Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls!!

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  • FrugalMomsRock75
    FrugalMomsRock75 Posts: 698 Member
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    I only want to say that in fact, it could have been a "snack" that caused it (if his body makes any insulin at all, or if his body hyper-reacts to it). I get hypoglycemic, and sometimes it's because I've had TOO MUCH sugar. I am hypersensitive to my own insulin, so I peak and then PLUMMET. It just happened to me last Saturday-I ate three marshmallows and a fun pack of skittles, and about an hour later, I was shaky and weak. Tested my sugar, and I was plummeting. It was down to 72 and about ten minutes later, it was 66. I drank a protein shake with fruit in it, and I started to balance out soon, but it feels horrible when it plummets.

    It's unfortunate that it happened to your son to a degree that he ended up in the hospital, but it doesn't sound like your FIL/BIL were being totally unreasonable either (except that they haven't taken any time with him, in general). You have to teach someone (child or adult alike) with diabetes that they need to read labels and be careful what they eat; someone with hypoglycemic tendencies needs to do the same. :)

    Glad he's okay!
  • kristalfrissy
    kristalfrissy Posts: 158 Member
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    My husband also has hypoglycemic episodes so I understand where you are coming from.and of course alot of people with type 2 still make insulin But my son has Type 1 and he makes no insulin at all. he did in his "honeymoon" phase right after diagnoses--but he is 3 months shy of being into this 5 years now so he doesn't make any now. so a snack in his case would have prevented this.

    And of course as he gets older he will learn more and more about taking care of himself--but he is only 9 with Aspergers Syndrome and ADHD on top so we take it one day at a time. He knows way way more than most of our family tho.

    Good luck with your situation tho.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
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    "Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls!!"

    Yeah! I know what you mean! Sometimes I just wanna kick someone in the ovaries!
  • kristalfrissy
    kristalfrissy Posts: 158 Member
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    "Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls!!"

    Yeah! I know what you mean! Sometimes I just wanna kick someone in the ovaries!

    That might be kinda hard...but go for it. And by the way...hearing that doesn't make me say omg! I think its kinda funny but i.guess not everybody feels that way. Might me more effective to punch someone in the.boob.
  • kristalfrissy
    kristalfrissy Posts: 158 Member
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    Looks like I forgot to mention this happened at 7 in the morning when he was still asleep so no snacking going on...unfortunately
  • chachita7
    chachita7 Posts: 996 Member
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    The least educated are always the ones who think they know the most... I am glad your son is ok...
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
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    ignorance is bliss. I have the same thing with my wife's family, sometimes just better to ignore them.
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
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    I feel ya.

    My youngest has a speech delay, and his paternal grandfather scoffs at the idea that he has a speech therapist and says "he don't need that, he'll talk when he's ready" as if this pot-smokin &$)@#$*$ knows jack about any of my kids because he never bothers to spend time with them, at all. He only knows what my ex chooses to tell him, which isn't much. It's frustrating, but I have the fortune of not having to interact with these people at all.
  • stablesong
    stablesong Posts: 224
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    Right....because kids never do things they're not supposed too......
    Did you miss the part where she said that her son having a snack would have prevented it??

    I'm sorry this happened to you and your family! Hopefully your relatives will take this scary experience as an opportunity to educate themselves about your son's health problems and disability. I hope he gets/stays well!
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
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    First I'm glad your son is ok. Second I feel you. My family tends to start talking about stuff they know NOTHING about as if they were an authority on the subject. It makes me so mad. And seriously while it would be great if your son could handle checking food labels and what not I don't think is reasonable or wise to expect a 9 year old to be that responsible for their diet! Its great that they care but sometimes you just wanna smack people and say "think THEN open mouth and say words"
  • GeorgieLove708
    GeorgieLove708 Posts: 442 Member
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    I completely understand how you feel. It's not the same situation, or at least, not as severe as yours... My son has a bad case of lactose intolerance (doc and specialist say possible casein allergy, even though the tests came back negative) and everyone in my family and my husband's family has known for over a year and neither side will make any effort to learn anything about it. My family just asks repeatedly if he can have certain things, which is good, as opposed to giving him something that will make him sick. But would it be so hard just to learn what he can and can't have? Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick. Ranging anywhere from diarrhea for 1-2 days to diarrhea and vomiting for 4 weeks depending on how much he got. We've tried multiple times to get them to stop and have gotten to the point where we don't let him go over there unless we absolutely need him to (i.e. our apartment was painted, needed to keep him out until fumes aired out). Family are supposed to be the ones you can count on, not the ones making everything harder.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
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    Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick.

    Once is a mistake, twice is unexcused. No more feedings at grandma and grandpa's house. Unless you supply the food and they actually use it.
  • SheTrucker
    SheTrucker Posts: 35 Member
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    I am so sorry for you and your son, I know that type of situation is scarey. My 19 year old brother has been type 1 diabetic since 1 year old, and it seems that if he's going to have a seizure it will most likely be in the wee morning hours too, and the blood sugar has never been consistant when it happens it just seems like sometimes his body is more sensitive and if its gonna happen its just gonna happen. It took a long time to learn about this disease and get used to poking a little boy's finger or watching him cry while you're forced to give him multiple shots in a day, and tell him no when he asks for candy or other fun things young kids have. I also know how it feels to have other people speak mindlessly about the disease, or treat it like no big deal. It seems like people think that diabetes is only making sure your blood sugar is up and eating candy when you feel low, not realizing that you can get too high and have just as big a problem. There has been several occasions where I've had to come out swinging for my brother because our Grandpa thinks he can have anything he wants as long as sugar isn't on the list of ingredients. Its hard enough to control and teach the patient, let alone everyone else that knows more than you that seems to sabotage your efforts. I hope for nothing but the best for you and your family, and keep up the great work :) Mothers of children with any kind of disease or disability are truly angels! I know mine is!
  • GeorgieLove708
    GeorgieLove708 Posts: 442 Member
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    Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick.

    Once is a mistake, twice is unexcused. No more feedings at grandma and grandpa's house. Unless you supply the food and they actually use it.

    I agree. As I said, he only goes over there if we absolutely need him to, but I'm not in control of all situations so there are, unfortunately, times when he needs to go over there. Only twice since the beginning of the year, but still. And I do provide alternatives, my MIL is just that much of a &*#$%. And everyone considers me the bad guy here for keeping him away (he still visits, just not overnight) because she has leukemia.
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member
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    Finally, I have to ask... why do women who are angry assume it's okay to say things like "Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls" or "almost left my house without all their parts"? If a man made gender-specific threats of sexual injury or mutilation, he would be universally condemned... yet women get away with it all the time...

    I have to agree with this. I'd expect a totally different reaction if this thread was titled 'sometimes, you just wanna punch someone in the tits/vagina'.

    Not a dig against you, OP, just an observation...
  • sarinaturner
    sarinaturner Posts: 9 Member
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    It's applicable and it will make you laugh.

    On a more serious note, I'm very sorry this happened to your son.

    Sometimes people mean well, they just don't know how to express it. Their heart may be in the right place, but their foot ends up in their mouth.
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
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    Personal opinion here, but to the people saying that at least these people cared enough to show up.....I completely disagree. Showing up doesn't show they care at all. Taking time to learn and make any effort whatsoever to be a positive part of the kid's life would show they cared. Showing up doesn't prove anything at all.

    Sounds to me at least like the kid has some caring parents and I wish you all the best.
  • rachey_v
    rachey_v Posts: 127 Member
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    I'm sooo glad that your little boy is okay now!! I am a carer for my husband who has several health conditions which really affect his life. One being ME/CFS, it's an "invisible illness".. I've had his family say things like, well if he gets out of bed sooner he wouldn't feel so bad... REALLLLLY????

    There is nothing scarier than seeing a loved one being that ill and feeling helpless against it, your in-laws obviously care to come round, but definitely need to take the time to get educated, I found a really good video online and sent it to all my hubby's family so they could see what he was really dealing with on a daily basis. It seemed to help better than my constant explaining did!

    I hope you manage to get to a point where you feel secure in them looking after your son, especially as we all could do with a break sometimes.. Feel free to add me as a friend for support and big hugs for you and your boy!
  • kristalfrissy
    kristalfrissy Posts: 158 Member
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    Thanks for all the comments about my son. He's doing great. We took him fishing this morning and he caught 2 catfish and a black bass so he's had a good day. Pretty funny when my husband fell in too! Lol.
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
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    <---- See profile pic
    It's applicable and it will make you laugh.

    On a more serious note, I'm very sorry this happened to your son.

    Sometimes people mean well, they just don't know how to express it. Their heart may be in the right place, but their foot ends up in their mouth.


    Every day I feel like I'm one dumbass away from completely losing it!

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