Needing support and motivation after Miscarriage

I am so sorry for your loss! I have never personally experienced a miscarriage, but someone very close to me has. It was brutally painful for them and for us. We grieved for the lost child and our hearts ached for the parents. I would be happy to offer whatever support I can.

It hurts doesn't it? All I can tell you is what helped me, best done through my story:

We tried to fall preg for over a year, doing it becomes a chore and every month brings disappointment, frustration ands depression. Will we ever have a baby I can't stop thinking about it. After seeing a specialist, having tests, ovarian drilling and some ovulation inducing clomid we happlily conceived our first baby. Ava is now 5.

Second bub was a snap, we decided the gloves were off and I fell preg immediately, no hitch, Penny is 3yrs.

Time for number 3, easy fell pregnant immediately. But then had a miscarriage, I was already attached to my baby, even though it was a before 12 weeks miscarriage it was heartbreaking.

Then i realized that it was ok, I just haven't met her yet.

I believe in Jesus, I believe that I am going tonheaven after here and that my baby girl is there waiting to meet me. But she is happy, she doesn't miss me she is with Jesus and is looking forward to our arrival.

I read this book called 'heaven is for real' about a boy that dies and goes to heaven and comes back (try not to be skeptical, he was only 4 and explainewd things written in the bible that he couldn't have known). Any way after a year or two after the incident whilst playing he said ton his mum "mum I have another sister".

The mum is shocked, he didn't know that mum had a miscarriage before he was born.

After some discussion mum Found out that her miscarriage was a little girl who looks like here other daughter but with different hair and some other things. When she asked her son what her daughters name was he replied " she hasn't got one because you didn't name her, she can't wait till you get to heaven so you can give her a name"

I don't know where you are at spiritually but for me knowing that I will see my baby makes it alright. If you wan't to talk privately message me


Jade

I"m very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I can relate all too well. We suffered multiple miscarriages and a still born. I too binged as a way of dealing with my grief, unknown and the anger I had. It's far to easy then to deal with the pain that results in losing a child. It's a pain you can't describe or put into words. It's a gaping hole in your heart. But somewhere, I found the courage and self worth to pick myself up and lose the weight for me. I pray that you can find comfort and peace with this and move on. Give yourself time. Try to do things that you like and enjoy that don't revolve around food. Surround yourself with supportive family and friends. I also prayed a lot. It helps to know that my babies are in heaven waiting for me. Huge giant hugs to you. Good luck to you.

Kayla, I'm so very sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. I can imagine it must be frustrating as well that a lot of us are replying to your story, but have not suffered miscarriages ourselves (me neither). I thought, there must be a group on mfp? So I did a quick search and found a binge eaters group that you might find helpful? Maybe you should search on miscarriage as well?

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/376-binge-eating-support

All the best to you..

I have never experienced a miscarriage but alot of my close family and friends have, including my gym pal. Try to focus on dropping the weight so when you do have a successful pregnancy it will be a healthy one... unlike mine. When I found out i was pregnant i was 315 pounds, I was high risk. i had gestational diabetes, oligo, and toxemia. I would not wish this kind of pregnancy on anyone and I would have focused more on losing weight before I got pregnant, but was she was a suprise.

You can do anything you want to do, just put your mine to it. If you want a successful pregnancy then hit the gym hard and focus on a heathy you.

If you need more support/motivation please feel free to add me. Good luck hun and remember God only puts you through things he knows you can handle (believe me I know it seems like BS)

My heart aches for you. Losing a baby is he most heart wrenching thing. But, you will begin to feel better. You'll never forget, but, days will get easier. You'll begin to make it through an hour, then a few, then a day, then a couple of days, etc. I still think about my lost baby and what could have been, but now remember the happiness of that short but very real pregnancy and the pain no longer cuts like a knife. Be strong, stay healthy, for yourself and your future family. It will happen. *hugs*

One in three pregnancies end in miscarriage according to the medical professionals.Due to products like EPT and others, women are finding out they are expecting much earlier. Based on the experience of many, including my daughter, the next pregnancy will result in a beautiful little one that will rock your world and fulfill your maternal side. She lost her baby at 11 weeks upon learning her planned child had no heartbeat in the same emergency room her father was placed in only a year and half before and died. She lost her baby in March, 2008 and gave birth to a healthy and beautiful 6 lb 2 oz baby girl in April, 2009. She found out she was pregnant with Miss Wonderful in August 2008, but didn't disclose her pregnancy to anyone due to fear until Oct., 2008. Not that you will ever totally forget the loss that you just incurred,. Most women get pregnant within the first 3-6 months after a miscarriage. Look forward and leave the past behind. Live healthy, your future child is awaiting an amazingly healthy mom. God bless you and your future family:-)

I'm really sorry for your loss, I know how painful it is. My story was a bit different, I suffered preeclampsia last year, I was in the hospital for 3 weeks...my baby boy was putting through all that situation, my body wasn't a suitable place for him any more...

It's damn hard...in my case, I ate less, suffered nervous and paranoia attacks...what helped me was talking to a lady with spiritual connection to God, she told me when we grieve so much it's like carrying a dead body around us, since the soul has moved forward.

The only thing that does help in grieving is time, and praying, for me. Don't be too down, think your baby is in a better place, and be healthy for your husband, because he must be suffering too and he wouldn't like you to get sick, and do it for yourself, you may be able to have a baby some day.

My husband and I struggled for four years to have our daughter. I suffered a miscarriage 6 months before my full term pregnancy, I was so worried during the pregnancy. Most of my fertility docs were jerks, but my ob/gyn was so wonderful! My advice is surround yourself by positive things (books, friends, family etc). Love yourself...It's so normal what your feeling. I read books on coping with difficult times by Pema Chodran. Her books helped me the most!

Virtual Hugs to you!

http://www.amazon.com/The-Places-that-Scare-You/dp/1570629218/ref=pd_sim_b_2

http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Fall-Apart-Difficult/dp/1570629692/ref=pd_rhf_cr_p_t_2

Aww I'm sorry. I had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks. With a d&c also. You said it was just last week? Be aware your hormones may take a bit to balance out. Be gentle with yourself. Took me about four months to stop crying all the time. But I eventually found something positive to uplift me. Feel better soon.