Summer Clothes :(

Perhaps they just weren't shorts that were nice? it may not have been your body, but the cut/colour/material/style of the shorts. not everyone can pull off everything, and let me tell you, there are shorts ive worn and then saw pictures of me in and decided that it was NOT a flattering cut

Well I just took a look at your profile pics and you look amazing girl!!! I would kill for that body, so I wouldn't sweat it, maybe your friend is just jealous, I know I would be.

I dunno. Maybe. But there's been several times where he's criticized my weight or tried to tell me in a subtle way that I need to lose weight.
Sucks

WHAT!!?? I don't think I could be friends with someone like that. I could see if you were obese and he was concerned for your health. But unsolicited comments are uncalled for, especially when you have a body like you do.

I'm sorry - I'm super self conscious of my legs too. Maybe you need to try a different style of shorts?
I'm not sure the type of shorts that you wore but maybe you just need to try a different kind?

I won't wear shorts that are tight or really short! My shorts go about halfway down my thighs. I'm short so I can't do really long shorts. Or short shorts. And because of my skin colour, lighter colours work for me.

Edit: Yeah just looked at your profile - your legs are much nicer than mine - I'm not sure if your "friend" is good friend?

I'm sort of jealous that you even got as far as putting on the shorts! I wear capris only.. and I'm actually top heavy. I just do not feel comfortable in shorts at all. /:

I would feel crappy too, and I can relate with you on taking criticism as a hard hit to your ego. I would take the opportunity to go short shopping! Bring yourself back into feeling good and motivated.. I tend to use the negativity as motivation, but I do not think it is very helpful in the long run! Just one of the few things I have to work on.

I also have people in my life that say I need to lose weight. One of my friends thought I needed to lose 80 lbs. I'm 5'2, and 172. It's really hurtful, but some people are just so comfortable with you that they don't know that a little piece of you dies everytime they say something like that.

Keep going, friend. All that really matters is the way you feel about yourself, physically/mentally/emotionally. Be proud of yourself, and if you're not there yet, work on that first and foremost.

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What's with all these guys in your life criticizing your natural body shape? And your parents poked fun at your shape as a kid? They may have set you up to unconsciously seek out relationships with people who will do the same. Good friends support you, not tear you down. Maybe it's not YOU or your body that's the problem. Maybe it's the personality types you're hanging with - more critical types who feel compelled to judge and comment because that's just what they do.

"Your friend" doesn't sound like much of a friend, girl. You're gorgeous and you know what? If YOU liked those shorts, then YOU should wear them. And tell your friend that you don't need his fashion/body criticisms, you need his support.

i looked in your profile picture and you look good so dont sweat it and not sure what ur friend was talking about

I say no worries. I hadn't worn shorts in years either. I'm shorter than you and heavier, and also verrryy pear-shaped. Very much bottom heavy. But I recently started running. I'm in my fifth week of couch to 5k, and it's freakin hot here, and I've been running in pants. But I decided I didn't care. I went running in shorts, with my legs that haven't seen the light of day in years (literally my arms are several shades darker because I NEVER wear shorts). And I didn't care. Because I doing something good for me. If someone wanted to make fun of me, let them. They don't know me, or my struggles, or what I am about. Be proud of yourself. You've got great legs, show them off!

are the dark pictures the ones with the shorts?

i think you look ****ing FANTASTIC.

you say you lived with him for two years, so i imagine that you do care about this guy. bearing that in mind, i'm going to try to be as sensitive as possible when i say that some people just can't stand it when their friends or lovers get healthy. it forces them to confront their own insecurities, and sometimes they will do whatever they can to keep you unhealthy.

not to play armchair psychologist or anything (except that i totally am), but your friend sounds borderline abusive. what right does he have to criticize your appearance, or say anything about your appearance at all? why would a friend give such unwarranted negative feedback in the first place? on top of this, he likely knows that you have these insecurities. i can't imagine him to be daft enough to know it doesn't hurt you. he likely knows it hurts you, and uses this as a way to control you somehow.

Yup, that wasn't a nice or helpful thing to say. (Whether it's 'true' or not is irrelevant! People shouldn't say hurtful things to their friends.)

So I say, you need to push back! Please don't just sit there with your feelings hurt when people are mistreating you! Either tell him now how you felt about his comment and ask that he doesn't make comments like that again, or prepare a short comeback for any future comments i.e. 'Shut up about my weight, will you?!'. Being male, he's probably used to more direct communication so stand up for yourself and tell him straight out how it is.


Good luck and kia kaha (stand strong).

Honestly I think those shorts are a little high waisted which emphasizes pear shape (I know, I'm very pear shaped as well) but your legs look great especially in the bikini shots. Get some lower waisted shorts with a little bit more room in the leg and they'll look great!