How to deal with living with someone who
FayeandBo
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eats all your favorite craving inspiring mouth watering unhealthy foods in front of you every day? I don't want to tell him to not eat those things but it's getting hard to just watch him...
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Willpower is finite, so make sure you done wear it out resisting food your roomie is eating. :-( That said, I think its also something that gets easier the more you practice.
Maybe come up with reasons you DONT want the foods he's eating. Ex. I don't eat cheetos because they are *so* high in fat, and the color of that cheese looks chemical not edible, plus its so high in sodium it makes me way too thirsty when I do eat them. For the same amount of calories I could eat an entire baked potato.... etc.
Come up with an arsenal of things that gross you out about them.
I remind myself that I can't outrun a bad diet. That helps me.
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Thanks that helps. Mainly the two things I think about is 1 it would make me fat but more imporantly 2 it would make me feel sicklightandflight wrote: »Willpower is finite, so make sure you done wear it out resisting food your roomie is eating. :-( That said, I think its also something that gets easier the more you practice.
Maybe come up with reasons you DONT want the foods he's eating. Ex. I don't eat cheetos because they are *so* high in fat, and the color of that cheese looks chemical not edible, plus its so high in sodium it makes me way too thirsty when I do eat them. For the same amount of calories I could eat an entire baked potato.... etc.
Come up with an arsenal of things that gross you out about them.
I remind myself that I can't outrun a bad diet. That helps me.
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How about not depriving yourself of any food? You can eat the food in moderation. Small portions. It's all about self control. I haven't stopped eating any of the foods I usually eat, (see my diary if you want) I just eat small portions and I've lost weight.
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Lasmartchika wrote: »How about not depriving yourself of any food? You can eat the food in moderation. Small portions. It's all about self control. I haven't stopped eating any of the foods I usually eat, (see my diary if you want) I just eat small portions and I've lost weight.
I'm not depriving myself I'm helping myself. I'm not just doing it to lose weight, I've been really sick a lot of my life and every doctor/practitioner has told me to stop eating processed sugar and now that I have I'm finally starting to feel better so I'm not gonna go back to that for sure. Another thing is that I have an addiction (kind of like an alcoholic) and I can't just have a little bit, it's pretty much impossible. If i have a small bite of anything super sugary I will go on a crazy binge and it's not fun. So yeah.
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Lasmartchika wrote: »How about not depriving yourself of any food? You can eat the food in moderation. Small portions. It's all about self control. I haven't stopped eating any of the foods I usually eat, (see my diary if you want) I just eat small portions and I've lost weight.
Some of us have the ability to eat only small quantities of junk food, others don't.0 -
That's so rough!
On the one hand, you can't tell someone else, "I'm on a diet, so you can't snack," lol. On the other hand, it's terribly hard to watch someone sit there and eat things you'd like to eat. Been there, done that, not easy!
I agree with reminding yourself why you aren't eating it. But the "I want to be healthy" mantra only carried me so far. I have to sit there thinking about what the food is doing to that person - making them fat, clogging their arteries, etc. that helps more.
Basically, though, you just have to suck it up and soldier on. Hang tough!!! (And good luck.) 0 -
That's so rough!
On the one hand, you can't tell someone else, "I'm on a diet, so you can't snack," lol. On the other hand, it's terribly hard to watch someone sit there and eat things you'd like to eat. Been there, done that, not easy!
I agree with reminding yourself why you aren't eating it. But the "I want to be healthy" mantra only carried me so far. I have to sit there thinking about what the food is doing to that person - making them fat, clogging their arteries, etc. that helps more.
Basically, though, you just have to suck it up and soldier on. Hang tough!!! (And good luck.)
thanks haha I'm trying
and yeah the struggle is real :P0 -
I live with a fantastic chef, lucky you might think oh no he loves cream and butter and all things calorie heavy I do cave and eat some but I resist more than I eat0
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I understand, I don't have the ability to do sweets/chocolate/chips in moderation, either. It's really hard when someone is eating them right in front of you but I just do what every in the thread has said, remind myself of why I don't need or what them. I find it gets easier the longer I go without and eventually I don't even have to try 0
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Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all0 -
harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
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paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
are you the roommate
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My husband's metabolism is way faster than mine. Fact is, he can eat whatever he likes. Sometimes, I think that just looking at something I gain weight, that is not true, but it sure feels like it. I just make sure that I have low calorie snacks on hand for me. Lots of cut up raw veggies, fresh fruit, raw almonds etc. It is not the same, but that is just the way it is. It is a challenge, but one many of us have. Life sometimes isn't fair, and it doesn't make this easy for those of us in this situation, we just have to do our best.0
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harlequin0318 wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
are you the roommate
Of course I am not the room mate.
What a silly question
What I said still stands - room mate is happy with status quo and does not need to change just because OP is changing - so OP needs to concentrate on what she can change , not on how to change the room mate, as your post suggested.
Op also does not need to avoid gluten, nothing in her post suggests a gluten intolerance issue.
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paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
are you the roommate
Of course I am not the room mate.
What a silly question
What I said still stands - room mate is happy with status quo and does not need to change just because OP is changing - so OP needs to concentrate on what she can change , not on how to change the room mate, as your post suggested.
Op also does not need to avoid gluten, nothing in her post suggests a gluten intolerance issue.
Typically a roommate serves as a support system - thats the only reason why I suggested working together to create an environment that works for the both of them.
As far as my gluten free/sugar free statement - don't get stuck on that because I have a gluten issue and many of the recipes I use are also "sugar free"0 -
He's actually my boyfriend not my roommate :P and yeah I agree that he already is happy and doesn't want to change. I've talked to him about it toopaperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
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paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
are you the roommate
Of course I am not the room mate.
What a silly question
What I said still stands - room mate is happy with status quo and does not need to change just because OP is changing - so OP needs to concentrate on what she can change , not on how to change the room mate, as your post suggested.
Op also does not need to avoid gluten, nothing in her post suggests a gluten intolerance issue.
I actually am gluten free haha. I'm eating super clean, basically the paleo diet without meat.
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Lasmartchika wrote: »How about not depriving yourself of any food? You can eat the food in moderation. Small portions. It's all about self control. I haven't stopped eating any of the foods I usually eat, (see my diary if you want) I just eat small portions and I've lost weight.
I'm not depriving myself I'm helping myself. I'm not just doing it to lose weight, I've been really sick a lot of my life and every doctor/practitioner has told me to stop eating processed sugar and now that I have I'm finally starting to feel better so I'm not gonna go back to that for sure. Another thing is that I have an addiction (kind of like an alcoholic) and I can't just have a little bit, it's pretty much impossible. If i have a small bite of anything super sugary I will go on a crazy binge and it's not fun. So yeah.
how about fruit?
spagetti sauce?
Juice?
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Lasmartchika wrote: »How about not depriving yourself of any food? You can eat the food in moderation. Small portions. It's all about self control. I haven't stopped eating any of the foods I usually eat, (see my diary if you want) I just eat small portions and I've lost weight.
I'm not depriving myself I'm helping myself. I'm not just doing it to lose weight, I've been really sick a lot of my life and every doctor/practitioner has told me to stop eating processed sugar and now that I have I'm finally starting to feel better so I'm not gonna go back to that for sure. Another thing is that I have an addiction (kind of like an alcoholic) and I can't just have a little bit, it's pretty much impossible. If i have a small bite of anything super sugary I will go on a crazy binge and it's not fun. So yeah.
how about fruit?
spagetti sauce?
Juice?
I don't know what your questions are xD
I eat lots of fruit daily, don't really like spaghetti sauce and it usually has added sugar anyways, and I don't usually drink juice since it's basically just refined sugar at that point and would just get my cravings back up (which have reduced a lot)
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Just move out.0
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lol noSonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »Just move out.
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harlequin0318 wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »paperpudding wrote: »harlequin0318 wrote: »Sounds like the roommate needs to join you in healthy eating! Find recipes and snacks that will make everyone happy.
I made oatmeal & banana muffins to satisfy my sweet tooth - there are tons of gluten free/sugar free recipes out there, Pinterest has them all
But the room mate is happy now.
You cant make someone else eat healthy - or your version of healthy.
Realistically OP needs to find ways to change what she can for herself - forget trying to change the room mate.
No need for OP to avoid gluten either, as far as I can see.
are you the roommate
Of course I am not the room mate.
What a silly question
What I said still stands - room mate is happy with status quo and does not need to change just because OP is changing - so OP needs to concentrate on what she can change , not on how to change the room mate, as your post suggested.
Op also does not need to avoid gluten, nothing in her post suggests a gluten intolerance issue.
Typically a roommate serves as a support system - thats the only reason why I suggested working together to create an environment that works for the both of them.
As far as my gluten free/sugar free statement - don't get stuck on that because I have a gluten issue and many of the recipes I use are also "sugar free"
But it already works for the boyfriend... He doesn't have to get healthy or the desire to right now.
OP - you are always going to have temptations. You may go out to eat with friends who order temptations, go to parties, or live with family and it's not realistic to except them to change what they are doing. Build up willpower now, remind yourself what the benefits are to not eating them. Or maybe set aside a meal where you'll let yourself have something once a week.
I have a husband, 13 year old stepson, and 2 year old. I cook and grocery shop, but I can't expect them to change or eat exactly how I eat or only eat the snacks I like.
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I live with my family right now so I know what you're going through lol. Although I've come a long way since January I do still have "trigger foods". Right now there's a homemade pineapple upside down cake sitting on the counter, so I've pretty much refused to look at it every time I go in the kitchen. Get what I need/pre-logged, and get out! This doesn't mean I don't treat myself when I have the available macros, but when it comes to things like that cake.... I can and would eat the whole thing, even knowing it was made with half a bag of brown sugar and two sticks of butter.-1
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How on earth can you eat paleo with no meat???
Anyway I would just ask him to try not to eat it right in front of you. He can go in another room, it shouldnt be that huge of a deal.0 -
The truth is that we are affected by our environments and willpower and self-control aren't really the best things to rely on. Keep having conversations with your boyfriend and see what compromises you can work out. You deserve to have a living situation that helps you be healthy and happy. It's important that you take your health seriously and help your boyfriend to do so as well.0
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How on earth can you eat paleo with no meat???
Anyway I would just ask him to try not to eat it right in front of you. He can go in another room, it shouldnt be that huge of a deal.
Like a timeout? What kind of bizarro world is this where someone can't eat food in front of someone else? Cripes.0 -
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lol noSonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »Just move out.
Well just break up then. I can understand not wanting to increase your living costs by moving out.
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I personally, make room in my allotment daily for a treat or snack (chocolate). Therefore, this is never an issue.0
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or kill.digginDeep wrote: »
lol noSonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »Just move out.
Well just break up then. I can understand not wanting to increase your living costs by moving out.
And bury him with his snacks
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