Stupid man who doesn't know what he's talking about/rant

...Message me if you want any tips! I'll make a special plan for you and you will see results. Srsly thou...stay away from the big boy weights. Trust me. Cardio is the only way to melt fat. Lifting will just add muscle to fat and you will just get bigger."

I agree with Hendrix's comment. This dude is either a troll or has communication issues, especially where women are concerned. "Big boy weights..." Honestly now. The only thing missing here is us use of the phrase "Lil lady", the jingle of his boot spurs, his tipping his cowboy hat, spitting in the spittoon, and then riding away into the sunset. This isn't the midwestern US in 1880. It's 2012.

Any background on this guy? Is he a personal trainer who thinks he has an easy target to hit for some extra money? "I'll make a special plan for you..." either suggests that this guy thinks he has some knowledge or certification or is probably one of the worst pickup lines I think I've ever heard. And if it IS a pick-up line, well now we know why he's single.

Keep doing what you're doing and let this jerkosaurus rex make a special plan for someone else.

You won't bulk up I lift as heavy as I can and it has changed my body to be smaller and to fit smaller clothes at a higher weight than before.

I had a moment like that this weekend.

My husband and I were at my In-laws house and my husband was bragging about how nice my arms were getting and how he had better start working out with weights too, so he could keep up.

(He was just trying to be super sweet and supportive, love that guy)

My FIL was like "You work out with weights?!" and made a disgusted face. I said yes, and that I was just starting so they weren't very heavy. Then he asked how heavy, and I gave some examples.

He gave a shocked face and said "NO, no, no, no stop doing that! Use 2 pound weights, if you insist on doing that, only use 2 pounds. For a woman, that's all you need. 2 pounds "tone", those type of weights make you bulky."

I tried to blow it off and laughed and said "Oh, now, I can't do anything with a 2 lb weight! You know that!" and I moved on.


He also overheard me telling my husband and MIL that my Zumba instructor is also a personal trainer and I'd love to be able to afford to train with her, and was commenting on how defined her back was and how I'd love to look like that...

He interjected from across the room "No you don't! Yuck! You don't want to look like a man! You want to look like a woman!"

I wanted to throw his skinny narrow minded behind across the room! There's no reasoning with some people.

Tell him simply that you would disagree with him if science, basic biology and human physiology had not already done so.

I honestly wouldn't even respond to that a$$hat. It would just be an open invite for him to bother you more.

Moron.

Yup. I can definitely see how you're starting to look like a bodybuilder.

Oh wait. No I can't. LMAO. Some people are just so clueless.

LOL!!!!! now that's funny!

well he's kinda right... muscle + fat will make you look bulky. but if youre burning fat at the same time i dont see the issue

HATERS TO THE LEFT!!!

I think the fella doth protest too much. He is probably insecure about himself and felt the need to put you down. You look great and lifting heavy is obviously working for you. Do what you think its right for you and ignore people like him!

Miss Tattoo,
I think you have taken this the wrong way. You say that you have calmed down some so go back and reread it with this on your mind: here is a guy that is just trying to make a suggestion to you and how you can see results the fastest. I believe in what he says about heavy weights. What you want to do is lose weight, tone up, and look smashing, am I right? Walking and other aerobic excercises are going to take the weight off and build up your cardio. A suggestion I have for you is to do what makes you happy and feel good about yourself. I have also found that drinking plenty of water seems to help your skin have elasticity and not just sag when you lose a lot of weight. I hope this helps. Good luck!

I think he wants to play with your girl parts

^This

You can't argue with success. If its working for you, keep on your program. The thing about body building, weight loss, and fitness is that "one size" does not fit all. People have different metabolisms and genetics and individual results will vary. I would say consider the source and ignore the remark.

I didn't go through all the comments, but here I go...

I once had a "semi-personal" trainer. And I had to agree that to lose weight, cardio is the way to go. My plan was, exemple, 1 hour of cardio and a few toning exercise with weights. What he said was: You want to lose the fat before forging muscles, but you can tone them meanwhile.
Also, to get muscular, you will need a bigger absorption of proteins to nourish your muscles and carbs as well... which you don't want to much to lose weight.
Also, don't forget, muscles weights a lot.... you might not see major changes on the scale if you to weights a lot....

You look great! Ignore the ignorant.

What an idiot.
Here is my pet peeve with the "will bulk a woman up" mentality. As you gain muscle you will see the changes and at some point you may say"Hey, I'm where I want to be." You will NOT wake up one day and see yourself and scream "I have 20 inch guns and traps to my ears!!!"
Building muscle takes work and time....