How do I still feel sexy?

Bullygirl30
Bullygirl30 Posts: 82
edited December 23 in Motivation and Support
Ok guys and gals, I have been haveing a hard time feeling sexy, pretty, or even cute right now. How do you feel good in your own skin when you know that you still have so far to go?

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  • Hummmingbird
    Hummmingbird Posts: 337 Member
    I try to focus on my "pretty parts" ! I love my eyes and I dont usually wear makeup so I do up my eyes so the pop! Or I go and get a nice haircut! Or I eat some veggies....I feel like im doing something right and at least i can do that! I like photography so I will go searching for cool things to take pics of....(I guess to get my mind off of me lol). I also put on yummy smelling body spray! And, instead of wearing my usual baggy clothes I try to wear something tailored and flattering, even if Im only going to the store :)
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  • corsetqueen09
    corsetqueen09 Posts: 16
    just keep thinking of the end result, you won't feel this way forever!! Everyone has those days, you just have to keep thinking about how good you will feel when you hit your goal weight. The more you concentrate on how you feel now the more depressed and upset you'll make yourself. Sometimes we can't help but want instant gratification. Just be patient and know that you WILL get there, just not overnight!! So don't worry be happy :D
  • meechi53
    meechi53 Posts: 195 Member
    Beautiful makeup and accessories, also shoes. Shoes can be very sexy :-)
  • wyldling
    wyldling Posts: 35
    The best way and 100% satisfaction guaranteed way I find to feel sexy when I'm self conscious is to have awesome sex. And I hope that doesn't get me banned or reported for saying that. Anyways, its always a good mood booster when being negative and it burns a good amount of calories. Don't even think about what you look like, just enjoy the sensation of touch. Hell, my girlfriend says she loves the chub better because its always soft to touch and enjoyable to cuddle up with. No need to buy accessories or doll up, drop your skippies and get dirty with a loved one who loves you for everything that you are.

    Work on eating healthy, drinking water, taking care of your skin and exercising because eventually your skin will be glowing and you'll never want to put your clothes back on! Yay nudism! Seriously, though, take care of your body and you'll wake up in the morning feeling beautiful without having to put on makeup. When I tried that before it was only a matter of weeks before I felt the positive results and now I'm hoping to get that back after falling off the bandwagon. ^-^
  • marycmeadows
    marycmeadows Posts: 1,691 Member
    you have to love yourself regardless.
  • c0untingsheep
    c0untingsheep Posts: 159 Member
    Look at "before" pictures and remember how far you've come.
  • tlewer
    tlewer Posts: 1
    just keep going! You are making progress
  • itgeekwoman
    itgeekwoman Posts: 804 Member
    I always closet shopped.. look at the clothes in the closet and figure out if anything old fits again!! It's like shopping for free! Also, I would go and get a new bra and panties .. have to have nice foundation garments to make those girls stand out.

    Just focus on the good things. Your progress. Put a collage of pictures together. Go out and be with positive people. It is difficult but this is the best thing for you.

    Go win this race!
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    I look at my progress album I made on Facebook, realizing how much better I look now. I also doll up and go out somewhere, that usually helps. Talking to my bf is the best option for me though as he's quick to compliment me. :blushing:
  • jillica
    jillica Posts: 554 Member
    You have 38 reasons to feel sexy! Keep up the great work!

    Plus,

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  • lifesazoo
    lifesazoo Posts: 118
    I remind myself that nothing is sexier than confidence- regardless of how I feel about the way I look, I hold my head up high, wear clothes that fit well, and look people in the eyes.
  • CoralConnor
    CoralConnor Posts: 42 Member
    The best way and 100% satisfaction guaranteed way I find to feel sexy when I'm self conscious is to have awesome sex. And I hope that doesn't get me banned or reported for saying that. Anyways, its always a good mood booster when being negative and it burns a good amount of calories. Don't even think about what you look like, just enjoy the sensation of touch. Hell, my girlfriend says she loves the chub better because its always soft to touch and enjoyable to cuddle up with. No need to buy accessories or doll up, drop your skippies and get dirty with a loved one who loves you for everything that you are.

    Work on eating healthy, drinking water, taking care of your skin and exercising because eventually your skin will be glowing and you'll never want to put your clothes back on! Yay nudism! Seriously, though, take care of your body and you'll wake up in the morning feeling beautiful without having to put on makeup. When I tried that before it was only a matter of weeks before I felt the positive results and now I'm hoping to get that back after falling off the bandwagon. ^-^

    ^ This! If you have someone you love who cherishes your body, there's nothing like great sex to boost your oxytocin levels and body confidence.
  • NU2U
    NU2U Posts: 659 Member
    Don't try so hard...natural is the new sexy. Just be you..be confident. Admire your own body..become fond of it. Loving yourself is sexy!!!
  • ReinasWrath
    ReinasWrath Posts: 1,173 Member
    I don't :sad: Wana hear how to too :L
  • ShrinkingShawna
    ShrinkingShawna Posts: 186 Member
    I go shopping with my husband's money. That always makes me feel sexy :laugh: Just kidding! (sort of) But on a serious note, I do things to take care of myself (hair, makeup, dress nice) to keep from feeling "sloppy". Makes me feel better.
  • kayemme
    kayemme Posts: 1,782 Member
    Ok guys and gals, I have been haveing a hard time feeling sexy, pretty, or even cute right now. How do you feel good in your own skin when you know that you still have so far to go?

    you should feel sexy no matter what your size is. sexy comes from within. own it!
  • ipsamet
    ipsamet Posts: 436 Member
    Look at "before" pictures and remember how far you've come.

    This! Helps me every time.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    Sexy is in the mind, truly. I think people are sexiest when they aren't self-conscious, and they're fully themselves. In the moment, doing whatever it is they do.

    But... those little things like painting toenails, curling or straightening hair, makeup just right, a sexy outfit that works for your body, and some hot undies. Those help too :)
  • christinehetz80
    christinehetz80 Posts: 490 Member
    This is something I'm struggling with cause I actually felt sexier when I was bigger. I would spend a lot of time pampering myself and dressing up so I could feel good being a bigger girl. Now I rock the ponytail and cute workout gear, but it doesn't feel sexy. So I'm trying to bring in more of a balance. I spend a bit more time getting ready in the mornings for work, and one day a week I go all out and get dressed up to go out with the hubby. I mean ALL OUT! Not sure if this helps, but I guess find something that makes you feel good, new scent, mani/pedi, shoes, curl your hair, or new eyeliner...whatever it takes.
  • KBUnleashed
    KBUnleashed Posts: 44 Member
    I usually get dressed up and go someplace. I never feel more sexy than when I lock eyes with a hot guy and flash a cute smile just to have him smile back or come up to say hi. Works every time!
  • Josette89
    Josette89 Posts: 244
    I know you have a goal, I have a goal, everyone has a goal. Just because you are not at your goal doesn't mean that you should be unhappy with yourself. If you have made the choice to do something about how you feel about yourself, that is an awesome step. Be proud! Know in your heart that you are determined to reach that goal and you WILL get there. But, hating yourself for not being there yet won't do much for your confidence, and in turn, low self esteem slows your determination. A wonderful way to boost confidence as well as exercise is to get all dressed up and sexy (not what the media would call sexy, but YOUR version of sexy), grab a good friend who supports you, and go dancing :D Go somewhere that you know you won't run into people you already know. I have fun in places where they play techno- ish music where I can dance like a crazy person and no one even judges you, but if that's not your style, just go somewhere where you can dance your heart out! Dancing brings on so much confidence. You have fun, you exercise, you look good doing it.... the equation for confidence and feeling great about yourself.
    PLUS, insecurity is a reflection of how people make you feel or have made you feel in the past, F*** all the haters out there and just live your life! :D
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    I look at "before" pictures like others suggested which is why I stress to friends asking for my support with their weightloss to take pictures and document! :) and I look at myself in the mirror (sometimes naked and sometimes clothed... Lol) and say "there is not a DAMN thing wrong with me! Yes, I am overweight and I have many flaws, but I'm freakin awesome and beautiful!" and yes I really do say this. Lol love your body no matter the size or shape. :)
  • dyn3428
    dyn3428 Posts: 14
    The biggest part of sex and being/feeling sexy is in your head. It isn't so much about how you look on the outside, although it doesn't hurt to look like a supermodel, you can be sexy no matter how you look. Find something about your body that you like and feel great about it!!! It can be your eyes, your smile, maybe you have great skin...there has to be something you like. Play that up everyday, even if you have to fake it a little at first!!!!!
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