Men is this really true?!

crystalslight
crystalslight Posts: 322 Member
edited December 26 in Chit-Chat
Talking to my husband and his friend tonight. We got on the topic that I would like to get Breast Implants and a tummy tuck.
My husbands friend says "What's the point?"
Basically my husband is stuck with me. Although he would like to have a different girl every night. Preferably young with NO kids. Since he can't... He probably has to look at porn to get horny and I am just a warm place to put it.
"Guys like something NEW." His EXACT words..
My question do guys really feel like this?
If so...Why the hell am I trying so hard to look good?
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  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
    C'mon, did you really not know that?
  • krue1971
    krue1971 Posts: 167 Member
    That's bull****, not to put too fine a point on it.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    I'll bet some men are like that. Your *kitten* of a friend for one.
    But many many more are nowhere like that at all.
    Get fit for yourself, if hubby gets to enjoy the view, well that's just a bonus.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    All men are satan's minions and all women are angels.

    All men look for in a women is a pulse and a hole

    Whereas women are fragile flowers who only love and devote themselves to one person forever and forever, only to have their heart broken by that man

    Women are so oppressed :(
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
    Maybe for some, but definitely not for me.
    Stuck? That's b.s. If that's a guys view point, why be married? Divorce is the solution for "stuck."

    I think breast plants are awesome.
    I also don't want to bang a different girl everynight.
    If I was in his situation, I'd be like "heck ya implants!"

    I like variety, but by variety I mean outfits, positions, role play... etc...

    Edit: and wtf about warm place to put it? If he feels that way, he can put it on a frying pan.
    Seriously. What a dumb *kitten*. Him and his friend deserve each other.
    If anything is a waste of time, it's them.
  • JilianneNicole
    JilianneNicole Posts: 116 Member
    Sorry, but your husbands friend sounds like a REAL *kitten*!!!!!!

    Ummm...no not all guys feel like this!!!

    And as much as you want to look good for him you should look good for yourself. Because you love feeling healthy and you love the way you look and feel! I started my journey doing it for my husband and kids and while I am doing it for them to a certain level I want to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see because if i love myself and I am happy with how I feel it can't help, but to spill over into all other aspects of your life. So keep working hard and kicking *kitten* because you deserve it girl! We all do!!
  • hendrijm
    hendrijm Posts: 27 Member
    I'll bet some men are like that. Your *kitten* of a friend for one.
    But many many more are nowhere like that at all.
    Get fit for yourself, if hubby gets to enjoy the view, well that's just a bonus.


    ^^ this!
  • jwerdlike
    jwerdlike Posts: 14 Member
    Do what ultimately makes you happy. My wife wants to get the same things done and I fully support her in her decision to do so, not because I'm some shallow a**hole but because I support what will make her happy and have better self-confidence (as she puts it). The ultimate decision is yours and yours alone.
  • 1a1a
    1a1a Posts: 761 Member
    They can't all be like that, I lost weight and my boy is Less interested in me now (although he is fond of dress ups, on me, changing things up...)

    Totally agree get healthy for you and stay with your boy only if he lifts you up, not if he gets you down.
  • dkweathington
    dkweathington Posts: 69 Member
    Girl, guys like that are just.....not worth it. They probably have issues of their own and this is how it is coming to the surface. It is sad, but they usually end up miserable and alone. There are good guys out there. I married one and thank God for him everyday.
  • RainRedfield
    RainRedfield Posts: 597 Member
    Quite honestly... Guys don't want SOMEONE new... But it's nice to mix things up a bit in the passionate side of the relationship.

    You are bettering yourself and I'm certain he notices and appreciates it.

    A guy wants a girl who he is comfortable enough with to know what makes each others buzzers go off. ;)
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    i can see it both ways.
  • darrcn5
    darrcn5 Posts: 495 Member
    Some men may be like that (just like some women are), but I am guessing the majority of men in a happy, committed relationship appreciate it and notice when their gal is trying to improve her appearance.
  • VogtAndrea
    VogtAndrea Posts: 236
    If your husband's friend is so crass as to say something like that, he's not your friend.
    This isn't about what he thinks anyway; this is about the you that you can be outwardly. I'd bet you're a wonderful person on the inside and you're definitely working towards being the person you can be on the outside.
    Consider the source and just don't think about it anymore. The source is not the one in your bed.
  • MustBeTheRows
    MustBeTheRows Posts: 377 Member
    Some people are this way... not me. I'm in a relationship with my best friend, I don't want anyone but her.
  • Bagman12002
    Bagman12002 Posts: 216 Member
    Umm nope...

    You need to be happy for you and if that is what you need or want then cool. good luck and you look great just like you do.
  • dhiannon
    dhiannon Posts: 111 Member
    Oh please! Not all men are the same just like all women are the same.

    If you are a shallow person of course you'll think like this but honestly that says more about that person then anything else.

    My partner is nowehere near the stero type of 'all men' he appreicates and loves me for who I am, fat or thin. I am not the most attractive person in the world but he makes me feel beautiful every single day.

    Your husband friend is a d*ck to be honest and you should only work on yourself FOR yourself. Dont change anything about yourself because if your husband really loves you than what you are is enough already.
  • Turtlehurdle
    Turtlehurdle Posts: 412
    Talking to my husband and his friend tonight. We got on the topic that I would like to get Breast Implants and a tummy tuck.
    My husbands friend says "What's the point?"
    Basically my husband is stuck with me. Although he would like to have a different girl every night. Preferably young with NO kids. Since he can't... He probably has to look at porn to get horny and I am just a warm place to put it.
    "Guys like something NEW." His EXACT words..
    My question do guys really feel like this?
    If so...Why the hell am I trying so hard to look good?

    Aren't you trying to look good for yourself?
  • hedgiie
    hedgiie Posts: 1,226 Member
    not true at all, for me i like to be intimate with someone who i'm very close in terms of emotional, phycological and maturity level. and this also makes me comfortable hence more fun..

    clearly there is something wrong with your man. or maybe he not ready to settle.
  • dhiannon
    dhiannon Posts: 111 Member
    Some people are this way... not me. I'm in a relationship with my best friend, I don't want anyone but her.


    ^^^ a true example of a REAL man in love. xx
  • xarge
    xarge Posts: 484 Member
    Maybe for some, but definitely not for me.
    Stuck? That's b.s. If that's a guys view point, why be married? Divorce is the solution for "stuck."

    I think breast plants are awesome.
    I also don't want to bang a different girl everynight.
    If I was in his situation, I'd be like "heck ya implants!"

    I like variety, but by variety I mean outfits, positions, role play... etc...

    Edit: and wtf about warm place to put it? If he feels that way, he can put it on a frying pan.
    Seriously. What a dumb *kitten*. Him and his friend deserve each other.
    If anything is a waste of time, it's them.

    ^This. And I almost choked when I read the frying pan.
  • iamihobo
    iamihobo Posts: 232 Member
    One, I can't possibly image why on earth you of all people would need a tummy tuck, and I would say if you were going to do Anything to your body at all don't ever do it for someone else.
    I don't think all men are like that, but I think women listening to men that are and changing themselves to fit that only encourages it and breeds more of it.

    I think you're gorgeous, from woman to woman lol
  • dkweathington
    dkweathington Posts: 69 Member
    Some people are this way... not me. I'm in a relationship with my best friend, I don't want anyone but her.


    ^^^ a true example of a REAL man in love. xx

    agreed
  • dvisser1
    dvisser1 Posts: 788 Member
    That's bull****, not to put too fine a point on it.

    Agreed. While some men are immature, the majority are not.
  • recoiljpr
    recoiljpr Posts: 292
    Some people are this way... not me. I'm in a relationship with my best friend, I don't want anyone but her.
    ^^^ a true example of a REAL man in love. xx

    Or a man who's woman is on MFP and he doesn't want to get kicked in the nards...

    ;-)
  • Katalyst77
    Katalyst77 Posts: 79

    I think breast plants are awesome.
  • Katahna
    Katahna Posts: 326 Member
    Talking to my husband and his friend tonight. We got on the topic that I would like to get Breast Implants and a tummy tuck.
    My husbands friend says "What's the point?"
    Basically my husband is stuck with me. Although he would like to have a different girl every night. Preferably young with NO kids. Since he can't... He probably has to look at porn to get horny and I am just a warm place to put it.
    "Guys like something NEW." His EXACT words..
    My question do guys really feel like this?
    If so...Why the hell am I trying so hard to look good?

    I can't imagine any man feeling that way with you as a wife... what the!
  • Katalyst77
    Katalyst77 Posts: 79
    What exactly are "breast plants"? Do they grow in any type of soil? What about zone? I live in northern michigan...can we grow breast plants here? Hmmm... my husband loves breasts... and his birthday is coming up... ;P
  • icreate
    icreate Posts: 60
    Ops im guilty :ohwell: :ohwell: :ohwell: :ohwell:
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    He probably has to look at porn to get horny and I am just a warm place to put it.

    Probably? Girl, that's pretty sad you're feeling that way. I hope you two talk about this and work things out.
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