A bit of a rant.

jealousy... it does a lot to a person.

She is taking it out on you because you have done what she wants to do but isn't brave enough.

ETA: You look fabulous by the way.

THIS

Just try to be the bigger person and let it go. Shes probably jealous of your success and not dealing with it in a good way.

Hey OP

I used to know someone like that. He used to try to discourage me when I originally began to talk about enrolling at the university, and would be very passive agressive in his remarks. He wouldn't outright insult me, but he would carry on about how people with an education "think they're better than everyone else" and so on.

You can imagine how bad he became once I enrolled and actuall stuck with it. Obviously I no longer associate with him, and this was between two guys!

My point is that there are people in this world who are so insecure and so fragile inside that they can't stand - absolutely can not stand - to see anyone improve and get better than them. They don't have the internal strength that's needed to improve theirself because that requires being honest with theirself. They lash out at people instead and try to keep them down at their level.

I looked at your avatar photo and your improvement is absolutely obvious! Seriously.

Unfortunately it looks like you can't entirely break off contact with her since she's in your circule of related people and such. The best that you can do is simply not invite her to events or activities, and / or do your best to minimize drama. The good news is that with her going around talking to people like that, they are going to know what kind of person she is.

I'm sure that others here have stories about people making remarks that bring them down about their improvements. Improving your life, be it in fitness or otherwise, will show you who your real friends are and who the parasites are.

Do something nice for her.
Like, give her all of your "fat" clothing and explain to her that they are simply too big for you now but, they might fit her.

Tell her to kiss your grits...seriously! What the heck is wrong with people. She is obviously jealous that you have lost the weight and that people are commenting on it. She's upset that she isn't in the spotlight. Just ignore her. Let her fester in her own jealousy.

I recently put my profile picture of my weight loss on Facebook. I am very proud of how far I have come along and got nothing but encouraging words from all of my friends. My best friend's sister in law saw me a couple of days ago (she is pretty big herself). She told me how skinny I was and that she hated me (kidding of course, or so I thought she was) and that she thought that the picture I put up on Facebook was photoshopped. I told her "My God if I could photoshop" and left. I went back to my friend's house, she was still there. Before I knocked I heard her sister in law say that I hadn't even lost that much weight, that I wasn't even that pretty, that my before picture was so embarassing and that it was awfully tacky that I put a before and after picture up when I wasn't even done loosing weight. My friend told her "well she has lost 45 pounds and I think she looks good":smokin: I left. Of course it made me mad but I am a lady and will not stoop down for anyone. I am not one to care what people think (much) but what is her problem? Why do SOME women have to be so catty with each other? This is my life right? Let me be. It's my friend's birthday monday and I know she will be there. She is a hypocrite and will act like we are the bestest friends in the world. :noway: Do I tell her something? Just leave it alone? What would you do?

I HATE backstabbers. If you have something to say, say it to my face or keep it to yourself.

I would have walked in, made it clear that I heard every word she said but I don't care what she thinks. Go to the birthday, have a great time, and don't go out of your way to talk to her. Ever again. You don't need that negativity in your life, especially with friends around that obviously support you. They deserve your attention, not her.

Do something nice for her.
Like, give her all of your "fat" clothing and explain to her that they are simply too big for you now but, they might fit her.

My God I hadn't thought of that. I will offer her my fat clothes!!! SCORE! :devil:

Oh, that's beautiful. XD

Congratulations! Your weight loss has made someone else jealous.... that means that you are doing AWESOME! Get used to it. Not everyone will be happy for you or supportive.... take it from someone who knows.

i didn't read all the pages of this (stopped after page one) but i would say the best thing you could do is act like you never heard any of that conversation and tell her (when no one else is around, and of course make sure to look around like you are making sure no one else is around and going to hear you) "you know, if you ever want some help losing weight yourself i would love to share how i did it with you,just let me know." this goes best with no sly smile or any laugh or anything, just a serious and meaningful "i really care that you are unhealthily overweight" look. this will at least piss her off, and she won't think you are doing it for any reason other than one friend trying to help another