Comments on Weight Loss by friends/family

mhlew

I was curious what the general opinion was on this topic, but are most people hesitent to comment on weight loss? I am dying to hear my friends say "you look like your losing weight" or "have you lost weight?".

I have received maybe 3 comments one from my Mom, and the other from a friend (granted I have a lot to lose, I dont think 16 pounds is super noticeable yet going from 293 to 278) but in comparison pictures you can see it.

One friend who I am close with she said a lot of people do not like to give compliments. Now before everyone says "dont worry about comments, you need to do this for you and your health blah blah" Yes - these are my reasons too for losing weight, but a big motivator is looking and feeling great and people taking notice. I think that is awesome when peole take notice of your hard work. Thoughts?

mhoeff1

I have lost 40 pounds and I may have received 3 compliments and I can tell a difference. Your friend is right people don’t like to give compliments we come from a world of complainers and haters. Your doing great and I bet when you get to goal you will get compliments.

MrsATrotta

I love it when ppl comment on weight loss but it doesn't always happen lol. I have gone from 258 to 212 and the same ppl (closee friends and family) are the ones noticing and commenting. Not one person at work has mentioned my nearly 50 lb loss. It is what it is. I know someday I'm gonna walk into work wearing the right shirt or just looking good and someone will say something but until then I just keep at it

lolabluola

I think sometimes someone may think if they say you look like you've lost weight they are saying they noticed you looked over weight before? Also it may not be appropriate in the workplace for comments on appearance? So if people close to you are noticing that's fantastic, other people may not feel comfortable commenting on weight.

JoshD8705

I like the comments on my muscle gains more than my weight loss, but both are nice. I've had a few of both. It did feel good when my niece was able to give me a full hug, and she said I was getting small lol.

goanothermile

Weight loss happens relatively slowly. People you see every day don't suddenly see a change. In my experience, you are more likely to get a comment from someone that you haven't seen in a while.

Zerodette

Some people may avoid saying anything for fear of awkwardness. "You look great! I mean, you looked great before... I mean..."

mz_getskinny

I swear, some days I feel like I just do it for the compliments! lol I'm kidding...but compliments = confidence in my book!

GenesiaElizabeth

mhoeff1 wrote: »

I have lost 40 pounds and I may have received 3 compliments and I can tell a difference. Your friend is right people don’t like to give compliments we come from a world of complainers and haters. Your doing great and I bet when you get to goal you will get compliments.

I've hard my share of this as well and I agree.. ^^

headofphat

If someone gives you a compliment remain humble and say thanks.
If someone doesn't give you a compliment it doesn't mean they didn't notice but they don't want to comment on it because maybe they're not sure. I've lost 90lbs and when people compliment me they usually say something like, "you're looking good" or "you look like you've lost some weight". I usually smile and say thanks for noticing (instead of "hell yes i look good" or "some weight? really? i've lost a Victoria's Secret model.")

GenesiaElizabeth

headofphat wrote: »

If someone gives you a compliment remain humble and say thanks.
If someone doesn't give you a compliment it doesn't mean they didn't notice but they don't want to comment on it because maybe they're not sure. I've lost 90lbs and when people compliment me they usually say something like, "you're looking good" or "you look like you've lost some weight". I usually smile and say thanks for noticing (instead of "hell yes i look good" or "some weight? really? i've lost a Victoria's Secret model.")

I need to be like you...

lmkpete

I lost over 40 pounds in 6 months and went to visit family that hadn't seen me in over a year -nothing was said which was disappointing.
So I try to remind myself that most people never mentioned when I was putting on 20, 30,40 and more pounds...
I have noticed that after maintaining for awhile and toning up I've had more comments which is appreciated!
I think there is something to co-workers not saying anything because it is the work place. Seems like even positive things are taken out of context and offends someone so most people do notice but will keep it to themselves.

Yoles79

I love to compliment. Great job keep it up whether people comment or not. You know the saying misery loves company.

AskTracyAnnK28

I've received a lot of them this week. Funny thing is that they are from co-workers/colleagues who I rarely speak to or interact with

But yeah - they all started out by saying (on the down low) "have you lost weight?" One guy was funny and was like "Please don't narc me out to HR but you look awesome!" lololol

ChronicOptimist

I've lost 68 pounds so far and to be honest the only people who have commented are people who know I'm working to lose weight. Sure, it would be nice for others to notice, but I trust that they are noticing, they are just choosing not to comment for whatever reason.

I was with a friend last summer who ran into someone she knew and she made a comment about how that person was looking "So thin and so tan!" Turned out the person she was complimenting was losing weight from liver failure and the "tan" was actually jaundice. So... some people can just get a little gun shy about compliments in that vein!

Remember to give YOURSELF compliments every day! I know that I am my own harshest critic and the best thing I can do is look at myself in the mirror for a moment and feel really proud. That feels better than any comment from another person!

BRobertson23

I'm pretty sure I tooted my own horn several times before others really started to verbally take notice. But I lost weight with my family, and my husband was my biggest supporter and workout buddy, so the things that we got excited about we'd share with each other or make comments to each other.....because if no one else could, WE noticed a difference! One of the things that I did when I was about a month or more into our weight loss, was started doing those 30 Day Challenges. I would post EVERY DAY when I completed the day's challenge. Eventually people realized I was serious about this, and as I posted pictures or went on visits, people noticed and commented more. If you've just begun your journey, give it time, people will start to take notice...if they don't acknowledge your weightloss, they should hopefully see that your healthier and happier!

cosmichvoyager

yep, it is terrible to tell someone--"oh, you lost weight!" only to find out it's because they have been sick or something. I think that keeps people from saying anything about weight loss.

Ronij59

I think it is a firm concessus across the board that none of us get many comments and when we do they are either very very sincere or very backhanded and far and few between. WE do definately live in a society of self conscience people and they are afraid to say anything because of the stigma and all the sexual harasment that has run rampant in the workplace. People in general are just scared these days. When I take a walk I say hi to everyone I see. Very rarely do I get greeted first. I figure "oh well". Also think of this. When you get down to where you want to be and you have been on maintenance, no one will ever notice. You will just be as you are now. No one will have known that you were bigger than you are now and so when they see you they are NOT going to see anything different than who you are. So just relish in the fact that you have been successful and dont worry about what others may or may not say.

Cortneyrenee04

They'll comment soon- you'll see! I've heard that the more weight you have to lose, the longer it takes for people to notice, especially when they see you a lot.

I think people started to comment when I was at the 20 pound lost mark (a little under 1/3 of the way through.)

shballa

People started to notice when I had to buy clothes in a smaller size. I tried to hold onto the old clothes as long as possible. And when I went shopping, I found out I had shrunk 3 sizes!

kharmon2013

Im really encouraged by the compliments, but most of them come from family or close friends who have seen the hard work. Everyonce in awhile someone else says something, and I get a little bounce to my step I would say it depends on body type, and where you show your weight.