WWYD? (Breast Cancer/ Breast implants/ Relationships)

He may change his mind if your test turns out positive. I would do the same thing in your position.

Your husband sounds like the definition of a DB. No, seriously.

Your husband sounds like the definition of a DB. No, seriously.

No *kitten*. My SO has awesome boobs. They're effing glorious and I love them. But I love her with or without them. He's being a selfish child.

So, I married a "boob man" well a natural boobman...

Fast forward, we have a genetic gene in our family that will cause breast cancer 80% of the time. My sister and I will be checked for this gene in the coming year. I've waited so I can look into life insurance BEFORE the results.

Anyway, if positive and if my insurance covers it, I will go the safe route and do the preventative surgeries in lou of chemo and radiation, thus fighting for my life. I watched my Mom and Aunt both go through this, not fun.

I will get reconstructive surgery...(hopefully keep my nipples...sad, I know) basically implants.

I also LOVE Jamie Eason and plan on starting her plan soon, I really want to be in the best health I can as I get older, especially.

My husband just keeps reminding me he hates fake boobs and maybe I shouldn't do the preventive and just wait it out. He also says that if I looked like Jamie Eason, that would be gross and he wouldn't be attracted to me.

I'm really starting to think the fitter I get, the closer to a divorce I will be. I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't attracted to me. Its almost easier to say "Pass me a donut...."

I also wanted to add...to me boobs are boobs...I breastfed three kids and that was great, but not worth risking my life over. I have to much to do in life than worry about having "preferred" natural breasts. Seriously, life is too precious.

Your husband is a total D-bag.
Tell him I said so.

I kinda thought that too...him being a DB.

He says I worry too much about it being positive when I don't really know. I stress over the **** he's saying, especially if it is positive. I don't feel like he's supportive.

Thanks for your feedback.

and how would he feel if he had ball cancer...?

So, I married a "boob man" well a natural boobman...

Fast forward, we have a genetic gene in our family that will cause breast cancer 80% of the time. My sister and I will be checked for this gene in the coming year. I've waited so I can look into life insurance BEFORE the results.

Anyway, if positive and if my insurance covers it, I will go the safe route and do the preventative surgeries in lou of chemo and radiation, thus fighting for my life. I watched my Mom and Aunt both go through this, not fun.

I will get reconstructive surgery...(hopefully keep my nipples...sad, I know) basically implants.

I also LOVE Jamie Eason and plan on starting her plan soon, I really want to be in the best health I can as I get older, especially.

My husband just keeps reminding me he hates fake boobs and maybe I shouldn't do the preventive and just wait it out. He also says that if I looked like Jamie Eason, that would be gross and he wouldn't be attracted to me.

I'm really starting to think the fitter I get, the closer to a divorce I will be. I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't attracted to me. Its almost easier to say "Pass me a donut...."

I also wanted to add...to me boobs are boobs...I breastfed three kids and that was great, but not worth risking my life over. I have to much to do in life than worry about having "preferred" natural breasts. Seriously, life is too precious.

What a difficult thing to be going through.... My aunt had breast cancer and had a mastectamy (sp) but she was 60 years old at the time... not much there to miss anymore, and now her breasts will outlive her!

I have to agree that if your husband is truly preasuring you to risk the high probability of breast cancer (mother and aunt having it, and a specific gene triggered for it) over getting fake breasts, there is something wrong in that relationship and it has nothing to do with boobs. Maybe you need to remind him that he needs to be more of a "YOU" man and less of a boob man.

Honestly, I think if both my mom and my aunt had breast cancer I would consider the surgery even without a special gene factor. it is just a high risk probability.

Not sure how old you are but you look young, could possibly be an age thing. Young men are very immature in their thinking and still equate love with sexual attraction much of the time. (again this is only speculative as I don't know your whole situation).

at any rate, it is very important that you tell him (if you haven't already) that his comments make you feel as though he cares more about your breast than your health and only serve to make you stress out about loosing him along with your natural breast.

If that doesn't deter him, then I suggest counseling. These kinds of situations are stressfull enough on both parties concerned. It could be he doesn't know how to react. in my experience, men don't typically deal well with change or illness especially with loved ones and you are throwing both at him at once. (You should have seen my husband the other day when I fell ill, he had to call an ambulance, and we faught the whole time (probably less than 5 minutes) we were waiting for them to come, I had just gotten out of the shower and I wanted him to get me some clothes before the ambulance came and I was still naked, (I couldn't stand or move my arms, weirdest damn thing by the way) he kept yelling that he didn't know where my f-ing clothes were. made me cry even. I can laugh now because I know we were both just panicing)

Another suggestion would be to get your issurance plans in order and then get your results. In the mean time don't bring up the implants idea if you can help it until you know for sure.

All that being said.... under no cercumstances should you risk your life or your health over a pair of funbags!

Good luck!

So your DB husband would rather have a dead wife with real boobs than a live wife with fake boobs?