Running Observation

Laura732

I have two routes; one is alongside a major road, and the other is out in the boondocks. Alongside the road, happens all the time. I ignore it and move on since its a fairly populated area. The boondocks though, IF I see anybody at all I'm wary.

Lalalindaloo

SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

And of course, I am immediately googling I Spit On Your Grave...

Wait, no, no... ungoogling that from work.

Hey, I warned you! Haha

And let the record show, I have seen it, and while I'm a lover of horror/thriller movies, rape scenes are a dealbreaker for me. And that includes The Hills Have Eyes

And I've never catcalled a female. I consider myself a rational person and don't think for a second that a catcall would get me a meaningful date/relationship. So there's that.

You go ahead with your scary movies. The last time I watched one was right after I moved to Virginia (50 miles from the border with West Virginia) and I watched Wrong Turn. 11 years ago and it was enough.

Devil's advocate can be a hard role to play sometimes.

SonicDeathMonkey80

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

And of course, I am immediately googling I Spit On Your Grave...

Wait, no, no... ungoogling that from work.

Hey, I warned you! Haha

And let the record show, I have seen it, and while I'm a lover of horror/thriller movies, rape scenes are a dealbreaker for me. And that includes The Hills Have Eyes

And I've never catcalled a female. I consider myself a rational person and don't think for a second that a catcall would get me a meaningful date/relationship. So there's that.

You go ahead with your scary movies. The last time I watched one was right after I moved to Virginia (50 miles from the border with West Virginia) and I watched Wrong Turn. 11 years ago and it was enough.

Devil's advocate can be a hard role to play sometimes.

Try caving after watching The Descent. And I'm familiar with your region. I have one rule: fill up before and after West Virginia. I don't mess with Melungeon folks.

stealthq

SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

And of course, I am immediately googling I Spit On Your Grave...

Wait, no, no... ungoogling that from work.

Hey, I warned you! Haha

And let the record show, I have seen it, and while I'm a lover of horror/thriller movies, rape scenes are a dealbreaker for me. And that includes The Hills Have Eyes

And I've never catcalled a female. I consider myself a rational person and don't think for a second that a catcall would get me a meaningful date/relationship. So there's that.

Is THAT what men who catcall think they're going to get out of it? Most times it just seems like they're showing off to their buddies, to me. Kind of a competition to see who can be the most daring (or obnoxious).

SonicDeathMonkey80

stealthq wrote: »

SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

Lalalindaloo wrote: »

And of course, I am immediately googling I Spit On Your Grave...

Wait, no, no... ungoogling that from work.

Hey, I warned you! Haha

And let the record show, I have seen it, and while I'm a lover of horror/thriller movies, rape scenes are a dealbreaker for me. And that includes The Hills Have Eyes

And I've never catcalled a female. I consider myself a rational person and don't think for a second that a catcall would get me a meaningful date/relationship. So there's that.

Is THAT what men who catcall think they're going to get out of it? Most times it just seems like they're showing off to their buddies, to me. Kind of a competition to see who can be the most daring (or obnoxious).

Very true. It's more of an obnoxious thing that is just a harmless/immature way of showing off. But I imagine there are some guys out there that legitimately think they will get a date.

Funny story: a girl held a sign at the Chicago Marathon last month that said "I love men with endurance, call ###." Well, I called it. She answered. We talked for about 30 seconds then I told her I had to go.

jdhcm2006

msf74 wrote: »

bigblondewolf wrote: »

SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »

47Jacqueline wrote: »

Cat calls are not a compliment. I usually wear headphones and don't hear stuff, which isn't safe.

I think there are some activists groups now that are addressing this, but it's a long road of education and action ahead.

If ugly girls were catcalled along with the pretty ones (OP), there wouldn't be an issue. Not everyone gets a trophy in life.

Wow, really? That's not disgusting at all. Cat calling is not a compliment, regardless of whether or not a woman is attractive. Perhaps it's harder to see from a man's perspective because you understandably don't feel threatened when approached by strangers, however most women view random comments from strange men as a threat rather than an ego boost.

As a younger man I used to think "what's the big deal? It's just banter".

But then as a man I hadn't grown up under the shadow of sexual violence as an unconscious fear.

IIRC about 20% of women in the US report having been raped at some point in their lives. That is just the reported figure. The true amount may be much higher.

That is staggeringly high. It stands to reason therefore that some women (but the total number may be very large indeed despite it being a minority) who experience catcalls may feel threatened by that behaviour. This is especially true if they are by themselves in a public space and particularly when presented with a group of men in this context.

Of course people have different tolerances for this sort of thing but I think if men had a little bit more awareness of how our actions can impact on women the situation may get better for all of us. Society seems to have no problem telling women they should modify their behaviour. That should be true of men then as well...

This entire post, but especially the bolded. Catcalling is not a compliment (at least not to me).

BrianSharpe

accelerashawn wrote: »

Get some noise cancelling headphones and turn it up to 11.

Worst advice ever........not being able to hear what is going on around you is, simply, dangerous even if you're running on recreational paths. Being oblivious is not the answer....

Personally I find it hilarious watching people practically *kitten* themselves when I pass on my bike (it doesn't happen often when I'm running) when they simply haven't heard my bell or when I call out "passing on the left"......