do u have a good support system at home?

My brother was always my harshest critic, but it did help in some weird way, he'd always challenge me, and I did lose weight when I was living at home. As soon as I moved in with my fiance and had a baby I got too "comfortable" around him and gained weight like mad. He isn't the best support, as hes always eating snacks and leaving them near me, or offering to buy me chocolate, but hes just testing my will power. I hate going outside, so I use excercise DVD's at the moment, but I cant do them when either of them is awake, because either he will talk to me, or ill be stuck looking after the baby so he can check his emails. Its hard, but it really is on you. Support is nice, but it is ultimately up to you to make the healthier decisions.

I can really identify with your post. My fiance is not exactly supportive of me losing weight. he is an ex marine who believes the human body need 20,000 cal/day or it's starvation. he is still not convinced 1200 cal isn't starving myself to the extreme. we also used to be very active, walking everywhere, just spending a lot more time outside but the situation has been kinda bad for the last 3-4 years and now when i want to walk around somewhere i either go alone or take the dog. i still refuse to run or jog or exercise in public, i'm so self-conscious that it hurts. My solution has been to get a nintendo wii and do wii fit and zumba and a bunch of work out games on there. i also hit up the $5 bin at walmart for some yoga and exercise dvds. I do pretty much everything in my house because i'm so concerned with how other people are looking at me when i exercise, even though i'm the ONLY one who is probably noticing me being a spaz. Either way it prevents me from working out as hard as i could in my living room, shades drawn and i even make my fiance promise not to watch, or he has to join in! Sometimes i think it's about doing what you can within your comfort zone until you can expand your comfort zone a little.

my mom is more critical than anything. i just ignore her for the most part.

I wish I did, but no.

My house is always stocked in the most amazing, (and worst for you,) junk food. I'm not buying it, but there it is. I've told my wife that I have no willpower, and I asked if we could just cut back on the stuff in the house. She said, "no, it's for me and the kids." Looks like I get to see just how long my willpower will hold out. :sad:

I live on my own, so from that perspective its easy to keep the junk food out of the house, but on the other hand theres no one to talk to when the cravings take hold.

My mum and sister live close by and don't seem to understand that i'm trying to moderate what i eat and are always bringing round nice tempting treats, or offering them when i go to theirs. Unfortunately my biggest problem is my will power and sometimes i struggle to say no. I'd rather not be offered anything at all.

But I rely really heavily on this website and in particularly the people on my friends list for support. I often post things on my wall, simply to get them out of my head and sometimes someone's comment can really be the kick I need to do something (or not do something!!). I really appreciate the time and effort people make to comment on my wall, so i try and do the same for them. And its similar with the forums. I spend a lot of time reading things here. It might not be a good use of time, but while I'm reading or posting, I'm not stuffing my face.

And i like posting up my foods on the diary, knowing that people can see what I've eaten, it encourages me to think about my choices and not to go too far over the calorie allowance. Same with exercise, i feel bad if i see friends all posting great workouts and i've sat on my *kitten* all day.

One of the other benefits of this site is most people are similarly dedicated to making this change in their life, whereas my family aren't that bothered.