Had a breakdown today...

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Alexstrasza
Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
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I've been feeling so overwhelmed and burnout lately. All the calorie counting and the worrying, trying to fit in excercise and then just trying to get the motivation to go. My kids have been stressing me out which makes me want to just shut down and not do anything.

I started getting scared, and worried. I feel like I'm going to fail. I think that if I just quit then there is no chance to fail after trying so hard.
I'm afraid of disappointing my husband. We started this journey together and he's been giving it 110%.

I just need some motivation and encouragement I guess.
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  • janrarey
    janrarey Posts: 10
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    One day at a time. Today was a bad one, doesn't mean that tomorrow will be bad as well. Exercise always helps with the stress, and i know I always feel better after exercising. I have quit smoking and started taking anti-depressents so both of those things are suppose to add weight. I am determined to get through the next 3 months without gaining weight. Whatever goal you set for yourself I am certain you can do it, you already have the hardest job, being a parent. Weight loss is much easier than that.
  • wholenewme03
    wholenewme03 Posts: 95 Member
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    I really think it's OK and normal to feel like that every once in a while. We always hear about being healthy having its good days and bad days, good weeks and bad weeks, two steps forward and one step back. You're in a little rut and you're probably just overanalyzing it. You can still take a few days and eat healthy without spending hours at the gym, or maybe take your children out for a bike ride or just to run around for a while. (It sounds like) you have a very supportive family. Don't let the past few days get you down! Reenergize and you'll get back in the swing of things :)
  • BackTatJIM
    BackTatJIM Posts: 1,140 Member
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    Mind, body, and health are all interconnected. Stay positive and you will conquer your weight loss goals and everything else in life. If you think negative, negative things will come your way. You will get over your bad day and move on. Take a deep breath don't stress the calorie counting so much and enjoy your life. You will do just find, just try your best to keep a good attitude! Best wishes on your lifestyle change!
  • imlik
    imlik Posts: 64 Member
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    20 pounds is amazing, and you should be proud you've lost that much :)

    Maybe it's the micromanaging that's making you nuts. Perhaps you could go a few days or a week without actually logging; just eat healthy foods (you've already learned healthy vs unhealthy) in healthy portions (which you've already learned my weighing and measuring) but just don't worry about logging it. Maybe log one thing a day, so you can keep up your streak. And exercise, but don't worry about logging that, either. Eat less, move more, right?

    Trying to lose weight with a family and added stress can be, well, stressful. Don't give up, though... you'll find your rhythm, and it'll become sustainable, and it'll get easier.
  • DianeG213
    DianeG213 Posts: 253
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    Hang in there. One day at a time. You can do this. :flowerforyou:
  • Alexstrasza
    Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
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    Thank you everyone. I really needed to hear that today. I'm trying my best and I know I should be proud to have lose 20 lbs. I've never lost weight like that before.

    I can do this, I just have to.
  • verptwerp
    verptwerp Posts: 3,659 Member
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    As I've read on these threads a million times ......

    WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING UP, REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED !

    :heart:
  • MrsSexton2013
    MrsSexton2013 Posts: 98 Member
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    We all have those days. All we can do is pick up and move on to the next day.. HUGS! Today sucks, tomorrow will be better!
  • toysbigkid
    toysbigkid Posts: 545 Member
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    don't quit, that's something you would say to your child or a friend if they talked like that. You can do this, go to bed tonight, tomorrow wake up with a smile and head into the day, ease up a bit if you need to (on anything your doing) drink a cup of tea here and there (take more breaks) and look in the mirror, smile and say "I can do this no problem, move over hubby here I come" 120% ....Good luck!!!
  • MFPBrandy
    MFPBrandy Posts: 564 Member
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    Dude. I baked & ate 1600+ calories worth of pecan shortbread last Sunday. Total crash & burn! It happens; don't beat yourself up.

    I will ask, though, how are your breakfasts? I had such a hard time getting the oomph to eat well & exercise, until I started doing my am protein shakes. I suddenly had so much more energy, it was SO much easier to talk myself into hopping on the elliptical (or whatever).
  • amanda_au2012
    amanda_au2012 Posts: 11
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    Be proud of yourself that you lost 20 lbs! Congratulations! And if you had a bad day today, try not to stress too much! Just remember one day at a time!!!
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
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    Hey, a setback every so often happens to the best of us. Don't let it get you down. Tomorrow you can start fresh.
  • cbbarge
    cbbarge Posts: 250 Member
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    On this journey you don't have to be perfect. You just have to be better than you were. Ease up on yourself, make the good choices that you know you should make and you will succeed!!
  • Michellemtjpjt
    Michellemtjpjt Posts: 105
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    I agree with everyone one day at a time, I am so stress that my chest hurt. Personal reasons and also no motivation at home. This site have been my motivation to get healthy. But take it one day at a time. Also stressing your self will stop the weight lost :) keep smiling :)
  • vllamas08
    vllamas08 Posts: 20 Member
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    We all will have bad days. I used to do WW and they would always say "don't beat yourself up" . Meaning when we have a bad day (making bad food choices or not exercising) that doesn't mean we have to quit. This weight loss journey is not an all or nothing situation. We all are human and we will be knocked down (even if we're the ones who knock ourselves down) we can CHOOSE to get on track again. You showed great strength by recognizing your weakness and reaching out for help. You can do this!:smile:
  • ksun10
    ksun10 Posts: 76
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    Stick with it girl. You've already lost 20 pounds!!! I'm sure you feel different- healthier, happier, more energy- than you did before you started. Find an anchor you can hold onto when the going gets tough.
  • lainey486
    lainey486 Posts: 10
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    It is not about fitting in. You are exercising for you, maybe so you have more energy for your kids, or more energy to be intimate with your husband. But it is for you. No one truly fits in anyway, even the prettiest girl walking down the street feels like an oddball. You will succeed at your pace, at a rate your body can handle. So what if it takes you longer? You are doing it, which is better than the millions of people still sitting on their sofa eating potato chips. Losing weight isn't a one time thing, it is a lifetime commitment. once you reach your goal weight, then you have to maintain it, so don't lose weight because you want to lose weight, lose weight because you want to do something good for your body for the rest of your life. In that sense, reaching your goal becomes so much less the focus, which means you wont be nearly as discouraged. You have the rest of your life to lose weight, and sometimes you will gain, and sometimes you will lose, but what really matters is you are giving your body something it needs. The workout and the healthy eating is just as important to your body as getting a locked door, classical music, a glass of wine and a bubble bath is important for your sanity.
  • tcheryl
    tcheryl Posts: 70 Member
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    sometimes you just feel like it sucks to have to worry, work so darn hard, not eat what you want and worry somemore!!!! but i like the quote when you feel like giving up, remember why you started. it's still going to suck but you KNOW you have to keep going.
    and don't you love that you can get SO much encouragement when you most need it?!
  • coreymo
    coreymo Posts: 25 Member
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    I totally hear you! My husband and kids are wonderful, but they are all so demanding of my time and attention that I get very overwhelmed at times. You are not alone, that's for sure. Two things that I have to remind myself of often, but when I do them they really work:

    1. MAKE time to RELAX. Mommy time. Me time. For me, I take reallllllly looong showers.

    2. Plan the week's meals before grocery shopping and keep lists of meal and snack options on the fridge. I also keep a notepad on the fridge and write my calories there, then enter them in at the end of the day, once kids are tucked in and hubby is watching TV.

    (OK, 1 more thing that saves me):

    I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS keep a bag of organic baby carrots in the fridge and if I start freaking out or if I'm so hungry I'm going to eat the first thing in sight, I totally "binge" on baby carrots. It helps ease the moment, AND even if I eat the whole bag it's only like 150 calories.


    Hang in there! You can do this!!
  • HorseWithNoName27
    HorseWithNoName27 Posts: 188 Member
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    Be proud of your success so far, and use that as motivation to continue. I bet you didn't think you could lose 20 pounds, did ya? Now look at where you are! If you keep on keepin' on, put that one foot in front of the other, you will be a step closer to your goal, each day you move forward. There will be bad days, like today, but there will be good days, too, and eventually, success. Do you plan ahead with the calorie counting? That may help to de-stress, maybe plan one or two days ahead so you have your meals all laid out and don't have to input the data each day. Try going for a brisk walk or two if you feel overwhelmed...it may help.

    Good luck, and don't give up!

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