What changed, besides weight, after losing a lot of weight?

seltzermint555

I feel comfortable all of the time. I move around so much more...like skipping, jumping, dancing, etc. Not only because I am lighter, which is part of it...but more because I feel unafraid of what others think or of how I might look to them. It's pretty great!

MaroneLotz

Thank you to all the awesome replies to this post. I am so pumped to see people getting their mojo's back! It's reading things like this that makes me realise just once again that we are on the right track. In the end, it's worth every single sacrifice and change in behaviour.

MaroneLotz

Abstraktimus wrote: »

Attitude to everything! I have a can do attitude to everything I attempt now rather than half arsed attempting at things and falling short. I actually expect to win and to complete the things I start.

Love your positive attitude. Go get them!

47Jacqueline

mamadon wrote: »

I hope this doesnt sound too conceited, but I feel pretty lol. I had felt unattractive for so many years, I just assumed I'd still feel that way, only thin.

Me too, but I'm uncomfortable still, so I just made an appointment with my therapist to address this.

I'm like, I feel attractive, but don't look at me. ;-/ And that's in spite of appearances to the contrary.

MaroneLotz

TheFitHooker wrote: »

For me I went from being a SAHM to a waitress/bartender. I have gotten rid of a lot of negative people in my life and replaced them with positive people, I don't have time to be around negative people, I will not allow myself to be sucked into that again, I'm way to positive to be around negative things. I work with a lot of women and honestly I don't care for a few of them, only because they are negative or have a "I'm better then you" attitude and I'm not here to be better, I want us all to succeed. The things I use to care about, like I use to want to lose weight to impress people, but that changed after I started feeling sexy, I don't care who is impressed, I'm doing this for me and no one's approval is needed, this is about me, this is the one thing in my life I have for myself, this is the only thing in my life I am selfish about and I don't think it's selfish at all, I spend 95 minutes in the gym 4 day's a week, that's my me time, funny thing is, that's the 1 time each day for them 4 day's I feel the most relaxed yet I'm so exhausted afterwards because I worked hard but yet it's my me time it's my down time away from being a mom, a wife, a house keeper, a waitress, a bartender, it's just me. I use to run out of breath walking up my stair case, but now I jog 20 minutes at 15 incline and 4.0 speed. I use to hate to run, now I run just for the hell of it. I love squats, I once hated them. So much about who I am changed with who I once was.

Your last sentence is utterly profound! You are still you, only better And when we surround ourselves with positivity (whether is be people or just our thoughts), we breed positivity. I now believe that sometimes we need to be a bit selfish and that this selfishness is actually a good thing.

MaroneLotz

weavernv wrote: »

I run now. If anyone had told me that I would be running a year ago I would have told them they were nuts. Bicycling sure, I love to cycle!, but running! WOW!

Nuts are good You just showed yourself (and everybody around you) that you are actually much stronger than what you thought. Awesome!

RiseandGrind77

I'm down 40 lbs and one thing I notice is the general attitude of random strangers. Seems they are nicer to me, as if I was easier to approach in some odd way. The other slight bonus is I actually get flirted with once in a while. It's stupid but from someone who almost never experienced that, it's kind of nice.

dopeysmelly

I lost 70 lbs and gained a ton of excess energy. I'm like a crazed ball of energy from the second I get up to the moment I go to bed. I find it incredibly difficult to just sit still. I'm going to start running (who knew???) after my knee gets over surgery in a few weeks, because there's only so many hours in the day and I need to burn this energy SOMEHOW!

Shopping for clothes is still pretty frustrating for me, since I've gone from tricky-to-find size 16/18 petite, to tricky-to-find size 2/XS petite. From one end of the scale to the other!

I get different reactions from people now. At the gym, I get looked at with "interest" by some guys and with the slightest hint of dislike from ladies who are slimmer than I was a year ago, but who wouldn't know that looking at me. Relationships with friends/colleagues are largely unchanged once they get used to how I look now.

I've also rediscovered my love of cooking. I have acquired (thanks to ebook settlement credits through Amazon..) an amazing collection of diverse recipe books, which I have adjusted to create some pretty fabulous meals which also meet my targets of more whole grains, more healthy fats, more lean protein and less saturated fat. I always loved cooking, but now it's more of an exciting challenge rather than something I just do because I'm Mom.

Oh and my blood pressure has dropped 20 points at least.

kpk54

mamadon wrote: »

I hope this doesnt sound too conceited, but I feel pretty lol. I had felt unattractive for so many years, I just assumed I'd still feel that way, only thin.

It doesn't sound conceited at all. I find myself taking way better care of myself...primping. I'm more interested in clothing, skin creams, wearing a little make up. Most of all, back to the OPs question, I don't hide in my house any more.

jrline

Energy now I have run in 10k, 15k and training for a half marathon.

IndiaGuerita1983

lisaanne1369 wrote: »

I ran my boobs off!

LMFAO. ^ That.

Things that changed for me after I lost 100 lbs:

-Lost a few 'friends'.
-Gained a few friends.
-My kids make healthier choices now.
-I play with my kids instead of sitting on the park bench.
-I let my husband chase me instead of chasing him out of insecurity.
-I feel pretty.
-I love exercising.
-My weekends are spent doing fun stuff with my kids...usually outside.
-I have 90% control over my cravings...60% of the time...all of the time. (Said Ron Burgandy.)
-My obsession with food is almost gone...sorta.
-I love shopping for clothes now.
-It's easier to ignore the critics. (I've really never understood why people criticize others for losing weight and getting healthy. Seems really silly to badmouth someone trying to get healthy. "Don't get healthy and live for a long time! That's dumb!" Doesn't make any sense...but, whatever.)
-My marriage went through a rocky period after the weight loss because I was coming to terms with how much better things seemed after the weight loss. I attributed my husband's happiness to aesthetics...but really it had more to do with my attitude. And, it was very hard coming to terms with the fact that I had gotten so out of control healthwise and I was SO fat...and I had done that to myself. I was not pretty...I looked terrible. And I treated everyone around me like *kitten*. Once I accepted those things my marriage changed a lot and I calmed down.
-I have helped others lose weight and get fit. (I gave them advice on how I was successful...they took my advice and ran with it. They did their own hard work and I'm proud of all of them.)
-I really 'found' myself...I know who I am now. I am ridiculous...and nerdy...and loud...and I love to laugh (cackle, really). I love making my kids laugh. I love dancing around like an idiot when I go for my runs and a good song comes on. Hell, I love dancing anywhere. I am HAPPY.

My life is completely different than it was two years ago. It is 110% better in almost every aspect.

-IndiaGuerita

IndiaGuerita1983

Aleishia22 wrote: »

I'm in the process of losing weight and I already have friends telling me that they're not going to hang out with me anymore when I reach my goal because "I'll be too hot". They say it jokingly but I'm nervous that it may be true. Did anyone experience that? Am I going to lose friends because I'm not the " funny fat one" anymore?

Yep...you'll lose friends. But, you'll gain new friends. Better friends..friends that don't drag you down but lift you up. Friends that will give you pep talks and tell you to get back on track. Friends that have your back. Your fit-family.

They are way better than any person who will criticize you or make you feel bad for being healthy or losing weight.

-IndiaGuerita

mojohowitz

Everything is better. Better physical health, mental health, financial health, spiritual health, better mental cognition, I tolerate my job better, etc. I don't tolerate relationships with emotionally underdeveloped people anymore. Life is too short.

I enjoy my quiet confidence the most.

Lalalindaloo

One thing that changed is that I feel much more confident in almost all aspects of my life. With family, friends, at work, and especially dating. (Which, coincidentally, I'm doing a LOT more of.)

I have more energy and just generally feel better.
I crave exercise. I have a date tonight, so not going to the gym and find myself a little disappointed about that.
I'm more positive emotionally and this time of year, that is a blessing.
Since the cold snap we're enduring, I get cold easier and it's harder to stay warm. More layers.

I don't know if I've lost friends, but I am aware that some of my friends treat me differently. My sister resented my loss at first, but she's started back working out and watching what she's eating more closely. I like that because I love her.My mother isn't giving me passive aggressive grief over my weight for the first time in years.

zyxst

MaroneLotz wrote: »

So, besides the number on the scale, what else changed for you?

Nothing.

Debbjones

Everything... just about every aspect of my life changed!

My health and happiness improved, I look younger, I have energy, I can shop for clothes anywhere, I receive compliments on my appearance... OMG... I could go on and on, for me the list seems to be endless!

Ftw37

I have lost about 265 pounds.

I feel like an utterly different person than the 419 pound man I started as.

I'd say the biggest outward change is the way I am treated by strangers. I was used to people giving me reactions from disapproval to outright contempt whenever I entered a room.

Now, I am just a background character--one of the crowd. I have disappeared. It's kind of weird, since I am still trying to get rid of the defensive chip on the shoulder I had when I was fat. I am now part of that "normal-sized-person" club that everyone else always was a member of.

People sit next to me on the bus and subway without a second thought. I am not obviously judged for every public meal I eat.

It's weird.

TheVirgoddess

I'm not done yet, but:

My shoe size - from an 8.5 to a 7
I feel pretty sexy for the first time in I don't even know how long
I'm stronger - so much stronger
I have more energy
I want ALL THE SEX
I like looking in the mirror
I like the way clothes fit me
I like me (this could be the anti-depressants talking though )

Tonnina

I'm cold all the time now. I have saggy skin because I lost a lot. I've tried foods I never thought I would. I've tried diets I never thought I would try. I'm more aware of how I look and how I want others to see me. I still hate shopping for clothes though lol!

Lalalindaloo

TheVirgoddess wrote: »

I'm not done yet, but:


I want ALL THE SEX

^^^^^ This. This too. It's WONDERFUL.

jenilla1

Well, I never lost a LOT of weight, so I wouldn't expect a drastic change in my overall life. But I lost enough to feel a difference and I've sculpted myself a bit through weight training. I looked pretty good before, but I look awesome now.

Secretly, I feel like a rock star. I have this sense of physical pride when I am in public - like I KNOW I look good. It's my little secret, though. I'm not a big show-off, it's basically internal. There's just a confident little smile on my face and it's easier to interact with people and be friendly.

But that's it. I've always had a good relationship with my spouse, so that hasn't changed.

salembambi

I stand out even more now than I did before which is kool I guess
I want more sex but now I get less .. only because of my loose skin insecurity
I am cold all the damn time
I fit back into my clothes from high school

jenilla1

zyxst wrote: »

MaroneLotz wrote: »

So, besides the number on the scale, what else changed for you?

Nothing.

But you've accomplished so much - far more than the vast majority of people who attempt serious weight loss!!! Where others quit the race before the end of the first mile, you're like a hard-core marathoner! (*)

Nataliegetfit

I am only starting this, but I am so glad you all have had such great success. I love all the positive changes in your lives.

rosehips60

The biggest change for me is that food is not my enemy or something to be afraid of. I know I can eat and there are no bad foods, just food. Now that I don't demonize it I can control it. Also I've started to take a greater interest in my appearance overall. I've started wearing make up again and I feel better about myself and my life in general.

ASH2038602

I have lost 64lbs so far. I am a lot more active now, I have way more faith in myself, I enjoy clothes shopping again, I dont always feel like the fat girl in the room, I feel better physically and mentally, so a lot lol. As far as friends most of them are not active or really all that healthy, but they have all either supported me in my journey it just been quiet about it. I also feel I have opened up to new friends because I feel less insecure and because I am more open to trying new things. I recently went hiking with an old friend of mine. I never would have tried it before especially with someone I haven't seen in a while. I have noticed my anxiety is way better too, not gone but better. I went from being a stay at home mom that panicked over ordering food at a restaurant to being comfortable socializing at my new job and gym.

LazyCatPame

Well... I became way more active. From 1k steps to 20k, started to jog on the treadmill without considering medieval torture and I enjoy my meals more than before (I spend more time tasting them than just swallowing); however, my social anxiety went to hell... can't go out without feeling observed (which is justified by the fact that every time I go out, at least one man shouts obscenities at me... and yes, I wear lots of clothes) so I barely leave the house at all now

MyChocolateDiet

I feel pretty more days than not.

I like dressing comfortable lately and don't feel as offensive doing so.

I put up with less -ish from people. I mean I don't think I put up with much before, not as much as when I was younger, but now I just feel even less inclined to put up with nonsense and disloyalty as I did before. I hated being patronized and now I feel like I can just throw people out who have that tone towards me. Prior I was in a confused state wondering how much of it was warranted and if there was really something I had to learn from this or that condescending person. Now I feel more confident and like "Yah, it's not me, it's you"...and I can exit that friendship faster and with less doubts.

Not having so much weight to lose as I did before makes this easier somehow, like I don't have to question how much of their tone toward me is due to how I look and a sincere effort to help me. Now I know who is just doing it to be a *kitten*.

missyjane824

My self confidence is through the roof. I also enjoy getting out on the trails which I never thought I would say. I can also see my muscles now which I am very pleased with.

Ethereal_Whisper

I lost friends because losing weight made me confident enough to "come out" about my mental illnesses.

Random people are nicer, and those who wouldn't look twice at me in high school have asked me out, repeatedly.