Are you supported? How much?

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  • FatStoatLondon
    FatStoatLondon Posts: 197 Member
    I live alone. My partner doesn't feel threatened that I'm on a diet, and respects me when I say I am watching what I eat. However, he's been a veggie for 25 years and practically a vegan for the last 6 months so he's used to the concept of food limitation. He's also happy to walk down to the West End or City or wherever rather than getting a bus, because he likes a stroll too.

    I have a RL friend in NYC who is using MFP too, and we sometimes mention it in passing, but we don't really talk about it. My line manager does it too - she told me about MFP in the first place, but again, we don't really discuss it much.

    It doesn't bother me at all that I haven't got friends and family more involved; it's not really any of their business, and I'm sure they'd be bored rigid if I became evangelical about it. I have plenty of more interesting stuff going on in my life than how fat my bum is, and there's no reason to involve them in what is basically a health maintenance issue.
  • jessica_120214
    jessica_120214 Posts: 68 Member
    Not much support here.. other than MFP and my Team Beachbody coach:'( All the more reason to succeed at this!
  • bobcooks920
    bobcooks920 Posts: 27
    Around the house, it's just my dad and I, so he's very supportive. My friends understand that I can't go out to eat all the time, that I have to keep the ice cream and cookies to a minimum, that in order to run well, I need to eat to lose.
  • _beautiful_disaster_
    _beautiful_disaster_ Posts: 182
    I don't have too much support outside of MFP and a few friends on my facebook. Everyone rolls their eyes at me when I tell them I don't care to eat something because of the caloric count or something.

    I'm used to doing it alone LOL

    same here... :)
  • SorchaEilis
    SorchaEilis Posts: 99 Member
    My husband is a great supporter now :-) At first, he was a little irritated by the food part- my constantly counting calories, measuring everything, cooking with my ipad so I could load my recipes into MFP... and I get it- he's the kind of guy who can eat ice cream and popcorn for dinner every night and lose weight (this actually happened; I was away at school for 6 weeks and he lost about 10 pounds!). But once he saw that it wasn't simply a 'diet', that I was changing my lifestyle, he came around and he even joined MFP with me, even though he really doesn't need to watch his calories all that much.
    We've always worked out together- not every workout, but usually a few times a week. The days we don't workout together are for doing our own thing- he plays basketball (I can't) and I swim laps or use cardio equipment at the gym (not his thing at all).
    I am also lucky to have a great friend who is a certified personal trainer, and she is always willing to help with ideas if I plateau or she'll even write out new workouts for me if I stop seeing results or start getting bored. That's a big help :-)
  • YoYo1951
    YoYo1951 Posts: 370
    I don't have any support either. My workplace is the worst. They are always bringing cakes, tortillas, burritos, everything fattening and full of calories. They always tell me I am too old to get into shape, I should just learn to deal with what I am. My family believes food is love, and always try to feed me because I don't get a chance to see them that much. They always want to make my favorites. Very hard to say no to my longtime favorites, which are exactly the reason I look like I do. I only see them once a year tho. I miss them, but not the food experience. MFP experience has been disheartening. I like the logging, and reading everyone's posts, and it does inspire me, but it seems not many people respond to me as a friend. It seems like there are little cults on here, and if you don't belong to them, oh well. I feel some people are put so high on a pedestal that when they fall off, we will all hear it. I sound bitter, but it hurts my feelings when I eagerly go to MFP, and there is little there for me. I try to post and often if people really want to hear the truth on here. Maybe that is my problem. Does anyone else have this experience?
  • jcmartin0313
    jcmartin0313 Posts: 574 Member
    I am very, very fortunate that my wife stayed at a job she hated so her insurance would cover my bariatric surgery. That is one of my primary motivators for becoming fit - giving her the husband and long marriage she deserves. However, one thing I have learned is that you must reach a point where you can go it alone because at different times people will support you in varying amounts. I would be happy to friend anyone needing support.
  • FatStoatLondon
    FatStoatLondon Posts: 197 Member
    MFP experience has been disheartening. I like the logging, and reading everyone's posts, and it does inspire me, but it seems not many people respond to me as a friend. It seems like there are little cults on here, and if you don't belong to them, oh well. I feel some people are put so high on a pedestal that when they fall off, we will all hear it. I sound bitter, but it hurts my feelings when I eagerly go to MFP, and there is little there for me. I try to post and often if people really want to hear the truth on here. Maybe that is my problem. Does anyone else have this experience?

    I've declined all requests to friend, because I don't have time to give people one-on-one support; I just like to pop up on the forums and give people the benefit of my uninformed opinions on stuff!
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    I don't have any support either. My workplace is the worst. They are always bringing cakes, tortillas, burritos, everything fattening and full of calories. They always tell me I am too old to get into shape, I should just learn to deal with what I am. My family believes food is love, and always try to feed me because I don't get a chance to see them that much. They always want to make my favorites. Very hard to say no to my longtime favorites, which are exactly the reason I look like I do. I only see them once a year tho. I miss them, but not the food experience. MFP experience has been disheartening. I like the logging, and reading everyone's posts, and it does inspire me, but it seems not many people respond to me as a friend. It seems like there are little cults on here, and if you don't belong to them, oh well. I feel some people are put so high on a pedestal that when they fall off, we will all hear it. I sound bitter, but it hurts my feelings when I eagerly go to MFP, and there is little there for me. I try to post and often if people really want to hear the truth on here. Maybe that is my problem. Does anyone else have this experience?

    So far, I haven't had that experience with MFP. Everyone that I've friended on here has been super supportive as far as I can tell. I know some people comment more and are more involved, but it doesn't bother me that some don't respond to me. i give what support I can and I let the rest go. I am here to support everyone equally and I hope that I do.
  • hollymedic
    hollymedic Posts: 10 Member
    Doing this on my own, with a little support from friends. It's a lonely existence. :(
  • FloridaAimee
    FloridaAimee Posts: 295 Member
    I am not so much supported as tolerated! I've been making changes gradually...first not buying cookies, except for the rare pkg of Oreos, which has only happened on a weekend. Second, now I'm not buying chips except for Sun Chips or tortilla chips for salsa.

    But they get aggravated sometimes, especially if they are packing a lunch to take somewhere, cause they want pudding cups and cookies and stuff like that.
  • jamiealdridge02
    jamiealdridge02 Posts: 93 Member
    I'm very blessed with support. I do the meal planning, lunch packing most of the time, etc. My family has been great, not complaining about me taking certain foods out of the house, or trying new things. My husband tries hard and eats pretty much what I eat. my kids are great-they were even happy to be my "test monkeys" as I like to call them. My daughter is even learning to cook favorite foods and treats the healthy way. I think I could do it alone, but I am so glad I can make this a lifestyle change to make my whole family healthy!
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