How does your significant other make you feel about your loo

I definitely don't feel more motivated if I see a woman that is so glamorous, beautiful, thin, put together, etc. I feel more like it is hopeless! The feeling doesn't last for long, but I definitely feel like that will NEVER be me. Because, even if I was that thin, I would never be that fashionable, with perfect make up, etc. It's just not me.

I don't feel at all like I have to look more beautiful for my husband. He gets what he gets since I get what I get! It's not a contest. He already chose me, and we have been together 8 years total. We told each other that neither of us ever would cheat on each other, and we never want to get divorced. So, even if he wishes I looked like someone else, TOO BAD BUDDY! :laugh:

I've gotta say, that 22 years after we first started dating and 17 of those years being married, my husband STILL makes me feel like the hottest girl in the world! I catch him staring at "my parts" and he can't walk by without giving something a squeeze! He's still the man of my dreams

My husband have almost the opposite problem. He doesn't check out ANYONE, ever. And I know you're going to be like, What?!! But he doesn't. He's a musician and he always has skinnier, younger, better-looking girls than me throwing themselves on him when he plays, but he has no interest. That drives me crazy, because it feels like he's not human or something. I check these girls out, they're so hot. But lucky for me, he thinks I'm the only woman worth looking at. All my insecurities about these girls are my own thing.

But if he DID check them out, I would feel a lot worse about myself.

My boyfriend makes me feel great about myself. He's known me when I was thin and athletic to when I was a fatty and he supports me 100% in my journey to be healthier. Of course he looks at other women and I always tell him I'm gonna be hotter than her soon enough lol. So I guess it motivates me. That's just my competitive nature though

First of all, I think it is human nature to look. I mean, I don't think it's much different looking at a beautiful piece of art or looking at a beautiful or handsome person. I think we are just drawn to attractive things (now, what we all find attractive can obviously differ)

I think it's all about respect. I mean, it's one thing to look, it's another thing to gawk and make the person you are with feel bad because you are so obviously staring at others around you. So, I think if you truly care and respect who you are with, then it shouldn't be hard to go about things in a considerate way.

My husband is so funny about this, he is really catty and he will generally say something to me about the person he is looking at. If he looks at a pretty girls, he hids it very well because I never catch him - but I know he is human so he must do it when I am not around! :grumble: But he is just one of those truly good, honest men and I trust him 100%, so let him look! As long as he comes home to me every nite.

We are both big people watchers so that really helps - it is rare that we are not looking at the same person as we stroll around.

Hi

I agree with a few of the other posters..I think it's human nature to 'look' at other people
I think there is a tasteful, respectful way to do this
It's never bothered me in the least...when I was heavier or smaller...
Reality is, some woman out there are better looking than me...it is what it is...oh well
Sometimes I would see a cute girl and point her out for DH..LOL

No big deal...Kim

I have to say my husband has gotten better. He used to fail miserably!! BUT, I met him when he was 24 and I was 27 (yes I robbed the cradle!! HAHA!)

But, now I am 33 and he is just turned 31, so obviously I have "communicated" to him what is acceptable and what is not over the years and he has learned and improved as he has grown up a bit!! haha

But, he does make me feel beautiful and is constantly trying to molest me, so I guess that's a good sign!!! Hahaha!

It doesn't really bother me to have my BF looking at other women..we'll comment to each other if a pretty face walks by..but that's all it is: a pretty face. I know that he's with me, and i know that he loves me with all of his heart, so it doesn't have a negative effect. Now, if there's another woman that is clearly checking HIM out? Personally, i think there is nothing hotter, because he is coming home with me, and only me..and i know that's where he's happiest. :happy:
Try not to let things like that get too deep under your skin. Your sig. other has chosen to be with you, and remember, noone is perfect. Those 'victoria secret girls' you describe all have thier bad days just like everyone else does.

My boyfriend and I actually have issues with this subject. He does it on purpose to get to me. He thinks he's being funny but it really bothers me. It would be one thing if he didn't look at other things that I won't go into detail about here, but he does. So to me that's saying "Wow, I wish I could have that instead."

I even confronted him about those looking at those "other things" and asked him why he does it and he had no answer. I asked him if it had something to do with him wanting me to look more like that and again, he had no answer.

It's something I try to ignore because aside from that we have a great relationship and a 1 year old, and the whole works.

It honestly breaks my heart. I feel a little tiny peice of me die each time he makes a comment about a girl or a find one of those websites...

Why am I not good enough?

After the self pity moments are over it motivates me. I get pumped. Like... You'll see. Someday I'll be prettier than all those girls! And someday... I'll be having guys check ME out and he can get all jealous about it. And he BETTER get jealous too.

I guess for me this topic hits home pretty hard... sorry this is getting long.. it's something I keep pretty close to my heart because I do everything I can do ignore it.

No, it doesn't bother me because he just doesn't care if I'm a size 8's or a size 14. He actually prefers a woman with a little "shape" as he calls it (he's such a horny dog). lol

Right now I'm so motivated by the way I feel and he's reaping all of the rewards!! lol :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

My husband always makes me feel beautiful - no matter what size I am. We sometimes talk about people we find attractive, but it doesn't usually make me feel insecure - because a lot of times they either look like me, or like me in better shape. And he sounds a lot like Tamim's husband - I have trouble keeping his hands off! :laugh:

I am torn as well sweetie...I think If I wre thinner or prettier he would have no need to check them out. then the other half says hes a guy thats what they do. but I would almost say its 80-20 more so leaning to the insecurity because I had that situation posed to me friday night, out with a few drinks with my bf and another couple and to me he was insulting a pretty thin prissy group of girls calling them dumb bimbos and too skinny but of course when I was engaged in conversation with the other couple(the girl) he was watching them. I ignored it cause I am not a drama queen but that part of me has that hunch he would like to "do better" as in have one of those type of girls...