I Blow It EVERY Time :( I need so much support it sucks.

yoovie

^100% pleeeeeeeeeeeease go slow. I think that was one of the smartest things I did when I dropped a century.

deksgrl

Okay, here are my thoughts. I looked at your profile and I see that you don't have a lot more to lose. When you are closer to goal, you should aim for half a pound per week loss. This means your calorie deficit is going to be 250 cals a day. This is not much room for error. Or, make your calorie goal through the week a little bit less so you have more room to splurge on the weekend.

Log everything on the weekends. Take a look at it and see what things you might change. If alcohol is putting you over the edge, look at switching what you are drinking, or drinking half as much (drink water every other drink). Look at the food choices and amounts and see what you might substitute in similar circumstances. (maybe a chicken quasadilla instead of burger and fries)?

Maybe you will have to exercise more to offset the calories. Get those fitness goals in place and get consistent.

As others have mentioned, this is going to have to be a long term thing in order to keep it off. Don't look at the small slip ups as failures, just get up and keep moving. Big picture.

lyrical_melody

So...I do the EXACT same thing as you and I was getting super frustrated with myself and not losing.

This is how I changed it:
-Saturday Morning Zumba Class

The whole week I would schedule my meals/social life around when my zumba class is. (This is what keeps me motivated at the moment and is important for me). I found a zumba class that is on Saturday morning which helps me with a few things...
1. workout during the weekend (which before I always found hard to do)
2. Keep my Friday night in check so I am not getting super drunk...If I am wasted and feel like *kitten* the next morning, I'm not going to want to attend the class.
3. Keep my calorie intake in good standing: If I know that I just worked out in the morning..I am going to be more aware of not blowing it later on in the day.

Sundays: are a little difficult for me because I dont have a workout to go to...but I try to be mindful.

I hope this helps...the morning class has really shaped my weekends for me.

TeachTheGirl

Right now I'm focusing on training and eating 'better' instead of eating 'right'. It seems to be working, I'm definitely losing inches and soon to drop pounds, I'm sure.

CassieR6

I feel like I could have wrote this. I don't have much advice as I am in the same situation but just wanted you to know you are not alone! Feel free to add me if you want. But I know the struggle believe me I do! You will get through it, but like everything it will just take time.

JessaLee0324

neandermagnon wrote: »

yoovie wrote: »

This is a 'rest of your life' kind of project, so you cant see it as failing and starting over every week. It's more of an awareness than a project. Be mindful of what you eat, but you dont have to be more than 85% perfect. Be aware of how often you exercise and if you are doing more or less than usual and adjust your balance. Remember to sporadically check your weight a few times a week or month, just to watch for upward or downward trends.

It isn't necessary to micromanage yourself into a corner, or the whole process will suck. This should be a new way of life that you are happy to embrace. So be more conscious when choosing groceries and remember to aim for exercising on certain days each week.

Some people encourage baby steps - I encourage pretending the whole thing is on a backburner while you create new habits. Pretend it isnt life or death, cause it really isnt.

If you focus too hard on something, it consumes your thoughts and creates pressure on you to execute it perfectly. Forget perfect. Forget obsessing. Just slip softly into your new habits like you are slipping into a bubble bath with candles. It's good for you, it's good for your body. It's good for your mental state.

And all of this is because you deserve it. To feel good, to look good, to be strong and healthy and happy. It's okay to be the whole package. In fact, you totally should - at every opportunity.

Good luck!

^^^^ this

and also: aim for slow and steady weight loss, it doesn't matter how long it takes to get there, what matters is staying there once you do get there. Set your goal to lose weight at 1lb/week if you have a lot to lose or 0.5lb if you only have a little to lose. Try to hit your calorie goal as close as you can, i.e. don't be under (it makes you hungry and more likely to eat later on, which may not hit until a few days later)... give yourself room in your calorie goal to eat what food you want, just be really careful to weigh and measure it accurately... that way you can enjoy all foods without going off your diet, and that'll make it a lot easier to stick to, then set goals for sticking to it, i.e 1 week goal, 2 week goal, 1 month goal, 3 month goal, 6 month goal, 1 year goal, etc. Whatever exercise you do, make it something you'll enjoy and stick to, and calculate the calories carefully and eat back around 80% of them. Make the process as enjoyable as you can... you don't want to feel deprived or tortured by it, that way you'll find it a lot easier to stick to at weekends. You can even give yourself a bit of extra leeway by eating at maintenance calories one day a week... this will make the process a bit slower, but so long as you are consistently losing weight, it doesn't matter if you take longer to get there, what matters is that you are able to stay there when you do get there.

Good advice!
Currently I am aiming at losing 1/2lb a week, and I have 10 - 20lbs to lose. My calorie goal per day is 1450, which is totally doable. But I find the hard part is picking and chosing foods that will make my "normal" meals more "diet" meals.

Also, I find that I'm just doing this to lose weight and not feel so disgusted. What I should be doing is working on making the change a realistic and permanent one.

I do not have a scale for weighing my food. Are they really worth it? I looked for one "briefly" at Target the other day but didn't see one. Where do you find them?

deksgrl

Re: your question on whether or not scales are worth it, here is some interesting reading:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/872212

On how to choose foods to make them "diet", why can't you just eat your regular foods but eat less of it? If you find you are hungry, then look and see what things you can switch out for less calories that will keep you full longer. Generally protein will keep you full longer. Also, you can eat a whole lot of vegetables for low calories. Don't go "low fat" because your body needs fats for health and absorption of vitamins. I couldn't see your diary to make any specific recommendations.

shadowloss

Another weekend NON warrior just like me! I'm about ready to put a lock on the liquor cabinet. Luckily I'm old with a family so it's not like I'm going out clubbing. The drinking is what got me where I am today.

When I started to honestly log my calories, I realized that I was consuming 1,000 calories, when I was trying to be good (Vodka). Before that, I'm sure it was closer to 1,500 - 1,800 calories trickling down my gullet! Then to make it better, I had to have something salty so here comes Mr. Peaunts. Oh, couple 3 - 4 cups of peanuts and theres another 1,000 calories. Assuming that is all I put down my chubby face, then just the water retention from the peanuts put me at 4lbs of water retention, not to mention dehydrated from the alcohol.

Adding it all up, I was consuming probable close to 3,000 calories on Friday and Saturday nights, not to mention the crap I would eat during the day, because lets face it, I'm old and would have a bit of a "denied" hangover.

It took me doing the math to realize, it WASN'T worth it. I still have a hard time staying out of the liquor cabinet, but I'm trying just like you. Now that I've rambled enough, I've talked myself into going to the gym tonight instead of the cabinet! Thanks for opening my eyes.

Liftng4Lis

For me, the key is pre-logging. I don't need to "trick" myself I just need to have perseverance and remember why I started in the first place.