I'm not sure where else to throw this topic..

I am very sorry they make you feel that way. But it is impossible to truly say "If I were ___________ I would never desire more." As we achieve goals we create new ones. That is the process of life. We always update our desires to the next conceivable perception of perfection.

Understandably your goal may feel to you much harder and honest than others. But it is all in the perspective because it is all doable. Given a variable of time and dedication you are the same as they are.

Everyone is wanting to be something better. Maybe they use description you feel are unfitting for their form. But those are merely words, not the true emotion behind it. Perhaps instead of letting that frustrate you, feel frustrated that they are not truly expressing their real desires and simply (maybe thoughtlessly) tagging common thoughts and phrases.

Fat, skinny, fit and unhealthy can be subjective terms. Your goals are very important and I have full faith that you will soon come to create new ones when you find that day where you are standing where you once dreamed.

I've been part of the big girls club for 14 years, so I know the struggle all too well. Its much easier for me to drop 30 pounds than it is for the 130 pound girl to drop 5. Weight loss is weight loss. Struggle is struggle.. I don't get aggrevated with the posters that have to loose 5... I cheer them on as much as they cheer me on. Good for them that they never were part of the 200 club... and when I get down to their weight, we'll shop together :happy:

Everyone is different psychologically. By that I mean, we all have a breaking point. That point where we try on every outfit in the closet and end up lying naked on the bed in hysterics. Just because my self-loathing and depression hit at a different weight than someone else's doesn't make me any more or less fat. There is a point in our lives where we look in the mirror and realize that we don't want to look this way any more. I found that point at 160lbs, with 25 lbs to lose until I am at the weight I used to be happy with.

After the celiac testings, the IBS issues, and the anemia, I had had enough. I'm done being depressed, wearing clothes 3 sizes too big, and passing on outings where pictures will be taken. I'm done blaming my feeling ill on a daily basis for my weight gain. I'm done whining about my body and never changing it. I am fat, but not for long. I'm working my *kitten* off (literally) to make it so. It's hard, I am always fatigued, and I have no human support other than on this site. There is no reason to look down upon those of us with a little less to lose, you have no idea how hard we are working for our goals.

I understand the frustration you may have. I see a girl at the gym with a body better than barbie on the eliptical for 50 minutes a day. She can't be more than 115 lbs at 5'10". Am I frustrated when I see this? Of course! Do I judge her and tell her to stop trying because she's good enough? Hell no! I respect her work ethic and use it to motivate my own. Seeing this journey as one with a community of understanding support will motivate you far more than viewing others' journeys as pointless.

Good luck :flowerforyou:

I've been part of the big girls club for 14 years, so I know the struggle all too well. Its much easier for me to drop 30 pounds than it is for the 130 pound girl to drop 5. Weight loss is weight loss. Struggle is struggle.. I don't get aggrevated with the posters that have to loose 5... I cheer them on as much as they cheer me on. Good for them that they never were part of the 200 club... and when I get down to their weight, we'll shop together :happy:

Well said! :drinker:

I understand, but I could say the same to you. At 376 pounds, your 225 pounds sounds "small" to me.

No matter the size, if someone is unhappy with their current size and are willing to work on it in a healthy manner, then I support them and are not offended by their self-assessment.

^^^^ Totally agree with this!

At 5'4" my highest weight was 180 pounds (not including pregnancy weight). But when I was used to weighing 115 most of my life, 180 was way overweight for me. I lost 50 pounds over the last several years and then decided to focus on lowering my bodyfat and eating super healthy and exercising (instead of going only by scale weight). More because I've lost several family members due to health/weight related issues and have had my sister and best friend both battle cancer. So my focus changed from the scale weight, to getting as healthy and in shape as possible so that I see my kids grow up and am a healthy and fun grandma in my later years.

Everyone has their own reasons for wanting to lose weight. And everyone's ideal weight is different. I support everyone's journey.

Hi Dex, it's good you got it all out. There are definitely two sides and it's good to hear from the 130 pounders also. . . it's good for them to want to keep that in control, because if they don't, their metabolism will slow a little each year and they will slowly end up like us, it's the easiest thing in the world to gain weight. Hopefully this will get easier for you soon and you just gotta hang in there with us. And good for you for at least trying the shred today. You don't have to finish to be a winner. Hugs!

Because when I was 135 pounds and didn't care I found myself at 162! When I got back down to 143 I said "At least I'm not 200 pounds" and found 10 pounds again. I personally don't care if you're happy at 170 or 130, that is your choice. I'm wanting to lose a few pounds and gain muscle because I have fitness goals. I want to run a marathon. I want to last a full round of Insanity Pure Cardio without needing a break every few mins. Not all of us want to be stick figures but I'd like my body fat to be "Athletic"

i am 127 gal that is desperate to lose 7lbs. I always complains about being fat, I always feel fat. I do have body dysmorphia. it's a living hell. ruins my relationships & destroys me. so, i can look at you that may have 75-100 lbs to lose but seeing you radiate a certain level of confidence & happiness than i only dream about.

good luck on journey

I totally understand. I've never been extremely overweight...at most, I weighed in the 160's (I'm 5'5.5") and I'm down to 130ish and maintaining. Sometimes, I even feel bad complaining at all, given the struggles and efforts I see others going through. But, we each have our own goals! Good luck!

I can see both sides of the situation. I think it's ridiculous when people of normal, healthy body weights call themselves fat, but that's their opinion of themselves. And it's a lot easier to say, "I'm fat," than it is to say, "I know rationally I'm technically ok, but I'm still not 100% satisfied with my results, so I'm going to keep pushing."

Honestly, this is why I surround myself with people who have the same weight loss goals as I do. It's not that I don't care about the smaller ones, but why torture myself? I need to lose over one hundred pounds and I already get ticker envy so, it's just more productive for me to see tickers that resemble my own. Just my thoughts.

I am in that range, but I don't think I am fat. I just want to be FIT looking/athletic looking. Not everyone joins MFP because they think they're fat. It's a fitness site. I have some more weight I would like to lose because I think that's what it would take for my muscles to show the way I want.

I am usually pretty sensitive and ofen overreact, but for some unspoken reason, I get what OP rants about. I am in that range, but I always think I am fatter than my friends.

I think it changes. And I know someday you will see what it's like.

10 years ago I needed to lose 95 lbs. It totally annoyed me (and made me wicked jealous) to hear people say they needed to lose 5 or 10 lbs. Or were 5 or 10 lbs from their goal.

I lost the 95 lbs.

Fast forward to today. I have 10 lbs I want to shake SO bad!! And I can not do it! My pants are snug, I am uncomfortable with the extra weight, even though it's "just" 10 lbs. And looking back, it is more of a struggle to lose THESE freakin 10 lbs than it was to lose 95 lbs.

I think everyone has their own battles and you just have to think outside the box a bit.

You can be unhappy with your body at any weight. I hated how I looked when I was super under-weight at 5'7 and 115 lbs for goodness sake. Just because it's a different number does not mean it's any less of a struggle. It's just a different goal.