A bit of a rant.

Personally, I would confront her directly but gracefully. I'd let her know that I was very proud of my hard work and accomplishments, and if she can't appreciate and support me in that, that she's not being a friend. I'd tell her that if she's not contributing to my survival, she's detracting from it, and that I hope she understands that I only want positive, supportive people in my life, and that if she can't be that for me then she is more than welcome to exit my life.

I'm not recommending that's what you should do, but this would personally be MY first instict.

(edit: actually, I probably say something like "Dude-- not cool" and leave it at that, and only really bring it up if she continued to show suppressive tendencies toward me or if she acted notably fake around me the next time I saw her. Or I'd just delete her and have that be the end of it. )

It's common for people who are insecure with themselves or have low self esteem to "lash" out at others. Makes them feel better I suppose.

It's easy to say ignore her but I'm sure it still hurt to hear. Whether or not you decide to say something about it will ultimately be up to you but the bottom line is that YOUR opinion and how you feel about yourself is the only one that should matter to you at the end of the day. Use her words to help motivate you to reach your goal and maintain it.

BTW...I think you're beautiful. She must be blind. And kudos to your friend for sticking up for you!!

As everyone else said: PURE JEALOUSY!!!! You look amazing and she only wishes she could look half as good! Great job on your loss thus far~ don't let ANYONE knock you down!!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

you look amazing and a massive WELL DONE on your weight loss!

I actually agree with the woman who said to be honest. That it's fine to say, "I don't feel like talking to you, I overheard what you said the other day and was pretty shocked by the spite and jealousy you seem to have towards me. I'm sure things will improve with time but that's why I'm don't want to talk to you." Or just avoid her totally.

I recently put my profile picture of my weight loss on Facebook. I am very proud of how far I have come along and got nothing but encouraging words from all of my friends. My best friend's sister in law saw me a couple of days ago (she is pretty big herself). She told me how skinny I was and that she hated me (kidding of course, or so I thought she was) and that she thought that the picture I put up on Facebook was photoshopped. I told her "My God if I could photoshop" and left. I went back to my friend's house, she was still there. Before I knocked I heard her sister in law say that I hadn't even lost that much weight, that I wasn't even that pretty, that my before picture was so embarassing and that it was awfully tacky that I put a before and after picture up when I wasn't even done loosing weight. My friend told her "well she has lost 45 pounds and I think she looks good":smokin: I left. Of course it made me mad but I am a lady and will not stoop down for anyone. I am not one to care what people think (much) but what is her problem? Why do SOME women have to be so catty with each other? This is my life right? Let me be. It's my friend's birthday monday and I know she will be there. She is a hypocrite and will act like we are the bestest friends in the world. :noway: Do I tell her something? Just leave it alone? What would you do?

Hey don't worry about her. You are doing Fan-tas-tic. She needs to learn to be happy for other people. I'm proud of you, you are proud of you. Who is she that you would let her opinion bother you, or have any power over your life. She isn't worthy of that sort of power. I say just forget it. Some people are just idiots.

Your friend's SIL is jealous of you. Your friend stuck up for you. Let your friend know that you heard her sticking up for you, and you appreciate it. Leave it at that. Be kind to your friend's SIL. Your friend will appreciate not having to get between the drama, especially on her special day.
You are doing awesomely! Your success may one day inspire her to try herself rather than seethe with jealousy. Until then, you only win by not letting her negativity rub off on you. (Seriously. Nothing is more annoying to a ***** than being ignored! )

This. I am glad that your friend really was a friend and defended you to her SIL. Don't waste your time getting into anything with the SIL, you are doing great- 45 lbs is a very big accomplishment.

Jealously. People only point out in others what they don't like in themselves. I would just leave and if it becomes too much to bare, then I would definitely confront her.

She's insanely jealous.....:devil:
So, just stay the course, and as you continue to make progress, make sure to gloat over this sub-human.
And at some point when she asks for your advice, steer her toward the most insane crash diet on the market.
Research whatever the biggest scam is.
Tell her that's how you did it.
And good luck with your continued success:drinker:

I just love Bobby :smooched:
He's right

leave it.. support your friend who loves you!

jealousy... it does a lot to a person.

She is taking it out on you because you have done what she wants to do but isn't brave enough.

ETA: You look fabulous by the way.

THIS

Just try to be the bigger person and let it go. Shes probably jealous of your success and not dealing with it in a good way.

Hey OP

I used to know someone like that. He used to try to discourage me when I originally began to talk about enrolling at the university, and would be very passive agressive in his remarks. He wouldn't outright insult me, but he would carry on about how people with an education "think they're better than everyone else" and so on.

You can imagine how bad he became once I enrolled and actuall stuck with it. Obviously I no longer associate with him, and this was between two guys!

My point is that there are people in this world who are so insecure and so fragile inside that they can't stand - absolutely can not stand - to see anyone improve and get better than them. They don't have the internal strength that's needed to improve theirself because that requires being honest with theirself. They lash out at people instead and try to keep them down at their level.

I looked at your avatar photo and your improvement is absolutely obvious! Seriously.

Unfortunately it looks like you can't entirely break off contact with her since she's in your circule of related people and such. The best that you can do is simply not invite her to events or activities, and / or do your best to minimize drama. The good news is that with her going around talking to people like that, they are going to know what kind of person she is.

I'm sure that others here have stories about people making remarks that bring them down about their improvements. Improving your life, be it in fitness or otherwise, will show you who your real friends are and who the parasites are.

Do something nice for her.
Like, give her all of your "fat" clothing and explain to her that they are simply too big for you now but, they might fit her.

Tell her to kiss your grits...seriously! What the heck is wrong with people. She is obviously jealous that you have lost the weight and that people are commenting on it. She's upset that she isn't in the spotlight. Just ignore her. Let her fester in her own jealousy.