GET OVER IT!

fearlessleader104

How do I get over it?

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FromGastricToFantastic

billieljaime wrote: »

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

I have spent the past hour reading posts. Some I laughed out loud on, some just plain made my eyes cross and others made sense. Honestly, I have spent my life obese. There is nothing that anyone can say that would hurt me. I am proud of myself....I am proud of my decision....and I would do it over again if given the choice. You can be angry, you can be supportive.....whatever floats your boat. Your words won't hurt me nor my success.

weak sauce

get over it

Blah Blah Blah

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paperpudding

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

I still stand firm on GET OVER IT! And many of you....need to get over yourselves.

Methinks you should take your own advice and get over yourself first before telling others what to do about themselves

FromGastricToFantastic

billieljaime wrote: »

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

billieljaime wrote: »

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

I have spent the past hour reading posts. Some I laughed out loud on, some just plain made my eyes cross and others made sense. Honestly, I have spent my life obese. There is nothing that anyone can say that would hurt me. I am proud of myself....I am proud of my decision....and I would do it over again if given the choice. You can be angry, you can be supportive.....whatever floats your boat. Your words won't hurt me nor my success.

weak sauce

get over it

Blah Blah Blah

others have spent their life obese as well, including me who are more humble, greatful, and gracious.

at this point you just seem arrogant and rude.

Talk to us in 5-10 years when your surgery starts to fail and you need real guidence to do things the right way.

Good luck.

Thank you. You have warmed the cockles of my heart

fearlessleader104

anyone planning on seeing the new movie Wild?

ndj1979

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

I have spent the past hour reading posts. Some I laughed out loud on, some just plain made my eyes cross and others made sense. Honestly, I have spent my life obese. There is nothing that anyone can say that would hurt me. I am proud of myself....I am proud of my decision....and I would do it over again if given the choice. You can be angry, you can be supportive.....whatever floats your boat. Your words won't hurt me nor my success.

and what do you think your post was?????

dakotababy

This is an excellent example of what happens when people lose weight and let it get to their heads.

Exactly what NOT to do.

dakotababy

fearlessleader104 wrote: »

anyone planning on seeing the new movie Wild?

Yes.

Hearts_2015

FromGastricToFantastic wrote: »

I gotta be honest, I am frustrated. I realize that everyones journey is their own....totally get it. But I am sick of seeing people whine and complain.....sick of seeing them sabotage themselves and blame circumstances, holidays and failed relationships. Someone needs to say "GET OVER IT!" Seriously, I had to tell it to myself and I still to this day say it to myself. You cannot wallow in self pity. You cannot blame gorging yourself with food that is killing you on anyone else but yourself. I did it for years. I played the victim. I blamed being busy, other people, my kids and the fact that I simply liked food "too much" to give it up. I wish someone would have kicked me in the *kitten* long ago. If this is you....GET OVER IT! Step up to the plate and choose life. There is nothing or no one that can get in your way....except you! I love you so much. You can do it!

Did you feel this way before your surgery as well? So angry? This isn't meant as an insult at all, it's a serious question.. you sound like a very very angry man, angry at everyone around you but I believe the anger is actually at yourself.

I see this is under food and nutrition not the Motivation section, I think that was wise of you to make that choice.

I do hope you're able to sort your feelings out in a way that doesn't hurt others more than you may have already. We tend to strike out when we are in pain ourselves, though it's misguided anger. WLS can sometime bring up feelings that we didn't realize existed...sometimes they are more than we can deal with at any given time. Have you sought out a counselor and been able to discuss this rage? I've not chosen surgery myself but know of some that have and what's been shared with me is the lbs are lost but not the underlying anger and depression.

It's so important to get at that because that is far more lasting than simple dropping lbs. quickly. Losing weight and working on the inside at the same time seems to help ppl keep the weight off. People that drop off pounds quickly (without doing the emotional work) tend to gain them back even quicker.

... re-reading your post just now... so much anger coming from it, so much pain. As you re-read your post do you see now that it's not anger at others but at your self.

Be good to yourself, I do hope things settle down for you soon

Journal, journal journal!! It helps (*)

fearlessleader104

I'm going to the midnight showing, hopefully it's good. I will eat at cheesecake factory

Hearts_2015

newmeadow wrote: »

OP, I posted a supportive kudos to you in your success stories thread. But in response to this particular post, I'd like to remind you that the vast majority regain their weight within 5 years of losing it.

I hope your tough love words don't come back to haunt you. And I mean that sincerely.

If you are interested in helping other morbidly obese who are just not getting over it, like Sheepotato said, maybe fill in the details of how you did it.

As inspirational as your before and afters are, some practical advice to your morbidly obese brothers and sisters would be even more inspirational.

This is a thought provoking post.... I do hope the OP chooses to read and perhaps take the advice so then perhaps we can all learn something that doesn't involve screaming at other members from the OP.

williamwj2014

Didn't read the rest of the post on this thread but wanted to answer to the first post.

Tough love doesn't work for everyone and I agree with your post for the most part personally. I also use to make excuses as to why I couldn't and would let certain events affect my goals. I also woke up one day and told myself enough is enough and decided to change. Some people want to change but they also need that self realization to happen in order for them to change.


I use to believe that people who are in good shape and in good overall health were always motivated but that's far from the truth. It takes pretty strong will power to tell yourself to go to the gym on those days you just aren't feeling like running or lifting but you have to literally tell yourself to do it but there are also times where you are motivated and lose motivation half way through your workout and just can't seem to push past it. You end up just stopping there and this is where quitting creeps up in your mind but you have to tell yourself that the next day at the gym will be better (usually always is for me) As for the food aspect, you have to stop looking towards it to satisfy you all the time and start thinking of it as fuel. It's okay to have your favorite meal once a week if you have to which could be your reward at the end of the week but eventually you will find you don't need that reward.

edit: I brought up motivation because people for the most part think motivation is something that should be constant but it's not.

Hearts_2015

sheepotato wrote: »

Most of the replies are some from of 'Get over it' but instead of spouting platitudes or a blanket statement like that they come in the form of advice that is specific to the thing they are trying to overcome. It's usually from people who have been there and are trying to help. I get that 'tough love' is your thing, but it's not helpful in actually fixing whatever problem people are having. If they could figure it out on their own they would not be asking for advice. "Get over it" just isn't as helpful as "This is how I got over it."

I agree, I too think that would be more helpful... sharing how rather than just being shouted at and belittled.

mtruitt01

Reading these posts was very entertaining. Kept me away from the refrigerator, and for that I thank you all! Love a hot thread! Don't give up, keep on truckin' the path!!

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Mr_Knight

So many things to get over...