Need suggestions to help my loving husband. :)

If he's got a mindset of Atkins being the only way ,you might try a different approach and show him the Atkins website.......there's a great community of supportive people there and lots of ideas for meals,etc........just like any approach to weight loss.....if he sticks with it,it works.(I'm not doing Atkins btw......I just try to have an open mind)

I have a friend like that too. She ALWAYS, EVERY DAY says how much she needs to lose the weight but she won't do anything about it. Even if she would just log her calories she would be amazed. Noooooo. She likes to eat. A LOT.
I just show her successful people who have lost weight in hopes it will stir her motivation to do something. When she's ready I will be there to support her.

I don't have any real advice for you. However, my husband is similar.

I have been fairly diligent about logging my food and exercise since the beginning of the year, and trained and completed a half marathon. He told me after the race that he felt left out. I always tell him, then join me! He has full access to a gym and pool for FREE through work, but hasn't ever wanted to use it. I would encourage him to do fitness tapes with me, and he would say no, he doesn't like them, but then sulk because I was going to work out without him, anyway.

But, then at the end of June, I started P90x. Two weeks in, again feeling like he was missing out, he started P90x. Now, we work out together, YAY! Victory!!, Next week is the last week of Phase 1 for us. It is kicking our butts, but in a good way!

You can't force it, but be supportive. I focused on the healthy benefits more than a goal weight or size. I told him I was concerned because of medical conditions in his family that I didn't want him to be at risk for...yada yada.

I suppose it also helps that I am the main meal planner/grocery shopper/cook in our house - so everyone is on the health(ier) eating journey whether they like it or not! Haha.

As a person who's normally been the heavy one in a relationship, I always wished my partners would leave me the hell alone. I knew they meant well. I knew they did it out of love (well one of them). But it wasn't something someone could jump start in me. I only lost the weight when I came to the decision. Just as I am the one putting on the brakes this time after re-gaining some of what I lost. To me, there is no good way to do it that doesn't somehow include an overtone of disapproval or dissatisfaction on your part in a situation where people tend to be territorial and sensitive. It makes people resentful.

In an odd twist, my marriage ended because of something like what you're talking about. My father is a terrible diabetic. I watched them cut away pieces of my Aunt due to diabetes until it finally ended her life. My Uncle is a double amputee due to health complications from diabetes.

When my then husband and I were both diagnosed within months of each other with diabetes, I got busy. He did not. He would not. He, in fact seemed to do everything to go in the opposite direction. He even refused to take medication. After a time, we drifted so far apart as I got in shape and became active (ultimately no longer diabetic) and he continued to sit on the sofa playing video games that we were strangers to each other.

I could not live with the thought of watching him go through what I saw everyone in my family go through.

No matter what, though, I really don't think you can muster up interest out of dust. Possibly counseling?

My husband also needs to lose a significant amount of weight and has resisted joining MFP. In an effort to do what I can, I recently started an account for him (yes, he's aware of it) and log in all the meals I prepare for him. Since I buy the groceries and prepare all the meals, it's been fairly easy. He eats what I cook without complaint, but will occasionally buy himself a snack at work or eat goodies that someone takes in to work. He'll tell me what he ate and I'll add it in (at the highest calories I find).

When I first started changing the way I eat, he was VERY resistant and fussed about what I bought and cooked. He never tried to stop me from going to the gym, though. After a while (and a few arguments), he conceded and started enjoying the meals I prepared. So much, in fact, that he would request certain foods that he previously insisted he didn't like. He also started joining me on my trips to the gym. Slowly, but surely, he's getting there. I know it will be a while before he takes the initiative to log in on his own, but I'm more than willing to do it for him until then. I want my man to be as healthy as he can be, so I'll do what I can.

Maybe if you act like it's a secret society you don't want him to be a part of he will join:) Congrats on your success!

Ha!!! This might work!! Thank you!!

not a chance. Men don't care about women secrets.....honestly. Tell him about all of the women on here that post bikini/chest/leg shots. Get him to try the site on a Friday. That's more likely to get him on here.

when he can't physically do stuff that your doing due to weight and starts getting left out he might get some motivation. if someone had pushed me into my weight loss no way would I have done it :P had to figgure it out the hard way for it to sink into my thick man skull.

Sorry if someone has already mentioned this...is he competitive or rewards driven? If he is, try to use that to your advantage (set up mini challenges between the two of you, set goals & rewards, etc). You don't have to get him to join MFP to share the principles of it with him. My girlfriend installed MFP on my phone way before I started using it and bugged me to get on it...I agree that you have to want to make that change to really commit to it.