Any ideas or ol wives tales about becoming pregnant?

My husband and I are having trouble , becoming pregnant. We have been trying for almost a year, and nothing. I talked to him today and he refuses to go to the OB-GYN to get his sperm tested. He ABSOLUTELY hates doctors! HE has been traumatized, by one and has not been to a dr. in 6 years.
So does anyone have any suggestions for us?

my suggestion is to go to a counsellor together until he is ready to go back to a doctor. i think this is so important....

Do you have a regular cycle? If so, read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, follow the system, and see how it works for you. If it doesn't work, probably time to see a doctor.

My inclination is....if he's not willing to go to the doctor, and have them look at a sperm sample under a microscope.....he's not going to do well with any pregnancy, delivery, childcare situations either.


If he really wanted a child, he would seek advice from a doctor.

Off the top of my head...as far as men are concerned he should be keeping his testicles "cool" as in not sitting in a hot tub etc. Hot balls= no spermies, some actually use this as a natural contraceptive. Vitamin C= good for men, not for women. Thats all I got for now, happy baby making!

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been trying for 4 years and it can be heart breaking. Have you tried the normal ovulation kits and such, have you been tested? Maybe if you are tested first the will get tested. Testing for men is sooo easy they just have to put there stuff in a cup and present it. No "procedures" involved.

As for natural/ old wives tails, pay attention to cervical mucus, it it never seems to thin out try taking cough meds, they thin mucus membranes so they little guys cam swim better. Also, try laying still after $ex and maybe even put a pillow under your bum.


Like I said i am having trouble so I am not sure if any of this will be helpful but I wish you all the luck in the world. If you need to talk to some one who has been through infertility send me a PM any time.

Best wishes sending baby dust your way.

do insanity work out and then just STOP!! <-- what i did
last summer my husband and i had been trying for a year and kinda gave up. we started insanity and after the first month i didnt get my period so i finished the videos and then just stopped soi could gain a few lbs with hopes i would get my month cycle back. well i never did! i got pregnant with twins 2 weeks after stopping insanity. my dr says i hyperovulated because my body was so confused from not having a cycle the month before.

I have been in your shoes, and it took me 3 years to get him tested...but turned out he was "superman" according to the doctor. Don't sweat it too much. For me, after 8 years of trying, I lost 20 lbs, and we quit trying. I now have a 7 month old. My body is just very sensitive to the hormone balance (it was in the normal range, but was high normal). I will tell you, the stress of "trying" does actually make it harder, but not impossible. If you can get yourself tested, that is a great start, and might get your husband on board too. (That was what finally did it for us). I have come to the conclusion that the more I tried to control the process, the less likely I was to get pregnant, but for some women it works. There are certain foods that are supposed to help. There is a great book called "Fully Fertile" that I highly recommend. It is by 3 women who struggled with conception themselves, and they have a program of yoga, diet, and mental exercises that are supposed to help out. I found the exercises so relaxing, and the diet was great, and the mental exercises also helped me out (I'm a total type A!). Any way you try, just keep thinking positive. Just my thoughts...and good luck!

My husband and I tried for 3 years before it happened. He got tested... I got tested.. everything looked good. UNTIL, they did the dye test to check my tubes and found I had a birth defect called Septate Uterus. I had surgery to 'open up' my uterus... and did FEMARA fertility drugs for 2-3 months and wah-la... We now have a 7 1/2 month old beautiful girl.

If he's not 'willing' to do whatever it takes to solve the problem... then there's something else behind it. Maybe he doesn't really WANT it?

Off the top of my head...as far as men are concerned he should be keeping his testicles "cool" as in not sitting in a hot tub etc. Hot balls= no spermies, some actually use this as a natural contraceptive. Vitamin C= good for men, not for women. Thats all I got for now, happy baby making!

Hot balls= no spermies.....haha. I am sure this is correct, not medical but there has got to be some truth to it.

can he ejaculate in a cup and you bring it to the doctors?

That's actually what our fertility clinic has the guys do. you stop and pick up the 'kit' (a cup and label)... you don't have sex for at least 2, no more than 4 days.... ejaculate in the cup and return it to the office within a certain timeframe... You don't need supply it 'there'... He wouldn't even need to SEE the doctor, really. They call with the results.

Instead of taking your husband to the doctor, how about you get yourself tested for fertility? It's not always the mans fault. Also, stress plays a great factor. How stressful is your life on a regular basis? And then adding the "omg I can't get pregnant!!" stress will just make your chances plummet. Eating healthy is always recommended. Also, have you ever considered fertility drugs?

You do realize that a SA is far less evasive than what women go through.

I am sorry you're going through this. He really does need to see a doctor if you have done all you can at home. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great read. We used it to successfully prevent pregnancy for 2 years and then after the twins were born for a bit.

ETA - What I meant to say was that I learned a lot about my body by reading that book.

Remember in the big lebowski when julienne moore holds her knees up to her chest and lays on her back after sex? Yeah, that works. Hence my son.

Old wives tail: missionary sex then hold your legs up in air or against wall pointed up in air for 10 to 15 mins to trap sperm lol. Well help them along. But I would still beg hubs to see a doctor

You don't need an old wives tale, you need your husband to go to the doctor. Clearly, you've done your part, it's time for him to step up and do his.

Before jumping to conclusions and thinking there is something medically wrong with one of you and then spending money on a doctor, please read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. If you can do things at home, without spending much money (you'll need the book and a good thermometer), seems the smart way to start. Good luck.