One of the most defeting things...

I'm sorry she's saying those things to you, truly. It sounds as if she's not a very happy person, to be honest. Hang around here, and we'll keep you motivated instead of defeated. {{hugs}}

wowzers speachless that your mom would say that.

So sorry that you're having to go through that, but don't let her get you down, ask mentioned already- use it as fuel. Don't let her win, Do this for YOU. good luck in your journey and you can also feel free to add me if u want to.

Sorry, but she sounds like a real jerk. I avoid people who bring me down - even if they're family. Would she talk like that to a stranger? A friend? She shouldn't talk that way to you, either. I would cut her off until she learns how to behave.

Oh, man, if humans could just realize that the words we say can cut so deep and can affect the way we live our lives for years to come.

That is so hard and I"m so sorry that she says that to you. It is good of you to see that she has her own problems and pains and is just taking that out on you and it may not be the real her. She shouldn't. But, she is. Just know that your worth does not come from your weight. Your beauty comes from the heart.

Keep loving her and being here and doing your best but don't let anyone throw your life off course.

I completely know how you feel. It's discouraging having to deal with that. But you have everyone here, and it's not about meeting her expectations or pleasing her, it's about being happy with yourself In the long run, it'll all be worth it and in the end she'll take back those words. Stay strong!!!

**** that noise.

tell her she deserves the pain she's in for how cruel she is. (i don't actually believe that anyone deserves physical pain. but still. this made me angry.)

Sounds like you're both pretty unhappy. Instead of lashing out at your mother or lying about a pregnancy, can you ask her to sit down and chat, maybe with an intermediary there to help smooth things along? If you find you're not able to really talk about your feelings, why not write your mother a letter outlining how she makes you feel, the steps you're taking toward a healthier lifestyle, and the emotional support you need from her to help you get there.

Pain does really affect your moods. Chronic pain can be very depressing and make you very angry. However that is no excuse for being cruel, especially to your children. Don't take it to heart, easier said than done I know, but keep up the hard work. You want to do this for you, not for her.
Good luck!

Ok, my Mum used to do the exact same thing to me. And when I lost weight, rather than congratulate and encourage me, she used to say something like 'you still have a long way to go', or 'you still aren't as slim as me'.

I know it's easier said than done, but ignore it. From reading your comments on here you seem aware that she says these things because she has issues with herself.
People don't realize that criticism often doesn't help weight loss - it makes people depressed, critical of themselves and feel useless - and if you are that way inclined, those feelings tend to lead to more eating.

Don't fall into this trap, you have made the first step in joining here. Do it for you, not your Mum.