At my wits end, Please help me!
DinahKyle
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I know that I was told not to pay attention to the scale during two things, 1) muscle building and 2) my period. Yet I just can't wait that long to step back on, but when I do and I see the numbers higher than I wanted them to be, I just can't help but feel like a failure. I hate that I see the inches going down, but since I don't see the numbers going down I feel like ****. I hate mu body, when will all of this be over? When will I finally be able to look into the mirror and like what I see?
I have my first appointment with a nutritionist on Monday. This week cannot go by fast enough. I need to know how to drop more weight, and fast! I know that I will be happier once the weight is gone, I just don't know how much weight needs to go. I look at myself and see the chubby high-schooler with no life and no self-confidence.
I just want this to be over with already! I'm eating low calorie (1340 I believe), I'm exercising an average of two hours a day (EVERY DAY!) - I just don't know what else I can do!
Please, help me! How can I drop the weight (even during my T.O.M)?
I have my first appointment with a nutritionist on Monday. This week cannot go by fast enough. I need to know how to drop more weight, and fast! I know that I will be happier once the weight is gone, I just don't know how much weight needs to go. I look at myself and see the chubby high-schooler with no life and no self-confidence.
I just want this to be over with already! I'm eating low calorie (1340 I believe), I'm exercising an average of two hours a day (EVERY DAY!) - I just don't know what else I can do!
Please, help me! How can I drop the weight (even during my T.O.M)?
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Bump! Please help!0
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You are not eating enough for that much exercise.0
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Bump! Please help!
The help you need has nothing to do with your weight and everything to do with your panic over your weight. You didn't put the weight on overnight, it's not coming off overnight.0 -
If you "can't resist" the scale, throw it out! Don't let it's numbers rule your thoughts.
Just from what I've been learning, and not from personal experience, I'd say maybe you need to increase your calories.0 -
I just want this to be over with already! I'm eating low calorie (1340 I believe), I'm exercising an average of two hours a day (EVERY DAY!) - I just don't know what else I can do!
Please, help me! How can I drop the weight (even during my T.O.M)?
Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way. Any advice that you receive to drop it fast isn't going to help you keep it off. Slow and steady generally results in maintainable. Calm down, breathe, relax......and throw the darn scale away for a while.0 -
Someone once asked me - what's more important, the number on the scale or how your body looks? When I was asked that everything changed for me...I realized that I would be freaking HAPPY if I weighed 200 pounds, but was a size 2. That was enough to get me away from the scale forever and just concentrate on dropping inches. If you think about it, no one will ever no how much you weigh, but they will SEE how small you are ;0) Good luck and stay positive - you're awesome :0)0
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you need to eat more for one, and then pick a day and time that you plan to weigh yourself every week. Currently I'm working a system that gives me a bout a 1 pound deficit every week and if I weight myself throughout the week, it's anywhere from even to +3 pounds, but every monday morning after basketball i've been down every week. Consistent weigh in time and conditions are crucial, especially since you're at that 33 pound mark and getting close to the tough time. You have to remember that we get to a point where it might only be .6 or .8 for a particular week and it may not even show up on the scale based on whether you just drank a glass of water or not0
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You are not eating enough for that much exercise.0
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You are not eating enough for that much exercise.
It sounds dumb, but I'm a stats kind of guy and tracked everything for the last 6 months in excel and I can see wherever my net calories gets too low, the weight loss stops0 -
I hate mu body, when will all of this be over? When will I finally be able to look into the mirror and like what I see?
Do not hate your body. Respect all that it does for you. When you take care of it (instead of punishing it), you'll begin to love it again. I've spent almost 20 years hating my body and it's never helped me to lose weight and keep it off. You have the power to choose whether you will treat it kindly or harshly....it will respond accordingly.
The only way for YOU to like what you see in the mirror is to like what YOU see inside of yourself. Trust me...losing weight is only a short-term boost to self-confidence. The secret is to love yourself unconditionally and the secondary effects (weight loss, happier demeanor, confidence) will follow.
You are so young....Please don't hate on yourself!0 -
Also, I remember reading one of the newbie threads about eating back your excersize calories is important? Maybe look into that?0
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Get yourself a tape measure and use it. The scale is only one indication of size.0
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Although I can relate to that frantic, impatient feeling, you need to stop and realize something:
According to your profile, you've dropped 40lbs and are 12lbs away from your UGW. The pounds are coming off, and if you can't see that, can I recommend looking at your Before and After photos again? I can see the change and I don't even know you.
Oh and BTW, stressing about weight loss will keep the weight from coming off. Stop worrying about it and enjoy the body you've worked this hard for.0 -
I looked at your diary over the past week and you are consistently low in protein. You need the protein especially when exercising like you do. Also, your nutritionist will probably limit fruit to two a day. You're great with fresh veggies! I saw two bananas in one day which is a lot of sugar; yes it natural sugar but still high in sugar.
I know there will be a lot of disagreements with this, but when I was drinking 10+ glasses of water daily (especially with a high consumption of sodium) I tended to gain water weight. Very frustrating considering a low calorie count overall and exercise.
Good luck to you! Keep going - you're almost there :happy:
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I need to know how to drop more weight, and fast! I know that I will be happier once the weight is gone, I just don't know how much weight needs to go. I look at myself and see the chubby high-schooler with no life and no self-confidence.
This part of your post is what concerns me most as the odds are quite good that even when you get to that magic number, fast or not, you're still going to see that chubby high-schooler.
Losing weight will not fix your internal view.0 -
Don't Panic!!!!! As someone else said, you did not gain this weight overnight and you will not lose it overnight. From the sounds of it you are not eating enough, if you workout that much you are not eating enough and giving your body the fuel it needs. This was very hard for me to overcome when I first started cause my thinking was " Well I need to workout and eat less" I was proven wrong!! Have you ever seen that picture that has a picture of Marilyn Monroe with a little chub on her and a very underweight model with her bones visible? The picture asks " Which one looks better" of course it is the chub. You need to stay away from the scales cause muscle weighs more than fat and the scale can't tell you that, it will just discourage you! You can do it keep it up!!0
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Thanks everyone who responded. I know that they weight didn't go on overnight, and I know that this is definitely a self issue more than a weight issue. I have been referred to a dietician by my doctor and he is going to help me go about this in a better way. Thank you all for your thoughts and input. I will try to up my calories, I just worry that they counter isn't accurate and that I am not burning that many, so if I eat more I will just gain or remain the same.0
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You have to avoid the scale during TOM because you will see different numbers due to all the factors that comes from that TOM so waiting until it goes away then get on or you will be cheating yourself of your true results!0
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Please stop hating your body, it's the only one you are going to get so treat it right and stop putting it under so much pressure. If you don't like your body, guess what? No refunds.
The problem is not in what you are doing, it's how you are thinking. You have a skewed perception of how you look. You will lose weight and get down to a ridiculous size and still see a chunkster in the mirror. I know because sometimes I feel that way. Some mornings I wake up and feel like I did before the weight loss and even see myself that way in the mirror.
Good luck with the nutritionist but you may need to see more doctors than that.0 -
IMO, self-esteem and confidence come from within. Perhaps you should work on changing your perspective. Losing weight doesn't necessarily make people love themselves or their bodies. Best of luck to you on your journey.0
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Please stop hating your body, it's the only one you are going to get so treat it right and stop putting it under so much pressure. If you don't like your body, guess what? No refunds.
The problem is not in what you are doing, it's how you are thinking. You have a skewed perception of how you look. You will lose weight and get down to a ridiculous size and still see a chunkster in the mirror. I know because sometimes I feel that way. Some mornings I wake up and feel like I did before the weight loss and even see myself that way in the mirror.
Good luck with the nutritionist but you may need to see more doctors than that.
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It sounds like you might need to talk to a counselor in addition to a nutritionist. No matter what your weight, this type of obsession with rapid weight loss coupled with an admittedly poor attitude toward your own body is not good. The stress alone can inhibit your weight loss.0
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Tom is coming to see me soon also, and although I've not given in to any cravings, and am losing, the cravings are becoming more persistent! The weight will come off after TOM, if not during... if you remain on track. I hate Tom... always sabotaging my good attitude and efforts. :grumble:0
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I I need to know how to drop more weight, and fast! I know that I will be happier once the weight is gone, I just don't know how much weight needs to go. I look at myself and see the chubby high-schooler with no life and no self-confidence.
How can I drop the weight (even during my T.O.M)?
Two things:
1. Drop weight even during ToM: If you are losing, you are losing. Don't let the water weight and other hormone fluctuations deceive you. Compare numbers over the long haul, not daily. It won't work. It will just make you crazy.
2. The part where you say, "I will be happier once the weight is gone" makes me worried. No doubt, I feel better and happier having lost a few pounds, BUT I don't feel that the pounds defined me or my happiness. Mostly, I'm proud of having bigger, stronger muscles because I feel strong and fit. If you look at it as weight = happiness, you will probably never be happy. I've gone past my first and second goal weights, but I still see little places that I want more toned. If my happiness depended on that, I'd be manic. That is probably one way people end up with body image issues or eating disorders.0 -
First of all - PUT THE SCALE AWAY!!!
The number on the scale is not the end-all, be-all for fitness. At the end of the day, it's JUST a number. Focus on how your clothes fit and how you look in the mirror. That's way more important than the scale!
Secondly, I agree you are not eating enough calories. After exercise, you should be netting NO LESS than 1,200 calories as a woman, and ideally more like 1,400. You are also really low in protein and higher in carbs. Protein is your body's number one fuel source so you definitely need to up your protein. I've heard 1 gram of protein per lb of body weight - this has worked well for me. I've also noticed when I taper my carbs to where I don't have any carbs after lunch, I lose weight faster. Definitely no carbs post workout - your body uses carbs for energy and after your workout you don't need that energy anymore! Protein and healthy fats after workout are great!0 -
my suggestion would be to eat way more protein and way less carbs.0
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my suggestion would be to eat way more protein and way less carbs.
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I mean this in the kindest possible way, but a lot of the problem is in your head. I don't mean that you don't need to lose weight. Maybe you do - it's hard to tell from your picture and it's not for me to judge anyway. However, it doesn't sound like you're going to be happy even when you get there, wherever "there" is. It's not unusual to have a slightly distorted view of your body after losing a significant amount of weight. It's hard to look at yourself in the mirror and not see the old you, and it takes a while for your brain to catch up.
This panic though, and saying you hate your body and that you just see the "chubby high-schooler with no life" - this is not stuff that's just going to magically disappear once you hit a certain weight or size. Getting rid of excess weight can definitely help with self-confidence but self-esteem runs a lot deeper than what's on the outside. It sounds like you're depending on the perfect body to finally feel ok about yourself. You need to do what you can to work on your self-esteem regardless of weight, whether you can do that on your own, or whether you need to get some help from a counsellor or someone. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a healthy weight, or wanting to feel good in certain clothes, fit into a smaller size etc. When it feels like you're pinning your entire happiness on it, and it needs to happen right now, then it becomes more of a problem, and one that's not going to be solved by a dietician.0 -
You're obviously in it for the wrong reasons. It's never going to be 'done' or 'over'. It's a lifestyle that you'll have to maintain, which is why it's important to develop eating habits and exercise habits that are MAINTAINABLE. or else you're going to be dieting off and on your whole life. Not sure why more people don't get it even though they've been on that roller coaster for way too long.0
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Bump! Please help!
The help you need has nothing to do with your weight and everything to do with your panic over your weight. You didn't put the weight on overnight, it's not coming off overnight.
True dat! We need a 12step program for scale addicts around here. LOL0
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