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Sorry to hear that, Tender. You deserve someone who is excited to be with you. Screw that ambivalent dude. Remember the hurt is temporary and leaves you open for something much more rewarding. Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

You were created to be loved and cherished and embraced and encouraged and lifted up by your partner. You should seek only that man who will give himself to you completely and want to love and cherish you forever. Don't settle for less.

If someone doesn't seem to be able to make a decision about whether or not they want you or not, then I believe this is where you have to be the strong one and set them free. Then turn the love you had for him inwardly and learn to love yourself enough to know that you are worth being happy and with someone who doesn't have trouble making that decision. That sort of thing can be a millstone around your neck especially if you're trying to make yourself better, so take that burden off of yourself. I would rather be alone (and I was for a long time!) than trying to be with someone who didn't want me. Here's to making your way back to the happy! :flowerforyou:

:::hugs:::: the end of one thing, is a beginning of the next!

Heartache is only temporary, happiness is forever. Remember that.

Sorry to hear that, Tender. You deserve someone who is excited to be with you. Screw that ambivalent dude. Remember the hurt is temporary and leaves you open for something much more rewarding. Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

This. If he won't cut you loose and he won't commit, time to cut yourself loose.

Channel that hurt into motivation to work through your pain and strive for your goals.
The best revenge is to live well.
So, why don;t you?
:flowerforyou:

Don't ever make someone a priority if they have clearly made you an option.


**Big Hug**

Sorry to hear that, Tender. You deserve someone who is excited to be with you. Screw that ambivalent dude. Remember the hurt is temporary and leaves you open for something much more rewarding. Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

^^Wise advice, sometimes you just gotta let fate take hold.:flowerforyou:

You were created to be loved and cherished and embraced and encouraged and lifted up by your partner. You should seek only that man who will give himself to you completely and want to love and cherish you forever. Don't settle for less.

THIS. If he's not measuring up, cut him lose rather than wait for him to figure his wants out -- if he wanted you like you deserve, you'd know it. I'm sorry, though, because I know it still hurts. If only it were as easy as turning our emotions off once we knew they were taking us someplace unhealthy! Set yourself free, allow yourself to mourn the possibilities and dreams lost with that person, and then unleash your fabulous self on the world so the RIGHT person can find you and love you and cherish you like we all deserve.

Ouch....been there done that...I hope you feel better soon...*hugs* Be strong, hold your head high.
If he doesn´t want you then he doesn´t deserve you.

I'm going through something similar, it is hard, especially when you are still "in it" and they seem like you are no big deal any more. My wife has always been the one going after me and then we got in to an argument about her daughter, and she started packing her things, I called her bluff and didn't act upset, was letting her go. And now she's giving me the "but I'm still here, I never wanted to leave" sooo... why were you packing up your stuff then? I'm really lost on what to do with this situation. I kinda want her to leave but I know that it will be the worst pain ever. :brokenheart:
Hopefully we will all find our way, I agree with all the responses that you have to just take care of yourself, you are the only one that you can always count on.

Feeling sad and lonely lately...been kind of down...tired of a man that can't seem to make up his mind about what he wants...which, to me, pretty much says he has and he just doesn't want to admit it to me. Maybe feeling down because I'm realizing it's the end of something I don't want to end and knowing the hurt I feel now is nothing compared to the hurt I'll feel when I fully accept the way things are. Again, just feeling sad & lonely. :frown: :brokenheart:

I feel ya. On all of those accounts. Just jump into your goals and try to forget people who are nothing but cement shoes...I need to take my own advice... anywho, chin up, buttercup. Wait till he sees you at your goal weight.

Feeling sad and lonely lately...been kind of down...tired of a man that can't seem to make up his mind about what he wants...which, to me, pretty much says he has and he just doesn't want to admit it to me. Maybe feeling down because I'm realizing it's the end of something I don't want to end and knowing the hurt I feel now is nothing compared to the hurt I'll feel when I fully accept the way things are. Again, just feeling sad & lonely. :frown: :brokenheart:

I just went through a phase with my hubby where we didn't know if we wanted to be together. I am glad we had our differences worked out - and I decided to live how I want to

If I might put in my 2 cents if it's time to go, it's time to go. Start an exit strategy if you haven't already, give yourself a safety net for whatever reason he will be out of your life. Getting healthy is a great way to start, but other things like finances and emotional support etc should be arranged so you have something to catch you if things get bumpy (IMHO)