Married to a junk food junkie
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I was always the "healthy" eater. I used to (and sometimes still do) glare at him when he is eating a fast food bacon double cheeseburger and fries. The funny thing is, I am the one who had the weight, blood pressure and cholesterol problems, so now I try to just worry about myself..lol0
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Does your husband like meatloaf? I'm really fond of this recipe, and make it a lot -- very healthy, low in calories compared to regular meatloaf, and tastes (IMO) better than any regular meatloaf recipe I've had: http://allrecipes.com/recipe/turkey-and-quinoa-meatloaf.0
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I get pissy with my BF occasionally- he's only here 2 days a week- so usually one meal in- and one meal out- typically the "in" meal is steak- as is the "out" meal- unless we do Mariachi- in which case he ALWAYS gets a plain cheese quesodilla (no meat!?!?!) and then rice.
The only green thing he eats is guac/avacado.
it makes me EFFING CRAZY- I've yelled at him before- what are you a 5 years old- you should know better- you have to eat some fricking veggies in your diet. I'm convinced it's why his breath gets rank so much faster than mine. He eats like crap- mostly carbs - carbs carbs. And he's not working out- so he's squishy. fine whatever. At some point I have to get over it- or just break up honestly.
As I pointed out- he's not 5 years old. he's a grown *kitten* man.
he doesn't want to work out? fine.
he doesn't want to have a balance diet? Fine.
He can do what he wants- I get angry- then I get over it because it's not my body.
And that's up to the point he starts getting obese- then we are going to have a problem. And I already flat out and out told him he's going to be single and fat if that happens. I'm not doing it. I do not want nor will I date/marry an obese boy friend. Period.
He knows that- so it's on him.
I don't care what he puts in his pie hole as long as he is medically fine and not fat.-3 -
Thanks for the helpful responses with other things to make. I do use some salt in my cooking along with garlic and a myriad of other spices. So i don't think it's bland.
I will try to make more stews but after all the responses in nor going to sweat it too much if he turns everything into sandwiches or complains he isn't hungry when dinner is done after he scarfs down pop tarts and a sleeve of crackers with a half of a block of cheese. His idea of dinner when it's his turn to cook is hamburger helper. It is upsetting because he is thin but not healthy and a number of his doctors have told him to eat greens but he refuses. Maybe he will snap out of it or end up with more health issues than he has now
Thank you to the people who were helpful by suggesting different things to try.
I love hamburger helper. Why don't you buy a box and throw in some frozen peas? Easy way to get in some veggies.
Or like... ask HIM waht kind of things he'd be interested in eating that are healthier.0 -
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I am not a short order cook. When I make a meal, the family can either eat it or make themselves something else.0
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"It is upsetting because he is thin but not healthy and a number of his doctors have told him to eat greens but he refuses. Maybe he will snap out of it or end up with more health issues than he has now
Bleh. My response wasn't helpful then, sorry. Why would he refuse to follow medical advice? He sounds like he's bad at food then, I dunno. Did he attempt to make veggies he liked, or ...?
Pro-tip for EZ good veggies: put a tablespoon or so of sweet BBQ sauce in the bottom of a bowl. Put misc. frozen veggies on top. Put a bunch of Lite Salt (potassium and sodium, which is sodium-neutral) and Mrs. Dash or whatever on it. Microwave it for a few minutes. When done, stir it all up. Freaking great.
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Well tonight im trying some roasted non-green veggies and a ninja healthy meatloaf. I like the bbq veggies idea and I have thrown in veggies with hb helper with success. I make a loaded broccoli chicken mac and cheese without much mac or cheese with success too. I also have loaded tacos with corn and bean salsa with success too.0
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Thing is…I have no idea how good a cook you are. I have tasted some "healthy" foods that even the dog (and he's a lab—they'll eat anything!) would eat. OTOH, both Otter and I cook healthy all the time and we love the food we cook.
Otter taught me a lot about eating healthy since she has been trying to lose weight for far longer than I have. We have accumulated quite a few recipes. The general rule seems to be that spices can substitute for fat and sugar in creating a level of satisfaction.
I will put together some of these recipes and finding a place to put them.0 -
Also, V8 or store-brand knockoff stuff is better than nothing, and there's a lot to be said for it being the tomato juice that it predominantly is. You can down it like shot. I don't like it, but I down a cup daily.
Maybe a daily multivitamin too if you're not taking one; they're dirt-cheap and good insurance against dying from weird malnutrition issues at least.
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Well, it wasn't hard to figure out where to put a recipe.
Thanks MFP, for thinking of this!
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my husband and I eat very few common foods. I prefer poultry, he prefers red meat. I prefer leafy veggies, he wants potatoes and corn. He wants fried, I like grilled.
what I do is find a common set of seasonings that will taste good on anything, chop some potatoes, green beans, corn on the cob, and something like a round steak and season it. put it in a baking dish and cover with foil. same time, I put some chicken or turkey in a separate dish with beets, asparagus, onion, and peppers-use the same seasoning, cover with foil. bake them both until they're done. bam. two pans, two dinners, basically the same cooking.
if all else fails, we have spaghetti.
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I learned to make foods my hubby likes but healthier because he wanted and needed to lose some weight. However, he's a junk food junkie like your hubby. Last week, mine finally got serious about watching everything that goes into his mouth. He's never really complained about what I've cooked, but some meals just don't stay with him very long. We stock up on peanuts, almonds, and fresh fruits. Also, I cook him larger servings because his caloric needs are more than mine. He's very muscular but has a stomach he's trying to shed. It's a difficult process finding the balance to make everyone happy.0
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Lourdesong wrote: »Make stuff he likes and you eat a smaller portion to make it healthy/less caloric. If you want to eat the same things, someone has got to budge - is he on a diet? If not, then you should budge, imo, or just eat different things at dinner time.
why should she be the one to budge? that sounds ridiculous. she is the one putting the effort in to make the meals. it doesnt sound like hes giving her any input to help her make something he would enjoy when she asks. if he doesn't like the food, he can make his own.0 -
Be glad you only have one person in your home to appease. I have a spouse and 3 children. My middle child is very picky. I don't eat cheese. My teenager eats almot anything. My husband wont do healthy 7 nights a week and only my toddler eats everything. What we do and it works well for us. Is always makes sure there is atleast one thing per meal everyone likes. I cook 3 or 4 nights a week the lean protein, rosted veggie combo with some alternative carb for them and he cooks the other nights of the week and I usually just limit my portions.
Sit down. Make a meal plan with him. Be willing to compromise and just eat less of something that may not be as good for you. I will adjust my workout on a day I know hubby is making beefy rice with mashed potatoes for dinner because otherwise a whole day's worth of calories is shot on one meal. You got this. Meal plan it really helps out.0 -
I like to make stir fries or thick saucy dishes with lots of veggies and lean protein like chicken, legumes, tofu, or fish. Then, I make a lot of rice or pasta on the side. I make my plate up of mostly veggies, some protein, and a single serving of the carb base...my husband basically ends up eating 4 servings of the carb base and tons of the topping with a ton of salt on top. (Which irritates me because he salts the HECK out of everything BEFORE HE'S TAKEN A TASTE OF IT. So, it's not a matter of taste, it's just a habit with no benefit) He still ends up eating a sleeve of cookies or crackers later, but at least he's making his own choices and we're eating the same meal. He can complain about hating how he looks in photos or taking statins all he wants, it's his choice.0
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Well tonight im trying some roasted non-green veggies and a ninja healthy meatloaf. I like the bbq veggies idea and I have thrown in veggies with hb helper with success. I make a loaded broccoli chicken mac and cheese without much mac or cheese with success too. I also have loaded tacos with corn and bean salsa with success too.
Why skimp on the pasta and cheese? Last time I made a single serving macaroni casserole (about 650+ calories) I used:
53.00 grams (4 pieces), Brown Rice Lasagne, Dry (ran out of macaroni noodles so I just broke them up lol)
44.00 grams, Celery
61.00 grams, Red Tomatoes
47.00 grams, White Mushrooms
53.00 grams, Carrots
179.00 grams, Chicken Breast Raw
100.00 ml (1 cup), 1% Partly Skimmed Milk
57.00 grams, Light Medium Cheddar
I think I would have used more cheese but I ran out. And then of course I added spices which I did not put into the recipe builder.
20g fat, 57g carbs, and 63g protein. A successful macro ratio IMO, and nothing "unhealthy" about it. But then again there isn't anything unhealthy about cheese and pasta. Maybe your criteria for "healthy" is too strict, hence the husband thinking your food is bland.
ETA if you are actually watching calories though, corn and beans are calorie-dense. So just because they are deemed healthy doesn't mean that loading up on them in a dish makes the dish any more calorie-friendly.0 -
oh i got flagged!!!
woot woot!!! Made my Tuesday- although- i'm really confused why!0 -
Well tonight im trying some roasted non-green veggies and a ninja healthy meatloaf. I like the bbq veggies idea and I have thrown in veggies with hb helper with success. I make a loaded broccoli chicken mac and cheese without much mac or cheese with success too. I also have loaded tacos with corn and bean salsa with success too.
that sounds like what I go through with my toddler..
if he's really not giving you anything to go on, don't worry about it. he's a grown man. he can either give you some ideas or eat what you make for him. without fail, any time I ask my SO what he wants to eat he says "i don't care." I know he doesn't like some of the things I make and I know he likes when I switch it up. I try to make what he likes and find a new recipe to try a couple times a week. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't have to eat it. I do make a note of the things he goes back for seconds of, meals where he literally licks his plate clean, and the stuff he doesn't finish.
He doesn't like vegetables all that much either; every once in awhile I will suggest he eat more but most of the time I just let him go. He also snacks on ramen, cereal, sour patch kids, ice cream bars..stuff like that daily. He likes his snacks. our daughter is the same..so I do the same for her.
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Well tonight im trying some roasted non-green veggies and a ninja healthy meatloaf. I like the bbq veggies idea and I have thrown in veggies with hb helper with success. I make a loaded broccoli chicken mac and cheese without much mac or cheese with success too. I also have loaded tacos with corn and bean salsa with success too.
It sounds absolutely awfull to try and bs a grown man with broccoli chicken mac and cheese without the mac and cheese part.....0 -
blktngldhrt wrote: »
Imagine when one is married to an artist who knows everything. As I said, she has a cross to bear.
Now you have requisite insight into what I was really getting at in my post.
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I definitely relate. Hubby loves the concept of healthy eating but often fails in execution. He won't come out and say he hates a meal but he'll mumble around it and break out the beans.
He also conned me in to the cooking when we were negotiating chores. Ah well, I haven't touched a washing machine in over ten years so there are compensations.
I experiment a lot and I ask him to at least try it. I flag recipes that he likes and they get a repeat. He hates fish but he scarfed down breaded and fried cod halfway through before he realized it wasn't chicken. I have a beef curry in tomato sauce that he loves, so zesty, but he insists I never feed him curry. Little does he know.
Slowly we change habits. Ten years ago it was pancakes on Saturday morning with bacon, eggs, and jam. Now it is protein pumpkin pancakes with Greek yogurt and partially defrosted strawberries.
We have hamburger helper in the cupboard when he craves food he recognizes.
He's a Chocoholic, I am not. The junk food in the grocery line is for him, not me. The junk food gets hidden away and the healthy choices are displayed prominently.
I make a salad every couple days placed in a prominent place in the fridge and harp on him to finish it off while it is still fresh. My fitness instructor suggested I jazz it up with more colorful vegetables, sunflower seeds, etc. and that definitely spikes his interest.
If he gets lazy and asks me to serve up his plate, it gets filled with a lot more vegetables than he would take.0 -
OH, he gives neutral answers for all meals, but he only goes for seconds if he likes it. Those recipes are keepers.0
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If you do the grocery shopping: don't buy the crap foods. And if doesn't eat what you cook: tough crap. This ain't Burger King. Eat what I cook or make a PBJ.
Or maybe your a terrible cook. (Srsly. Not trying to be mean here.) Salt enhances flavors, so unless you or he have a cardiac problem, why cut out salts? Use healthy fats, etc., etc. Healthy eating =/= bland foods. Roast veggies, it caramelizes the natural sugars and makes them sweeter. Don't trim the fats off meats, that's where the flavor is! (Don't EAT the fat, that's just gross.) When using cheeses, try sharper cheeses, such as parmigiano reggagio (sp?) which have more flavor but are lower calorie. Big flavors can be accomplished and make healthy eating a pleasure.0 -
blktngldhrt wrote: »
Imagine when one is married to an artist who knows everything. As I said, she has a cross to bear.
Now you have requisite insight into what I was really getting at in my post.
lulz- I'm a creative nerd... so engineer by day- costume designer and dancer by night.
imagine my poor boyfriend LOL0 -
blktngldhrt wrote: »
Imagine when one is married to an artist who knows everything. As I said, she has a cross to bear.
Now you have requisite insight into what I was really getting at in my post.
...im both artist and scientist.
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concordancia wrote: »That is what I was thinking, too. My husband needs more calories than I do and he gets them both through extra servings of what I make and several bowls of cereal at night. Turning what you make into a sandwich sounds like a great option.
^This...
OP, you are overweight and want/need to make a change. Your husband is thin and does not feel the want/need to change anything. Would it be better if he was more supportive? Yes... that said, he is not. If he wants a sandwich, let him have a sandwich. You are his wife, not his mother...
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As long as he eats it and doesn't complain, I wouldn't worry about it. I know you would wish for him to be healthier, but that's a choice he has to make for himself.0
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