restriction help?

lilacjack18
lilacjack18 Posts: 6
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.
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  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Hit your protein goals and add more fat to your day: nuts, cheese, full fat yogurt,
  • Nicola0000
    Nicola0000 Posts: 531 Member
    What do you think will happen if you eat over 800 cals?
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,373 Member
    You need to eat more to sustain your body and daily activities. If you have been feeling like this for a while perhaps its time to talk to a counsellor. No point in beating yourself up especially when eating so little.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    What do you say to yourself when you have these moments of madness?

    What do you know about the importance of netting at least 1200 calories

    Your only solution is to educate yourself ..because your reaction to a very low calorie limit is ridiculous (you need to understand that ridiculousness and educate yourself out of it)

    You're clearly partway there

    Just keep going
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    See a doctor. We can't help you.

    QFT
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    edited December 2014
    People who think they might have a small problem with food almost always do. By the time they admit they have a problem, they're usually anorexic.

    The life of an ED person gets worse and worse because it affects your brain. Alcoholics sober up. They have clear times and drunk times. The anorexic's problem is constant. They never think clearly. They can't...because their brain isn't working. It's starving, just like the rest of them. This lack of good brain function - it makes it worse, not better.

    Depression, anxiety, confusion, forgetfulness, loneliness, apathy, sorrow, a smidge of paranoia and a lot of general misery - that's the life of an anorexic. It's not romantic.

    When food gets tied up with emotion, it's time to take action.

    SEE YOUR DOCTOR. Get a referral to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. Learn everything you can about nutrition, either from a dietitian or in a class, if you're in school.

    Take this seriously. Don't do the, "Oh, I might have issues, but I cannot have an eating disorder!" thing. Don't play around. If you play with fire, you might get burned.

    Take all the action possible to prevent yourself from getting worse and do it now.
  • NicoleisQuantized
    NicoleisQuantized Posts: 344 Member
    Kalikel wrote: »
    People who think they might have a small problem with food almost always do. By the time they admit they have a problem, they're usually anorexic.

    The life of an ED person gets worse and worse because it affects your brain. Alcoholics sober up. They have clear times and drunk times. The anorexic's problem is constant. They never think clearly. They can't...because their brain isn't working. It's starving, just like the rest of them. This lack of good brain function - it makes it worse, not better.

    Depression, anxiety, confusion, forgetfulness, loneliness, apathy, sorrow, a smidge of paranoia and a lot of general misery - that's the life of an anorexic. It's not romantic.

    When food gets tied up with emotion, it's time to take action.

    SEE YOUR DOCTOR. Get a referral to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. Learn everything you can about nutrition, either from a dietitian or in a class, if you're in school.

    Take this seriously. Don't do the, "Oh, I might have issues, but I cannot have an eating disorder!" thing. Don't play around. If you play with fire, you might get burned.

    Take all the action possible to prevent yourself from getting worse and do it now.

    ^ I am in ED-NOS remission and this is the best advise.

    An aspect of eating disorders that is often overlooked is control. Have you recently experienced an emotionally traumatic event in your life? Have you reached an impasse and does restricting caloric intake give you the feeling that you have control over that aspect of your life that was impacted by a negative emotional event?

    The first step in moving away from those destructive thoughts is to try to find out when and why you started eating so little. What were the thoughts and emotions or life circumstances at that time?

    As @Kalikel mentioned, education and mindfulness are necessary steps in overcoming these disordered eating patterns.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    See a doctor. We can't help you.


    ^^^ This.

  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    You need to seek the advice of a professional. No one on here is going to be able to give you the kind of help you need.
  • wkwebby
    wkwebby Posts: 807 Member
    Netting zero when MFP tells you to eat 1200 calories is important just for bodily functions. If you don't hit it, you're going to have even worse reactions (i.e. hair falling out, bad skin, etc).

    Bottom line is to eat your 1200 calories or whatever MFP told you that you need.
  • Kalikel wrote: »
    People who think they might have a small problem with food almost always do. By the time they admit they have a problem, they're usually anorexic.

    The life of an ED person gets worse and worse because it affects your brain. Alcoholics sober up. They have clear times and drunk times. The anorexic's problem is constant. They never think clearly. They can't...because their brain isn't working. It's starving, just like the rest of them. This lack of good brain function - it makes it worse, not better.

    Depression, anxiety, confusion, forgetfulness, loneliness, apathy, sorrow, a smidge of paranoia and a lot of general misery - that's the life of an anorexic. It's not romantic.

    When food gets tied up with emotion, it's time to take action.

    SEE YOUR DOCTOR. Get a referral to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. Learn everything you can about nutrition, either from a dietitian or in a class, if you're in school.

    Take this seriously. Don't do the, "Oh, I might have issues, but I cannot have an eating disorder!" thing. Don't play around. If you play with fire, you might get burned.

    Take all the action possible to prevent yourself from getting worse and do it now.

    ^ I am in ED-NOS remission and this is the best advise.

    An aspect of eating disorders that is often overlooked is control. Have you recently experienced an emotionally traumatic event in your life? Have you reached an impasse and does restricting caloric intake give you the feeling that you have control over that aspect of your life that was impacted by a negative emotional event?

    The first step in moving away from those destructive thoughts is to try to find out when and why you started eating so little. What were the thoughts and emotions or life circumstances at that time?

    As @Kalikel mentioned, education and mindfulness are necessary steps in overcoming these disordered eating patterns.

    Tbh important actually really educated on fitness and being healthy but when it comes to myself i don't take anything seriously. I have a mental disorder that attacks my emotions and relationships so i strive to gain control over something. I want to reach my calorie goal but overtime i get close i feel like im failing myself.

    Its just frustrating because i want to eat like everyone else without feeling like *kitten*.
  • Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    You need to seek the advice of a professional. No one on here is going to be able to give you the kind of help you need.

    I just figure this is a normal thing and a doctor would get annoyed with me for wasting their time.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    You need to seek the advice of a professional. No one on here is going to be able to give you the kind of help you need.

    I just figure this is a normal thing and a doctor would get annoyed with me for wasting their time.

    No, it's not normal. If your doctor doesn't take it seriously, you can call the National Eating Disorders Association hotline. http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support
    This is in the US but I assume there are similar organizations in other countries if you are not in the US.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    You need to seek the advice of a professional. No one on here is going to be able to give you the kind of help you need.

    I just figure this is a normal thing and a doctor would get annoyed with me for wasting their time.
    Wrong...and typical of someone with an ED, too. That "I'm not worth it" stuff gets worse and worse the longer it goes on.

    Please seek help. You can get better. Life will be better when you can think.

    You deserve to feel good. You deserve to eat. You deserve to be happy.

    Go get help. Help is out there. You just have to say, "Yeah, okay, I'd like to feel better. I will give it a shot,"
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    edited December 2014
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    She didn't say she wasn't losing weight. She said she has trouble eating because she feels bad about herself.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    Kalikel wrote: »
    People who think they might have a small problem with food almost always do. By the time they admit they have a problem, they're usually anorexic.

    The life of an ED person gets worse and worse because it affects your brain. Alcoholics sober up. They have clear times and drunk times. The anorexic's problem is constant. They never think clearly. They can't...because their brain isn't working. It's starving, just like the rest of them. This lack of good brain function - it makes it worse, not better.

    Depression, anxiety, confusion, forgetfulness, loneliness, apathy, sorrow, a smidge of paranoia and a lot of general misery - that's the life of an anorexic. It's not romantic.

    When food gets tied up with emotion, it's time to take action.

    SEE YOUR DOCTOR. Get a referral to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. Learn everything you can about nutrition, either from a dietitian or in a class, if you're in school.

    Take this seriously. Don't do the, "Oh, I might have issues, but I cannot have an eating disorder!" thing. Don't play around. If you play with fire, you might get burned.

    Take all the action possible to prevent yourself from getting worse and do it now.

    ^ I am in ED-NOS remission and this is the best advise.

    An aspect of eating disorders that is often overlooked is control. Have you recently experienced an emotionally traumatic event in your life? Have you reached an impasse and does restricting caloric intake give you the feeling that you have control over that aspect of your life that was impacted by a negative emotional event?

    The first step in moving away from those destructive thoughts is to try to find out when and why you started eating so little. What were the thoughts and emotions or life circumstances at that time?

    As @Kalikel mentioned, education and mindfulness are necessary steps in overcoming these disordered eating patterns.

    Tbh important actually really educated on fitness and being healthy but when it comes to myself i don't take anything seriously. I have a mental disorder that attacks my emotions and relationships so i strive to gain control over something. I want to reach my calorie goal but overtime i get close i feel like im failing myself.

    Its just frustrating because i want to eat like everyone else without feeling like *kitten*.

    It sounds as though you have disordered thinking towards food. Since you have a mental illness, I am sure you already see a psychiatrist/psychologist. Please speak to them about this before it gets out of control and you become a full-blown anorexic.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Actually read the post before you comment. And I certainly wouldn't be throwing around the term "troll" in a thread where the OP isn't mentally stable. That might cause more harm than good.
  • meritage4
    meritage4 Posts: 1,441 Member
    As the way above posters said 'See a doctor" Really. It is not normal to worry about eating over 800 calories. You need professional help.
    be kind to yourself, and to your body. If you can't eat over 1200 calories without feeling bad you will physically harm your body.
    Go see a doctor. Please.
  • Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Uh no. This isnt a troll post. And yeah its totally normal to not lose weight while not eating enough. Starvation mode kicks in and my metabolism slows down even more thus causing me to stay the same weight or actually gain weight because when i eat my body will store the nutients and fat so it can survive. So take your ignorance some where else.
  • Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Actually read the post before you comment. And I certainly wouldn't be throwing around the term "troll" in a thread where the OP isn't mentally stable. That might cause more harm than good.

    Thank you. exactly my thoughts. Im just lucky i didnt read this a week ago..
  • Im slowly starting to kick myself in the butt to eat more. I still havent been eating over 1000 calories (yet) but ill get there. Thank you everyone whos taken time to help. Im trying to get better by myself before i go see a professional.
  • a2015grad
    a2015grad Posts: 5 Member
    I mean if you know you are starving yourself and you have a mental disorder that attacks your emotions and relationships, you should know that this is not a normal thing and you need to go seek professional help. If you feel *kitten* about yourself after you eat more than 800 calories a day, that is completely a mental thing and I am no psychologist so I would recommend to seek their help. I don't think anyone here would really be of assistance. Good Luck by the way.


  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Uh no. This isnt a troll post. And yeah its totally normal to not lose weight while not eating enough. Starvation mode kicks in and my metabolism slows down even more thus causing me to stay the same weight or actually gain weight because when i eat my body will store the nutients and fat so it can survive. So take your ignorance some where else.

    That's not actually true...starvation mode doesn't exist in the way you think, you would continue to lose weight and health markers until you die. The metabolism also keeps going

    That said, I hope you've seen a doctor by now because your life could be so much better once you beat this illness
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,373 Member
    Im slowly starting to kick myself in the butt to eat more. I still havent been eating over 1000 calories (yet) but ill get there. Thank you everyone whos taken time to help. Im trying to get better by myself before i go see a professional.

    Please don't procrastinate or use avoidance tactics....see a professional now, the benefits are well worth it.

  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    You need to seek the advice of a professional. No one on here is going to be able to give you the kind of help you need.

    I just figure this is a normal thing and a doctor would get annoyed with me for wasting their time.

    No - I know how you feel. Many doctors won't take an ED seriously unless you're below a healthy BMI. I think you should speak to a counsellor who specializes in eating disorders.

  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    Im slowly starting to kick myself in the butt to eat more. I still havent been eating over 1000 calories (yet) but ill get there. Thank you everyone whos taken time to help. Im trying to get better by myself before i go see a professional.

    You very well might be able to get yourself to eat a healthy amount of calories every day. But the thing that tells you you're no good unless you're starving, that you're not worth a doctor's time, and all that yuck, will still be there. I think you'd benefit a lot from a good therapist no matter what you weight, so if you don't qualify for an ED specialist please don't let that stop you.

    None of us are worth their time, otherwise we wouldn't have to pay them >:)

  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Uh no. This isnt a troll post. And yeah its totally normal to not lose weight while not eating enough. Starvation mode kicks in and my metabolism slows down even more thus causing me to stay the same weight or actually gain weight because when i eat my body will store the nutients and fat so it can survive. So take your ignorance some where else.

    Then how do anorexics get so skinny??

  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    Mr_Knight wrote: »
    Im having a really hard time meeting my calorie goal. everytime i eat more than 800 calories i feel *kitten* about myself but i know i need to eat more to lose weight.

    Is this a troll post?

    There isn't a human alive that won't lose weight on 800 calories a day. If you're not losing weight, you're eating a lot more than 800 calories/day.

    Uh no. This isnt a troll post. And yeah its totally normal to not lose weight while not eating enough. Starvation mode kicks in and my metabolism slows down even more thus causing me to stay the same weight or actually gain weight because when i eat my body will store the nutients and fat so it can survive. So take your ignorance some where else.

    Then how do anorexics get so skinny??

    Because they are eating in an extremely big caloric deficit. They are starving their body.
  • CarrieCans
    CarrieCans Posts: 381 Member
    OP you should see your Dr AND a Therapist.

    You need the dr to make monitor your blood pressure, weight and overall physical health.
    You need the therapist to help you work through your control issues and mental health.

    If possible you should try and get your Dr and Therapist to at least touch base with each other. Yes this allowed if you give them permission.

    Source: experience

    I am in the same boat you are right now. The last few days (months) have been emotional chaos for me and the proof is in my food diary.

    OK now that i have said that i'm off to find some peanut butter. I need more calories.
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