What is wrong with me?!?

What does he have to say about it?

Has your attitude changed toward him, since you've slimmed down?

Ask him... he is the only one who has this answer. If he doesn't have the answer you are looking for, well then you got 'your answer' didn't you? Hope it all works out! :flowerforyou:

To be completely honest a lot of guys like big woman. You might think that being fat is unattractive but there are some guys that LOVE big thick girls. Some men don't admit that because most people love sexy slim woman, but maybe he was attracted to your curves and meat you had on before. You should ask him to be honest with you.

my husband has a small part of him that doesnt want me to lose weight. hes happy i'm happy, and he supports what i'm doing, but he fell in love with me at this size, he married me at this size and i think its a slap in the face to a degree that i'm wanting to change.

some of that is if i get slimmed down that i might not love him any more, so i make sure to give lots of kisses, sex and cuddles to let him know hes my man, and i'm here for the long haul. hes come to grips with it, but there will always be that small part that wishes i was still big.

i say go to your guy, tell him you're here for the long haul and you love him very much. that is if you actually feel that way.

I dont feel like I have changed, he doesn't care about weight or anything, he gets mad if I even try to talk to him about working out or anythin that has anything to do with diet and exercise. Anytime I try and talk to him about it or ask him why he has been acting so strange he sayd "im tired" or "its hot" so I dont know what else to do, anytime someone comments on how well I look he says oh god dont get her ego up, its almost like hes mad because I am getting positive attention. But shouldn't he be happy for me and proud?? I would if the tables were turned. I dont know maybe I am just being a baby.

Is it possible that he feel threatened that you will get fit and leave him for someone else? Just a thought

he could be feeling insecure, in that as you become fitter, thinner & more attractive to other men he could lose you. Hard to sit down and have a conversation with someone who is shutting down like that but just keep trying.

I dont feel like I have changed, he doesn't care about weight or anything, he gets mad if I even try to talk to him about working out or anythin that has anything to do with diet and exercise. Anytime I try and talk to him about it or ask him why he has been acting so strange he sayd "im tired" or "its hot" so I dont know what else to do, anytime someone comments on how well I look he says oh god dont get her ego up, its almost like hes mad because I am getting positive attention. But shouldn't he be happy for me and proud?? I would if the tables were turned. I dont know maybe I am just being a baby.

Wow, that sounds completely out of order. If my BF said something like that about me, that would absolutely be the end of him. You want someone who loves and respects you no matter what you look like.

Well when my husband realized that I was really serious about losing weight, he said "You're not trying to lose weight so that you can leave me for another guy are you?"...... LOL. so, maybe your boyfriend is thinking like that?You never know . I do think you should talk to him about it though!

Sometimes, when one person in a relationship loses weight, the other one starts feeling insecure. They wonder if you think they're less attractive because they haven't done what you've done. They're scared of the extra attention you're going to be getting and if anyone "better" will come along.
Try to imagine if the shoe were on the other foot and it was him who had either lost weight, gotten really into fitness, or if he started going to the gym and got an incredibly hot bod.... you'd likely wonder if he still found you as attractive as he used to. You'd worry that you'd have to change to keep him.

Try giving him a little bit extra in terms of saying how much you appreciate him, love him, find him sexy, etc.

Maybe he's worried you will find someone new once since you are becoming a "new you"??? You need to ask him directly & let him know that not answering your question is only going to hurt the relationship.

Honey, he is a meanie. He tells you you are retarded? Dont get her ego up? I would smack my boyfriend right in his mouth if he talked to me that way.

You deserve better! you are gorgeous and you should be proud of yourself, and more important to the thread your boyfriend should be proud of you too. Its hard for any of us to know whats going on because we dont know you two, but I suspect more is going on here then it seems. like other people said, he may be insecure. Like the ego comment though, it sounds like he wants you to feel badly about yourself, and thats pure BS.

I don't agree he should be 'excited' for you exactly, but he's being very negative towards you. You say you've asked him and all he replies with is "I'm tired/it's hot" to me this means "I can't say because you'll think I'm a prize prick".

Sorry you're going through this, he's being very unfair.

I dont feel like I have changed, he doesn't care about weight or anything, he gets mad if I even try to talk to him about working out or anythin that has anything to do with diet and exercise. Anytime I try and talk to him about it or ask him why he has been acting so strange he sayd "im tired" or "its hot" so I dont know what else to do, anytime someone comments on how well I look he says oh god dont get her ego up, its almost like hes mad because I am getting positive attention. But shouldn't he be happy for me and proud?? I would if the tables were turned. I dont know maybe I am just being a baby.

Is it possible that he feel threatened that you will get fit and leave him for someone else? Just a thought

My thoughts exactly, I have a few friends that were in ur exact situation and it all boiled down to..getting outside attention, and thoughts of "well maybe your doing this cause your in the market to go elsewhere!" You two need to get on the same page with whats going on in both ur heads, and if he doesn't want to talk then try and just let it go..maybe if you don't react he'll finally get up the gut to tell u what he's really thinking. You have accomplished something..there should be happiness behind that!

Why are you questioning your SELF image? Stop beating yourself down. Every man is different and likes different aspects of women. RISE up in confidence of who you are, your achievements for being healthier. If his insecurities are too much, then that his issue, not yours.