would you date someone significantly shorter than you?
ProjectTae
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A guy that has been crushing on me for three years has finally mustered up the courage to ask me out, the only thing is he's not really my type and is significantly shorter than me. I'm 5'9 and he's about 5'4-5'6. He's really nice but I don't know if I can get over the height difference, and I feel pretty bad about it. I'm not generally picky, my only requirement is height but I have this rule that if I'm single I never turn down a date and I've been pretty good with it, (yet I've never been asked out by someone that short before) So what would you do if you were me? And if you were going to how would you 'let that person down gently'?
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It sucks being short but I found one who doesn't mind. She's got 3 inches on me
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If your only hesitation is about his height - then you should go. You might be missing out on having a great time with a lovely guy for no good reason.
In fact, why not go anyway. Treat it as a fun night out, not as a "make or break, is he Mr Perfect?" event.
You'll either enjoy his company or you won't, but unless you go, you'll never know.
By the way, I am biased - my husband is shorter than me, but that's never had any impact on our relationship.0 -
If your only hesitation is about his height - then you should go. You might be missing out on having a great time with a lovely guy for no good reason.
In fact, why not go anyway. Treat it as a fun night out, not as a "make or break, is he Mr Perfect?" event.
You'll either enjoy his company or you won't, but unless you go, you'll never know.
By the way, I am biased - my husband is shorter than me, but that's never had any impact on our relationship.
The height is the major hesitation there is one other thing... He's into Pokemon (but as long as he doesn't expect me to take up interest in this I don't mind this so much) I think you're both right I should at least give it a shot, every time we talk he seems like a nice person. Do you experience any weird looks or anything odd about dating someone shorter/taller?0 -
An interesting guy asks you out and you're hung up on 3 inches? Girl, there's only one place that a few inches make a difference.
My ex was 6 inches shorter then me and my current is 3-4 inches shorter then me. Get over the insignificant details.0 -
Nope. Personally wouldn't do it. It's a deal breaker. I'm only 5.4 but the taller the better. 6' plus is my type.
How to let him down easy... My advice is not to even mention the height or any of his shortcomings. just pick something else, be sweet and let him escape with his dignity. Lol. Maybe, I am not ready for dating right now. Or, I am too far into the 'friend zone' with you and don't want to lose you as a friend??? Anything that works for you. Good luck!0 -
An interesting guy asks you out and you're hung up on 3 inches? Girl, there's only one place that a few inches make a difference.
My ex was 6 inches shorter then me and my current is 3-4 inches shorter then me. Get over the insignificant details.
I have an extensive heel collection some of them put me at 6'3! That could be a 10' difference
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Definitely. I'd date a midget. :flowerforyou: 0
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I'm quite tall and have dated men much shorter. A good guy is a good guy no matter his height0
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Definitely. I'd date a midget. :flowerforyou:
My buddy loves midgets!!!0 -
If your only hesitation is about his height - then you should go. You might be missing out on having a great time with a lovely guy for no good reason.
In fact, why not go anyway. Treat it as a fun night out, not as a "make or break, is he Mr Perfect?" event.
You'll either enjoy his company or you won't, but unless you go, you'll never know.
By the way, I am biased - my husband is shorter than me, but that's never had any impact on our relationship.
The height is the major hesitation there is one other thing... He's into Pokemon (but as long as he doesn't expect me to take up interest in this I don't mind this so much) I think you're both right I should at least give it a shot, every time we talk he seems like a nice person. Do you experience any weird looks or anything odd about dating someone shorter/taller?
Hmmm, the Pokemon interest from a grown man would have me hesitating more than the height difference!
I can't say I've noticed any looks or heard any comments about our height difference although my husband is only about 1-2 inches shorter than me. And I'm in my mid 40's so I really don't care what anyone else thinks!
When I was single I decided that I wasn't going to get hung up on "finding Mr Right" but that I was going to take any opportunity that came along to "practice" - in other words, I would go out, have a good time, but not be full of huge expectations. That way I accepted invitations from people that I might have otherwise turned down and met some really nice guys.
I say go for it, enjoy yourself - it sounds as though the worst that could happen is that he bores you stupid talking about Pokemon. If that happens you don't have to see him again!0 -
Shorter? Sure. Significantly shorter? Uh... honestly, no. I'm barely 5'3", and while I dated a couple of guys who were within an inch of my own height and it didn't bother me, I don't think I could consider dating someone much shorter than me. It would be way too weird, and on the off chance of having children, they'd be midgets. :laugh:0
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in my case that would be a midget or a hobbit! I'm only 5'2". My husband is 5'4". I had always dated guys that were 6' or taller but the right guy for me was a short one. After 18 years of marriage I think I'l keep him!
as for your guy..the height would not bother me as much as the Pokemon! LOL0 -
yes. i'm 5 feet tall. i don't want some guy towering over me.0
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No, I'm 5' 5" and my guy has to be taller, at least by a little bit. My fiance is 3" taller than me and he makes me feel safe.0
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Definitely. I'd date a midget. :flowerforyou:
My buddy loves midgets!!!
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If your only hesitation is about his height - then you should go. You might be missing out on having a great time with a lovely guy for no good reason.
In fact, why not go anyway. Treat it as a fun night out, not as a "make or break, is he Mr Perfect?" event.
You'll either enjoy his company or you won't, but unless you go, you'll never know.
By the way, I am biased - my husband is shorter than me, but that's never had any impact on our relationship.
The height is the major hesitation there is one other thing... He's into Pokemon (but as long as he doesn't expect me to take up interest in this I don't mind this so much) I think you're both right I should at least give it a shot, every time we talk he seems like a nice person. Do you experience any weird looks or anything odd about dating someone shorter/taller?
Hmmm, the Pokemon interest from a grown man would have me hesitating more than the height difference!
I can't say I've noticed any looks or heard any comments about our height difference although my husband is only about 1-2 inches shorter than me. And I'm in my mid 40's so I really don't care what anyone else thinks!
When I was single I decided that I wasn't going to get hung up on "finding Mr Right" but that I was going to take any opportunity that came along to "practice" - in other words, I would go out, have a good time, but not be full of huge expectations. That way I accepted invitations from people that I might have otherwise turned down and met some really nice guys.
I say go for it, enjoy yourself - it sounds as though the worst that could happen is that he bores you stupid talking about Pokemon. If that happens you don't have to see him again!
lol, but I've known him for over 3 years (he might not be that easy to get rid of) And I've never really looked too deep into the Pokemon thing until now, but then again I've never really viewed him in a romantic light before?0 -
I'm five foot nothing, my husband is 5'10". My ex was 6'8". I once dated a guy who was 7'02".
It has never bothered me in the slightest.
Go on the date, you might find that you like him.
Oh, I'm a trekkie (as if the name didn't give it away already) and I'd never force my husband to watch Star Trek with me... But lately, I find that he's been watching it because he enjoys it. That's love! 0 -
I'm 5'9" and I've dated girls in higher 4'. ANy shorter and I'm pretty sure she'll be a midget.
I think for women its a big deal to have a tall guy. Not many guys emphasize on their girls height.0 -
Seems shallow to feel that way.0
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Seems shallow to feel that way.
Its shallow to have preference? I prefer girls who're under the age of 50. Makes me shallow? (And yes, I am aware Michelle Pfeiffer is over 50 sadly)0 -
Seems shallow to feel that way.
I know that's why I feel bad for even having these hesitations. On one hand I feel like a shallow ***** and I probably don't even deserve him if he truly is a really nice guy... but on the other hand I feel like I'm going out with him because I have to...0 -
Seems shallow to feel that way.
I know that's why I feel bad for even having these hesitations. On one hand I feel like a shallow ***** and I probably don't even deserve him if he truly is a really nice guy... but on the other hand I feel like I'm going out with him because I have to...
There is NOTHING wrong with having preference about certain height, certain weight or whatever certain
I know a few girls who've passed up multiple opportunities to be with very nice, decent looking and stable financially guys just to be with drug dealers and woman beaters just because its more exciting life to be with them. Those girls I call stupid. But thats besides the point I think...0 -
Seems shallow to feel that way.
I know that's why I feel bad for even having these hesitations. On one hand I feel like a shallow ***** and I probably don't even deserve him if he truly is a really nice guy... but on the other hand I feel like I'm going out with him because I have to...
There is NOTHING wrong with having preference about certain height, certain weight or whatever certain
I know a few girls who've passed up multiple opportunities to be with very nice, decent looking and stable financially guys just to be with drug dealers and woman beaters just because its more exciting life to be with them. Those girls I call stupid. But thats besides the point I think...
Thanks that makes me feel better. I'm the type of person who doesn't like to tell people no in any circumstance, In the past I've ended up in a year long relationship with someone I wasn't particularly attracted to physically or personalty wise (He dumped me for not showing enough affection). Not saying this is the same scenario, but I don't know. I've already agreed to the date so no turning back now, and who knows I might have fun... But I'm not sure I'd want to pursue the relationship even so and I feel pretty bad about that.0 -
For me, it would be a combination of factors. Personally, I prefer tall guys, especially 6' and up. I come from a family of tall people, from the two tallest ethnicities in the world, actually. I'm kind of used to being the short one, and maybe I still have some of that deep-rooted, subconscious belief that women should be the diminutive ones in the group. However, I try to remember that there may be a guy who is GREAT on so many other levels, and it would be a shame to veto even going out on a date or two with him over a few inches of height. There should always be exceptions to these kinds of "rules", especially for women who are, themselves, on the tall side. "Guys under 5' 9" is a pretty big group to rule out. Hell, I may like tall guys, but I think Peter Dinklage is kind of hot... and he's a 4' 5", achondroplastic dwarf (but an awesomely talented actor, dammit).
You're single and looking, and the poor guy has waited 3 years to muster up the nerve to ask you out... so I say, go out with him and get to know him better. You may find that he's a great match in ways that make you forget about the height difference, or you may find that he's a total bore. You won't know until you try. It's only a date, not a wedding.0 -
For me, it would be a combination of factors. Personally, I prefer tall guys, especially 6' and up. I come from a family of tall people, from the two tallest ethnicities in the world, actually. I'm kind of used to being the short one, and maybe I still have some of that deep-rooted, subconscious belief that women should be the diminutive ones in the group. However, I try to remember that there may be a guy who is GREAT on so many other levels, and it would be a shame to veto even going out on a date or two with him over a few inches of height. There should always be exceptions to these kinds of "rules", especially for women who are, themselves, on the tall side. "Guys under 5' 9" is a pretty big group to rule out. Hell, I may like tall guys, but I think Peter Dinklage is kind of hot... and he's a 4' 5", achondroplastic dwarf (but an awesomely talented actor, dammit).
You're single and looking, and the poor guy has waited 3 years to muster up the nerve to ask you out... so I say, go out with him and get to know him better. You may find that he's a great match in ways that make you forget about the height difference, or you may find that he's a total bore. You won't know until you try. It's only a date, not a wedding.
I've agreed to go out with him and you're right who knows maybe I'll have a great time. It's going to be a little sad putting my babies to rest (my heels I'm not that confident!)0 -
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If he's been crushing for 3 years then he must really really like you and deserves a chance, it's not his fault he's short.0
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Yes i would You can make a friend out of your date if you don't have a chemistry You fall for a personality, not for a body0
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Guys date girls who are shorter than them all the time! I don't see the issue, height makes no difference to anything important.
Give your feet a break and wear some flats on your date, keep an open mind, and enjoy yourself!0 -
Nah I don't mind.0
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