Relationship advice?

Your self-description: " I'm extremely friendly and always up to make new friends! " means you might be too open minded and accepting for your own good. I'm not saying you need to be close-minded but you do need to learn to be discriminating. I'm just mentioning this because I'd describe myself the same way you describe yourself - and that pretty much means we're both wearing a sign on our forehead that reads "I'm so nice that you can walk all over me." Both you and I need to move to a slightly more selfish, more defensive middle path for our own safety, and happiness. Don't wait till you're in your 40's, like me, to figure this out!

I suggest that you seek therapy before anything else. On the outside you're doing better. Better grades, you're happier, etc. However, if you're still feeling hesitant towards having a relationship, there must be something in your head still bothering you. You're still stressed and distrusting towards others. It's okay. Don't blame yourself. A therapist can help you work through the aspects of a relationship that stress you out, and you'll be able to vent about your past relationship. Hope everything goes well.

It is normal to want to be in relationships. Whether or not you need therapy is a question for a professional. If your desire for a companion causes destructive or depressive behavior than you probably should seek a therapist. Since you say you do not sleep around, you do not sound like you are being destructive. Loneliness is rough thing and I do not envy you. Best of luck.

I have a long history of dating guys that are bad for me.

And all it took was one bad guy to get me started on that path.

Until you have fully healed and gotten over your bad relationship I don't think it's smart to start a new one. You can't use another person to heal your wounds or as a way to feel confident. I do this myself and it's honestly really unhealthy and leads to more pain and turmoil than happiness and healing.

After my fist true love I rebounded with some guys, did the whole single thing for a while, but I found I still missed me ex. I missed the companionship, having a person to take care of , who loved me etc. So I ended up with the wrong person again. My dating history reads like a whose who of human crap. I've settled a lot, I've been with a lot of guys who weren't good enough for me.

I realize now that as much as I hate being single (and I hate it) it's really what's best for me. You need to take time to figure out how much you're worth and what you deserve and learn to love yourself first.

I know it's cliche but I honestly think all my relationships have failed because I still haven't gotten over the scar my first real love left me with. There is nothing wrong with feeling good in a relationship but you shouldn't need another person to make you happy. And you shouldn't be with someone simply because you feel the need to have that special person. You should end up with someone because you truly want to be with them, not just that you don't want to be alone

I am not in therapy but I am strongly considering it. I have talked to my pastor quite a few times and this has helped a lot. Sometimes having a sounding board is very helpful. But honestly I feel that if you try and start something now you'll end up or settle for someone who isn't good enough for you

Whats yo name, what's yo number, I would like to get to know ya =P



But seriously, right now it sounds like you need to work on you and forget about any kind of relationships.

I mean if you want sex then just be honest with it and use a condom, but just be sure that before you enter into something real that your head is on straight and that you know who you are before figuring out who it is you want to be with.


That being said, if you need a booty call hit me up heeheeheehee

why is friends with benifits not you at all? as long as you are clear with what you want you could be happy with everything that comes out of it.

edit. i think of fwb as a best friend who you might get a bit frisky some times. but could draw the line where ever they want to.

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Keep doing your own thing...it'll happen when u least expect it.

You're 19 years old. Why are you concerned about a relationship? Focus on your education and there will be plenty of time for a relationship in the future!!


Uncle Top

^^This!!!!!!!

I can relate to your situation but from the other side having been hurnt and burnt by what I thought were great relationships until it was clear they weren't. Same story, cant trust, dont want to go through all that again etc..etc....But being on your own for a while lets you have a clear look at yourself and find out what you are about, strengths and weaknesses and so on IMO. Yes, you do miss the companionship and not being able to share moments, thoughts etc but I believe if you go looking for a partner, then the quest may blind you to some of their shortfalls I believe.
Just let life take its course, be true to yourself and your beliefs and what happens will happen. Oh, and the FWB thing...does anyone think they can really just have regular sex with someone and have no emotional attachment really? I know I couldn't...