A bit of a rant.

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  • jilliew
    jilliew Posts: 255 Member
    I recently put my profile picture of my weight loss on Facebook. I am very proud of how far I have come along and got nothing but encouraging words from all of my friends. My best friend's sister in law saw me a couple of days ago (she is pretty big herself). She told me how skinny I was and that she hated me (kidding of course, or so I thought she was) and that she thought that the picture I put up on Facebook was photoshopped. I told her "My God if I could photoshop" and left. I went back to my friend's house, she was still there. Before I knocked I heard her sister in law say that I hadn't even lost that much weight, that I wasn't even that pretty, that my before picture was so embarassing and that it was awfully tacky that I put a before and after picture up when I wasn't even done loosing weight. My friend told her "well she has lost 45 pounds and I think she looks good":smokin: I left. Of course it made me mad but I am a lady and will not stoop down for anyone. I am not one to care what people think (much) but what is her problem? Why do SOME women have to be so catty with each other? This is my life right? Let me be. It's my friend's birthday monday and I know she will be there. She is a hypocrite and will act like we are the bestest friends in the world. :noway: Do I tell her something? Just leave it alone? What would you do?

    I HATE backstabbers. If you have something to say, say it to my face or keep it to yourself.

    I would have walked in, made it clear that I heard every word she said but I don't care what she thinks. Go to the birthday, have a great time, and don't go out of your way to talk to her. Ever again. You don't need that negativity in your life, especially with friends around that obviously support you. They deserve your attention, not her.
  • Miribg
    Miribg Posts: 149 Member
    Do something nice for her.
    Like, give her all of your "fat" clothing and explain to her that they are simply too big for you now but, they might fit her.

    My God I hadn't thought of that. I will offer her my fat clothes!!! SCORE! :devil:
  • Miribg
    Miribg Posts: 149 Member
    Thank you all. I was just bothered a bit because I am not like that. I like to be a good friend and associate with positive people. Never really had to deal with a backstabber in my group of friends. It was bound to happen. :laugh:
  • Miribg
    Miribg Posts: 149 Member
    I would hand her my piece of cake and say something like "I love my body too much to eat this, but obviously don't care, so here, have mine." :drinker: :laugh:

    I will cut the cake (my friend always asks me to do it at any party she has) and hand her the biggest slice ever and tell her she can eat mine AND hers because I quit cake....lol
  • stephinpitts
    stephinpitts Posts: 33
    Do something nice for her.
    Like, give her all of your "fat" clothing and explain to her that they are simply too big for you now but, they might fit her.

    My God I hadn't thought of that. I will offer her my fat clothes!!! SCORE! :devil:

    Oh, that's beautiful. XD
  • Dayna154
    Dayna154 Posts: 910 Member
    Dont own her negativity. Keep the positive and lose the negative along with the weight you are losing.
    IMO I think you look great and have done an awesome job so far..
    You look great!
  • FitCurves444
    FitCurves444 Posts: 169 Member
    Congratulations! Your weight loss has made someone else jealous.... that means that you are doing AWESOME! Get used to it. Not everyone will be happy for you or supportive.... take it from someone who knows.
  • drusilla126
    drusilla126 Posts: 478 Member
    Don't let the haters get you down. Jealousy is an ugly thing. Your progress is amazing and a total inspiration. I myself am still over 200 pounds so to see someone make progress like you is beyond motivating. I love seeing that it CAN be done.
  • BenChase
    BenChase Posts: 169
    i didn't read all the pages of this (stopped after page one) but i would say the best thing you could do is act like you never heard any of that conversation and tell her (when no one else is around, and of course make sure to look around like you are making sure no one else is around and going to hear you) "you know, if you ever want some help losing weight yourself i would love to share how i did it with you,just let me know." this goes best with no sly smile or any laugh or anything, just a serious and meaningful "i really care that you are unhealthily overweight" look. this will at least piss her off, and she won't think you are doing it for any reason other than one friend trying to help another :D
  • BenChase
    BenChase Posts: 169
    oooops. forgot to add you do look amazing and you can tell a change from one pic to the next, just like everyone else is saying ;)
  • VogtAndrea
    VogtAndrea Posts: 236
    Sometimes family can be your biggest detractor and your biggest critics. Look to members of your family that aren't cutting you down and take what they have to say as having meaning in your life - - not those who obviously don't have your wellbeing at heart.
    Besides, in a couple of months when you're strictly having to maintain your loss, you can blow them raspberries and gloat.
  • amberrrrh
    amberrrrh Posts: 63 Member
    She's jealous with a capital J. See, if I were you i couldnt not say something cause i'd be fuming the whole timee.. haha

    i'd doll it up, wear your cutest outfit, make your hair look fab and be fabulous in your new body!
    let her be jealous. 45 pounds is amazing and dont let anyone tell you different!
  • Robin_Bin
    Robin_Bin Posts: 1,046 Member
    Rant away... hope it makes you feel better. (I'm responding to the initial post, haven't read all the other responses.)

    But I suggest focussing on how your friend defended you and said good things about you. Her sister-in-law is not your friend, and your poor friend is stuck with her by marriage not by choice. She's your friend by choice, and apparently loyal. If you can help it, I wouldn't waste my energy on the s-i-l. She's obviously jealous and mean-spirited. Stay away from people like that as much as possible. I wouldn't bother to confront her, it probably won't help anything. And although you didn't do it intentionally, eavesdropping is not a good thing either. Confronting the s-i-l will also put your friend in a more difficult position, and she'd done nothing to deserve that.

    You've done great! Your friend is a true friend. Try to ignore the nasty background from people whose opinion isn't even worth your time and energy. And when you can't completely ignore it, rant to others, like here.

    :smile:

    Oh, and p.s., if she can't see how much better you look and how pretty you are, she must have a problem with her vision too.

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