Getting tired of this *kitten*

slimforparis

Hi I am 203lb (now) and I'm training to run a 5k next month using the Zombies Run!! smartphone app, which I love. What I do not love is that whenever I go out on a training run I have to deal with with men and boys who I don't even know making fun of me, shouting comments at me about my breasts and/or nipples and even for the first time this week taking pictures of me with their phones.

Sometimes this makes me want to cry, other times scream and roar and stamp my feet when I get home and talk to my husband about it.

I seem to be able to avoid this by getting up really early to go out and train or very late at night but why the chuff should I???!! Today it is a perfect sunny Spring day and I went out to enjoy the sunshine and feel good about myself. Thanks to a group of bullying twunts shouting obscene comments at me and about me across the street I don't feel good I feel upset and angry. Worse than that I felt like giving up - I won't because I value myself above them and their nastiness.

And they wonder why fewer women do sport!?!!

Rant over, thanks for listening.

jfauci

Don't let a bunch of a$$es stop you from doing what you want to do! Put on some music and tune out the fools of the world. You should be proud of what you are doing and I know you will get the last laugh!! Hang in there!

khall86790

That is disgusting! Do you live in the UK? If so this doesn't surprise me at all, it's full of dirty little hood rats who have no respect for anyone.

Personally, I haven't encountered this problem as I didn't run whilst living in England (probably this is the reason why as people are *kitten* holes!) but I do get self conscious about my chest and have had a few lingering stares/smiles from men which have made me feel a little uncomfortable. But I just try to remain focused on my goals and speed my pace up as I pass them in order to forget about it sooner, so I try to use it to my advantage any of the times I have been made to feel uncomfortable.

May I suggest a different route? Maybe there is a proper track close enough you can walk to and run around that so everyone else is running too, where I run is where a lot of people run so you don't tend to get people even noticing you as they are too busy running too.

jenniferwren

wtf is wrong with men :explode: my only suggestion is to maybe join a running club, my husband did last year and it's full of men and women who train together for different events, he started with a 5k in the rookie running group. Huggies xxxx

servilia

Ugh this is really horrible. I'm sorry

allshebe

If you are top heavy, it may help to invest in a really good sports bra. This is not just for the observers, but your own comfort, if your breasts are "unstable" in your current attire. Kudos to you for even trying a 5k. I'm lighter than you and limit my running to beating the cross traffic at intersections when I'm out walking (but not feeling as unwieldy doing it as when I was 25 pounds heavier).

Hazel0096

I feel your pain. I was "moo"ed at one day while I was out running.

Now, I've been having trouble with my knees so I can't run right now so I either just stay in and do a video or the stationary bike.

It sucks and I don't have any advice about how to make them stop or accept it. There is no reason you should accept it.

amandamurdaugh

Keep blocking those negative comments out of your head! You are doing what they can only dream of doing!

redrosepink09

That is just sick!! I say you just go out there and do what makes you happy! Don't care what they say/do. You will be the one laughing when you are running circles around them! Keep it up, dont let them get you down!

SabrinaLC

I'm sorry, people suck.

cavia

Ignore them is my best advice or use their comments to fuel your desire to change your body. I often had men shouting "You're fat!" as I ran (my heaviest was 190lbs). Whenever I see a larger woman running, I think to myself, you go girl! I know it took a lot for her to get out the door and run on the street because I'm sure they have to endure douche-y comments. It speaks to their mental fortitude.

michellekicks

I can't believe people behave like that! I've never seen or heard that where I've lived, and I've run from 215 lbs all the way to 155 lbs. If my kid ever behaves that way I'll be taking care of it. :grumble:

Here's a little encouragement for you - don't mind the title... it's not meant to be mean:
http://flintland.blogspot.ca/2012/05/hey-fat-girl.html

WonTaunTaun

You are about to run a 5k. I'm sure they haven't. You have had to work hard for something that they probably have never had to think twice about. You are better than them. Remember that. You are stronger and more than likely healthier. Use this as motivation to keep going. They will see the change day after day. They will see that you have not given up, along with the improvements you have made. Soon, they will get bored because they get no reaction and move on. You are doing this for you, screw everyone else!! :drinker:

MercenaryNoetic26

I would start running toward them like a maniac and pound them in the face... or at least I'd like to think I'd do that.

Can you find another place to train that is more zen like? What about a trail? If ignoring them is impossible and I don't want you to get arrested for attacking them (I prob would), so I'd move the workout.

bunbunzee44

that's horrible maybe you should try some ear phones and loud music? :P don't let them get to you!

MexicanOsmosis

Whenever I see a larger woman running, I think to myself, you go girl! I know it took a lot for her to get out the door and run on the street because I'm sure they have to endure douche-y comments. It speaks to their mental fortitude.

^^THIS.
Seriously, F**K them. Get some music to listen to while doing it and ignore the hell out of them. Keep up the hard work!!!

weevil66

What a bunch of *kitten*. Kudos to you.

Ophidion

These are not men, these are a subspecies known as manchild and quite a few expletives. Forever caught in a immature loop trying to impress their mates of other manchildren with this behavior...Their sad remarks, comments a display of their very limited understanding of women and anything else more intelligent/complicated than their unevolved peer groups or brains.

I know it is hard but try and not let it discourage you and if it is the same people say workers or locals in the area maybe photograph or film it so you can report it, as this is harassment.

FTSTL

You can change your shape if you want to, they can't change their soul... You win.

Hear us shouting for you and drowning those jerks out.

Don't stop training.

Good luck.

metaphoria

What a pathetic life they must live.

Is it the same people? You could bring your phone and take pictures of them, so you can identify them later when you go to the police to report sexual harassment. Unsolicited comments about your breasts qualifies, and you're probably not the only woman they yell at.

MelsAuntie

That is disgusting! Do you live in the UK? If so this doesn't surprise me at all, it's full of dirty little hood rats who have no respect for anyone.

Personally, I haven't encountered this problem as I didn't run whilst living in England (probably this is the reason why as people are *kitten* holes!) but I do get self conscious about my chest and have had a few lingering stares/smiles from men which have made me feel a little uncomfortable. But I just try to remain focused on my goals and speed my pace up as I pass them in order to forget about it sooner, so I try to use it to my advantage any of the times I have been made to feel uncomfortable.

May I suggest a different route? Maybe there is a proper track close enough you can walk to and run around that so everyone else is running too, where I run is where a lot of people run so you don't tend to get people even noticing you as they are too busy running too.

Unfortunately, the UK does not have the corner on arseholes. There are millions of them in the US. I would have expected Brits to be more mannerly than us, if anything.

jdub224

You know if you watch sports, you will see people at the peek of fitness being criticized. Some people just have to look to others to get their self image. Some of us look to others and we see our flaws and some of us look to others in order to feel superior.

Are you running for any of these people who are mocking you? Pop in some headsets and tune them out. They aren't going to make you go any faster or get a better time. All they can do is discourage you.

I was blessed to have a running partner 100lbs ago, who would show up and run with me on each run. Maybe look to join a runners club or find some local runners who are starting out. Most people who run seem to be super supportive whether you run a 15 mile or a 6 minute mile.

Just don't quit. Run whenever you can, don't let them dictate your schedule. They are the ones being foolish, and that doesn't reflect upon you.

slimforparis

Thanks folks - you lovely supportive people are the reason I MFP :flowerforyou: I will keep all your kind comments in mind if/when this happens again.

Also I'm so sorry that others have had similar things happen to them - being moo-ed at!!??? That's appalling - it's sexist bullying and it makes me sick that they're getting away with it.

And just for the record I've got an amazing (and very expensive) sports bra - but having rock solid ta-tas doesn't seem to make any difference to the 'hood rats'....:mad: :mad: :explode:

runawayescape

Well done for running!
I am jealous of anyone who has the guts to do it because I don't have enough confidence to.
Sorry about the horrible people, I agree with the other posts, maybe try and join a group or get a running partner? It might be easier to deal with if someone is with you.

Lesa_Sass

They suck, you are awesome.

Every time I see a large girl running I clap and cheer! I also am inspired, so for every Ahole that makes you feel less than, I am willing to bet there are 2 or 3 other people that you help, but do not know it.

You have amazing courage I am willing to bet what you are putting out to the universe is going to come back to you in a positive way.

Hang in there lovely, you are worth it.

Rosa1213

I have never in my life encountered anything like that! I cannot believe that anyone actually behaves that way

I'm very sorry for how cruel people can be.

cygnetpro

You can change your shape if you want to, they can't change their soul... You win.

Hear us shouting for you and drowning those jerks out.

Don't stop training.

Good luck.

^^^^^ This. I took my seriously overweight relative with me to the gym one day. Some guys a few machines down started laughing at her, and weren't subtle about it. I couldn't believe it-- I mean, she was there trying to get herself in shape-- she deserved a high five, not snickers and head-shaking. Jerks. But really, they looked like the losers there, not her. They were really good-looking guys, but after that I wouldn't have dated them for anything.

marieann82

That is plain crazy. Are these the same people in the same area everyday? Could you change your route instead of your time? Maybe enlist your hubby to go running with you? Sorry about your situation.

Inshape13

(((Hugs))) I feel your pain because I used to get "whoosh" from the high school students passing by me on the bus. Completely ignore them because it shows so much about who they are and soooooooo little about anything that has to do with you....that is their need for acceptance and a need to show off.

Do your thing girl and enjoy yourself because unlike their negative non-sense you are becoming a better version of you and that is all that really matters!

Iron_Lotus

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jadb22

Unbelievable that people can be so horrible to one another.