starts from within. All the best to each and every one of you!

    Ramgi (The female Rambo)

    WORD!!!

    I lost 50 lbs and I get *so much more male attention* now. But you know what? I am in love with the guy who hit on me 50 lbs ago. I know he won't dump me if i put weight back on. I know he likes me for more than just my figure.

    Fitness does bring more attention, but I agree that that's not what it's all about. I feel like a ninja with all the things i can do with my body now. Rock climbing and aerialist stuff. Even chin ups make me feel like a superhero. It's silly I suppose, but that's what I love most about all of this.
  • jmilian825
    jmilian825 Posts: 193 Member
    thank you very much!
  • mielchat
    mielchat Posts: 41 Member
    This is so sweet!
  • oprettinikki
    oprettinikki Posts: 48
    Thank you for the words, I needed to hear it!!
  • brutalrage
    brutalrage Posts: 34 Member
    Some wise words there. Never do something for someone else do it for yourself.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Hi,

    I know some of you are just starting out on your fitness journeys. I just want you to know that you are loveable just the way you are. Do this weight loss thing for you and your health. It's not about what others think of you that matters. It's what you think of yourself. So many people think if they lose weight they'll be prettier or more likable. If someone doesn't like you big than maybe their too superficial to be friends with anyway. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Love yourself and realize that you deserve to be fit and healthy. It's not about the outside so much but it's about getting to your happy place. That starts from within. All the best to each and every one of you!

    Ramgi (The female Rambo)

    Inner beauty doesn't make initial attraction......just saying. I agree with what you said.....but weight definitely has something to do with attractiveness.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I agree, you shouldn't be loved or treated any different for your weight.
    But as much as I told myself I was happy at 245, I wasn't.... now that I am of a normal size my self confidence and self esteem is off the chart. The internal transformation that comes with weight loss is very worth it. But you are right, it was for me, not anybody else :)
  • fisherlassie
    fisherlassie Posts: 542 Member
    You are right on girl!
  • abbezen
    abbezen Posts: 405 Member
    What a kind, inspiring and wonderful post! Thank you for this!
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    For the sake of discussion, though is it wrong or unfair to admit that in our society weight is one measure of physical attractiveness and that it plays a role? Having been nearly 400 pounds and still 278 pounds on the way down, I will tell you that the physical attributes of morbid obesity to influence other people's opinions of you. To say one should simply "ignore" those opinions is a lofty ambition but not realistic.

    Having said that, I wish we all could retrain our society to view obesity not in terms of worth or attractiveness, but rather in terms of quality of life. I wish that instead of desiring to be a size X because society will look upon your more favorably, we could desire to be a BMI of X indicating health and fitness.

    Just my 2 cents.
  • cso619
    cso619 Posts: 4
    Hi all,

    I'm new to this and I'm looking for the fellas going through this journey as well. My wife and all her MFP friends are putting me to shame, but I need some help lol!
  • kylesmommy89
    kylesmommy89 Posts: 356 Member

    Having said that, I wish we all could retrain our society to view obesity not in terms of worth or attractiveness, but rather in terms of quality of life. I wish that instead of desiring to be a size X because society will look upon your more favorably, we could desire to be a BMI of X indicating health and fitness.

    Just my 2 cents.

    Love this.
  • angie6171
    angie6171 Posts: 18 Member
    That just about brings a tear to my eye because you don't know what that means to me! I couldn't agree more! My husband of 21 years met me when I weighed 125lbs and tells me I'm beautiful all the time even when I was over 300lbs! I am doing this for myself. My family has always put me down since I gained the weight. I never had a weight problem until I started living with my husband. He could eat what he wanted and I found out quickly I couldn't. Anyway, long story short I've often wondered if my mom would want to talk to me again when I lose a bunch of weight and then I thought why couldn't she accept me the way I am anyway. Thank you for posting this! Love to you all!
  • noirnatural
    noirnatural Posts: 310 Member
    Hi,

    I know some of you are just starting out on your fitness journeys. I just want you to know that you are loveable just the way you are. Do this weight loss thing for you and your health. It's not about what others think of you that matters. It's what you think of yourself. So many people think if they lose weight they'll be prettier or more likable. If someone doesn't like you big than maybe their too superficial to be friends with anyway. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Love yourself and realize that you deserve to be fit and healthy. It's not about the outside so much but it's about getting to your happy place. That starts from within. All the best to each and every one of you!

    Ramgi (The female Rambo)

    Well said!
  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
    If being found attractive is what motivates an individual then I say keep on keepin' on. If it works for you, use it.
  • Alinecita
    Alinecita Posts: 4
    Thanks so much for your very kind words! I'm glad that I read this first thing in the morning!
  • Kryssaxo
    Kryssaxo Posts: 54
    Trust me, I do like me some Magic Mike type guys but they're only for eye candy. I never picture myself with a person like that so I don't think anyone should think they have to look like that unless it's for themselves. Thank you for this topic. A great reminder of the important things :)
  • Loeski5
    Loeski5 Posts: 56
    This is great! Very well put. I agree that weight has nothing to do with attractiveness. I was with my ex for 5 years and I only weighed 150 lbs when we met. I got all the way up to 243 while I was pregnant and now I'm 220 and he still loves everything about me (even though we're not currently together). I have met very few men that haven't been attracted to me because of my size and that says a lot. I think attractiveness has to deal more with how you look at yourself versus what the scale says are what the MD BMI chart says your "ideal" weight should be. Any change that you want to make in your life starts from your mind and within yourself and goes from there. Like my pastor always says, "When you change your mind. You change your life." ^_^
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    For the sake of discussion, though is it wrong or unfair to admit that in our society weight is one measure of physical attractiveness and that it plays a role? Having been nearly 400 pounds and still 278 pounds on the way down, I will tell you that the physical attributes of morbid obesity to influence other people's opinions of you. To say one should simply "ignore" those opinions is a lofty ambition but not realistic.

    Having said that, I wish we all could retrain our society to view obesity not in terms of worth or attractiveness, but rather in terms of quality of life. I wish that instead of desiring to be a size X because society will look upon your more favorably, we could desire to be a BMI of X indicating health and fitness.

    Just my 2 cents.

    I'll second this. If you go into a business meeting, and your waistline is larger than the chair you're sitting in, no one will take you seriously. It's not a matter of "attractiveness," but a matter of "if this person can't control his/her weight, how can we trust him/her to take care of our company." That being said, I personally have a similar issue with people who are overly muscular.

    I'll add to the BMI thing: It's a general measurement system, and people often put it off because of that. What should be measures is what percentage of your weight if body fat. Ideally, for men, it should be between 8 and 15%. Any lower or higher, and you're risking your health. I don't know what it is for women...

    With the BMI scale, you may be slightly above or slightly lower and there's not a whole lot you can do about it, because of your genetics. Some people are built big (but not necessarily fat), other people are build thin (but not anorexic).
  • TiffanyDeanee
    TiffanyDeanee Posts: 158
    Hi,

    I know some of you are just starting out on your fitness journeys. I just want you to know that you are loveable just the way you are. Do this weight loss thing for you and your health. It's not about what others think of you that matters. It's what you think of yourself. So many people think if they lose weight they'll be prettier or more likable. If someone doesn't like you big than maybe their too superficial to be friends with anyway. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Love yourself and realize that you deserve to be fit and healthy. It's not about the outside so much but it's about getting to your happy place. That starts from within. All the best to each and every one of you!

    Ramgi (The female Rambo)

    Inner beauty doesn't make initial attraction......just saying. I agree with what you said.....but weight definitely has something to do with attractiveness.

    This^

    Even though I am told that I am beautiful and have a wonderful personality and I am an intelligent woman, guys ( in STL anyway) simply put me in the friend category. I believe this is because I am overweight.
  • m60kaf
    m60kaf Posts: 421 Member
    Dream on

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