i JUST wANNA SCREAM!

You should bother, you could be in trouble, agencies and courts don't care about your excuse. If the situation is how you say it is then they will fix what is necessary and you will come out on the other side of the paperwork. You are a mother and you need to stay out of trouble if not for yourself, then for your child.

My dad never paid child support or was a part of my life, but the year my mom had moved to NJ and was in the process of divorcing him, he owned a business and failed to pay taxes. Regarless of how fair it was, SHE was held responsible even though her name wasn't even associated with the business. She paid and then fought back not vice versa.

YOU are in a much better position than she was because we now have a ways of tracking and arresting the deadbeats. There is system called, The Interstate Data Exchange Consortium (formerly the Electronic Parent Locator Network (EPLN), it allows caseworkers instant access to millions of state government records from participating states through networked databases. Some state Fish and Game won't issue licenses for people in rears and there is usually a sherrif's officer standing by when you go to pick it up. There are so many new and improved ways of going after people who fail to meet the fiscal requirments of biologically creating a child I couldn't name them all.

Point is- let this system work for you instead of fighting it, it has come a really long way.

My mom divorced my biological father when I was 3 years old and married my step dad the same year. He never paid child support for me and my sisters. He signed us off as his kids so he wouldn't have to pay child support and my step dad adopted me and my sisters when I was 8 years old. We still visited our grandmother (my biological father's mother) because it was our decision and he lived in the same apartment building as her so we had to see him too. The last time I saw him and his mother was at my great grandmother's funeral when I was 19 or 20 years old and that's the last time I saw either of them. I did get a call from her after I got married in 2008 but I haven't heard from her since.

It's crazy to me how sum men really just don't seem to care I don"t speak badly of him around her because it is still her dad but she now old enough make up her own mind about him, i asked her a few months ago did she call him on his bday her response was did he call me on mine? It really is sad!

THIS IS NOT FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!!

THIS IS NOT FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!!

But it IS "chit chat fun and games" on a fitness minded website. Whatever issues personally we could have going on people could possibly need support for.
If you have an issue with this, perhaps Chit Chat isn't the correct venue for you.

Okay first off. That was really hard to read. But I empathize with your situation so I muscled through it.

I applaud you for trying to stay off welfare, however, you really need to continue to pursue him for child support. He has a legal responsibility to his daughter, and if you don't hold him accountable for that, then he never will be.

As far as your daughter being unappreciative, I can relate. Mine is 13 and when she is mad at me I hear "I wanna go live with daddy!" To which I reply, "Great, he can pay your phone bill!" Which he won't so that usually brings an end to that.

It's hard as a single mom. But you continue to be strong and love her as much as you can. Remember that the child support is for her, and giving up because the system is difficult to deal with is really just letting her down.

All my best! :flowerforyou: Please try to use some punctuation in the future! I haven't read the thread, but I'm sure you've been trolled quite a bit for the lack of it.

THIS IS NOT FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!!

Really? Ya'll have to jump on her? That's sad.

I took the time to read it and I'm sorry hun. The system sucks and some dads are dilholes. You might never get a dime from him just keep doing what's best for your daughter. Good luck.