My mom think MFP is annoying...

I had a similar problem with my dad for a while when I first joined MFP and started losing weight. I didn't realize how much I was talking about it, but I was really excited to find something that worked and I wanted to share it. Both of my parents are overweight (really, they're at least obese by BMI) and have never successfully lost weight. They used to be thin, so I think gaining all that weight really bothers them more than my weight ever bothered me because I've always been fat. Anyway, I wanted my dad to join me on my weight loss journey. He kept saying he was going to join me, so I kept asking him to go to the gym with me- something to do and a decent way to spend some time together! But apparently not to him. I guess he really wasn't (and to be honest, he still isn't) ready to lose the weight. He'd very happily tell me that I needed to lose weight so I didn't end up like him and have to fight it all my life. But he just didn't want any part of it. He still doesn't. I learned to just stop asking and stop talking about it in front of him. Now I only tell him when I've lost weight. I don't ask him to go to the gym or join me. It's sad, because I don't want either of my parents to develop preventable health problems. My mom at least exercises occasionally. My dad most definitely does not. But ultimately it's not up to me, and I just have to learn to go it alone. I think it's better almost, to be doing this without anyone else. Because then I'm not dependent on them. It's just me. I'm learning to be accountable to myself, to get my own butt to the gym and kick my own butt when I'm there. I think it's really hard for overweight family members and friends to see someone they've always known as overweight lose that weight. It might seem like it's changing who we are as people, or it might make them feel bad or like we think we're better than them. Even though none of that's true, it still might be how they feel. I don't know if it will really help, but maybe don't talk about it as much in front of her. Or, if you're up for it, have a talk with her and let her know how much harder it is to do this when you feel like she doesn't support you. She may not even realize what she's been doing.

You know what I tell people that think it's "annoying?" I tell them that I think they're annoying for not trying to support me on the journey I am on!! Keep it up girl, you can do it, and when you do.... Ask her how annoying it is that you're so fit and healthy!! Go get em girl!! :flowerforyou:

People are always going to try to drag you down. Always. Unfortunately its your mother... none of us know why... maybe you do, or maybe you don't? Maybe it really sucks that your mom is the one doing it!
The fact that you are trying to account for everything you do... take charge of your life, and better yourself... if she has a problem with that... there is DEF something wrong. That DEF deserves to be talked about...
But ultimately ... this is your decision... your life, and your MFP... and you should be allowed to do whatever makes you feel better about yourself... regardless of what she says.
The fact that she points you out in front of people as "being fat" then mocks you for trying to fix it... shows she has some deep *kitten* issues that need to be dealt with... you have enough problems on your own, without worrying about fixing hers!
You just keep on keepin' on!

It is annoying to her because you are actively doing something to help yourself and the attention won't be on you "being fat" if you lose weight, so to push back her issues with herself she is focusing on you.

Keep doing what your doing! There will always be haters,plan and simple as that

My mom used to hide junk food from me when i was growing up, making it worse of course. Recently I had to live with her for a few mts, while my house was being moved, and I didnt dare go on a diet/healthy eating plan while I was there. Why??? Cuz she would be looking over my shoulder ever second pointing at every food item and showing me their values. Then she would tell me to work out...sooo annoying. Then she turns around and blames herself for me being fat growing up because of feeding us unhealthy meals and soda. ..UGH!!! I love my mom but I dont dare talk to her about dieting. She is not one I go to for support!!! I love MFP..this is what works for me!!!

Agreed. The less you mention that you are paying attention to your calories, the better.
If she asks if you want a 2nd helping of something, say you are full instead of "no, that will put me over on calories." Instead of saying, "i better eat a salad so I make my goal today", just say that you are craving a salad.
Good luck! Congratulations on your weight loss so far.

Hmmm. Families are funny. You might be playing the role of the "heavy girl" in your family. So your mom might just find the focus on MFP annoying, AND it might be that she doesn't want things to change.

So, I would say, do what you need to do, don't hide it, but don't call attention to it either. You probably want her to share your enthusiasm, but for some odd reason (guilt, embarrassment), your mom isn't ready to do that.

Good luck, and the great thing about MFP is that you can find people who DO share your enthusiasm. Go for it! You're doing great so far, and you'll keep going : )

^^ I agree with this person. I have the same issue with my best friend, but opposite. She wants me to stay fat with her. She is heavier than me, we started trying to lose weight together, then she started getting upset I was loosing and she wasn't. I ended up just not talking about weight loss and MFP around her, she ended up stopping completely, so now I have no exercise/diet partner. I'm still friends with her, but not as close, just made her mad this week, cause she asked me to have dinner. I told her I had Zumba class and can have dinner with her afterwards. She just got pissy and said No offense but I don't want to eat that late.

So yea I feel ya

I can relate to all of you as well. I have had similar experiences as well. I have even been "THE FAT FRIEND" who wasn't real supportive and thought..."Oh she'll give up and gain weight and be my fat friend again".....and when that didn't happen and I saw how serious my friend and my sister were and the accomplishments they made...that's what triggered me to REALLY WANT IT FOR MYSELF. I have the drive and determination now and I am well on my way to my goal...120 days+ has been a great GREAT journey so far. ....Please keep yourself first but if it bothers her just don't log in front of her.

KEEP UP THE AWESOME WORK hun!

ahhh yes! People dont think I lose weight the right way... watch what I eat and exercise. For some reason if I am not taking a magic pill, shake or diet plan, its all wrong! GRRR... I feel ya!

People who don't understand the healthy lifestyle and why you are doing what you are doing can be 'annoyed' by your devotion and focus. They just don't get it, so to them it's pointless and a waste of time. My mom used to say I was 'obsessed' with working out and logging into MFP, and I'm about to turn 39 years old and my mom lives in a different state for crying out loud! LOL She just didnt get it.

Now that I've hit my goal and am feeling so much healthier, have more energy and look great in my clothes, she is now motivated and inspired. She wants to start working out, join a gym and eat healthier. Now she gets it. Maybe yours will and maybe she won't. Just keep doing you! If she can't share in your journey, keep it to yourself and those that can relate.

Best wishes.