So I finally had first hand experience......

MelodyandBarbells

sjaplo wrote: »

JaneiR36 wrote: »

Kalikel wrote: »

He may have just been trying to strike up a conversation and felt rebuffed when you made the "eating less and moving more" comment.

I... Agree with this I think

I get more of a discussion when I say I'm counting calories using MyFitnessPal. "Oh is that that app where you load in all the food you eat and it gives you credit for exercise? No way!" There's all kinds Of things you can um... "Push" in a conversation like that if you want. The phone app and how accessible it can be, etc. Still, people aren't necessarily interested in your life story when they ask this question, but move more eat less could be taken to be a tad santimonious since everyone knows that's what needs to happen to lose weight. If they're truly curious I think they might want to know what made it click for you, and MFP and any specific exercise, for example, which you've grown to love is a fairly specific ace in the hole

I'm going to have to disagree with both these comments and fall on the side of he lost interest because I wasn't doing some fad diet that he could emulate. We had been in a meeting for two hours - striking up a conversation wasn't necessary. We were on our way out the door.

I also disagree with "...since everyone knows that's what needs to happen to lose weight." They don't - or they don't want to believe it - otherwise the diet industry wouldn't exist.

In previous yoyo sessions with weight I've made the mistake of talking about the process, whether it's low glycemic, low fat high carb or mfp. The animosity and comments I got from friends and family were at times puzzling, and at other times hurtful. This time I've been quiet for 10 months and I promised myself I wasn't going to discuss it unless someone was genuinely interested in learning what seems to be different for me this time.

I'm sure someone will eventually cross that threshold, but this wasn't the time.

Actually the more caring coworkers may attempt to have an actual conversation with you about your life after spending an hour nitpicking over the drudgery that may be our day to day jobs. Sometimes we just walk back to our desks afterwards. Other times we may attempt to strike conversations about our hobbies or what's going on in our lives on the way out. A one of two hour meeting does not preclude the possibility that they just wanted to have a nice chat

Oh and while I generally would not ask people about their weight loss at work, I definitely would not do it in a professional meeting in a room full of people!!!

RHachicho

SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish wrote: »

I used to think its ironic nobody is interested in the real answer unless its something "sensational" too. But, the big problem is, if people are genuinely interested, they want something they can "take with them" to do themselves. "Watching what I eat" is not something you can take with you...what is that exactly? How? Within what rules? Wait I watch what I eat and I'm not losing!...and then the myriad of questions that you get on this site that happens daily must be talked about and answered. But this was a quick question to be social most of the time, not a lengthy interview, so even if you want to ask these questions, you cant really and this kind of discussion can't happen. So, interest fades.

I second this the person probably wanted specifics. Simply saying what you said might have seemed like condescension. People who are big and don't like the fact that they are big tend to be a bit self conscious about it. If someone asks again tell them you calorie count and go into a bit of depth about how you exercise. I am sure many people would be more interested then.

sjaplo

SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish wrote: »

I used to think its ironic nobody is interested in the real answer unless its something "sensational" too. But, the big problem is, if people are genuinely interested, they want something they can "take with them" to do themselves. "Watching what I eat" is not something you can take with you...what is that exactly? How? Within what rules? Wait I watch what I eat and I'm not losing!...and then the myriad of questions that you get on this site that happens daily must be talked about and answered. But this was a quick question to be social most of the time, not a lengthy interview, so even if you want to ask these questions, you cant really and this kind of discussion can't happen. So, interest fades.

You make a very good point!