Accepting Changing Body

cyndit1

I know there are worst things to deal with but is anyone else having issues accepting the changes to their body or the comments for people about their weight loss and if so, how do you manage it. I often feel embarrassed by the attention and some people actually get hostile. thanks!

Chrisparadise579

I often get embarrassed when someone complements me as well and I just sort of say thanks and leave it at that, but you should be proud people are noticing! that means its working! The negative comments however, will continue as well, Im not quite sure where it comes from, but I think with alot of people it stems from their insecurities, just try your best to shrug it off and maybe some day they will come to you for help. Just keep up your great work and enjoy your new healthy lifestyle!

cyndit1

Thank you! I guess like everything else we need to accept the "new us". I think many times in the past it was just easier to give up to make everyone else more comfortable with me. I want to be sure this time I don't give up and keep my own goals my priority.

lewispwest

I used to proper lap up the attention I was getting but it does embarrass me a bit now, that and people have been aggressive to me as well who are likely jealous due to their inability to diet which wasn't particularly nice.

I'm still trying to get used to not being obese

yoovie

repeated exposure, self-exploration, continued education, something to stand for.

SideSteel

cyndit1 wrote: »

I know there are worst things to deal with but is anyone else having issues accepting the changes to their body or the comments for people about their weight loss and if so, how do you manage it. I often feel embarrassed by the attention and some people actually get hostile. thanks!

I have an opinion on this.

I would ask yourself what it is that makes you embarrassed just to see if you can come to terms with it and perhaps identify if there is an underlying cause.

My experience with this is that the vast majority of times when someone comments on your weight loss they mean it with the best of intent. Unfortunately sometimes people don't always know how to deliver that as a compliment so it can come across poorly.

For example saying things like "Oh my you need to stop losing weight! You're like a stick!" can easily be offensive but I honestly think that the intent of the message is positive, as crazy as that sounds.

Very few people are able to lose weight and maintain that weight loss, so when people manage to do it, other people notice. It stands out, so it draws commentary.

Now as far as the hostility I don't really know what to say about that -- some people are just ducks. And I say ducks because when I type something similar to ducks on my iphone, the autocorrect changes it to ducks so we'll just leave the comment family appropriate.

Be assured that your weight loss is nothing to be embarrassed about. You are making positive changes to your life and other people are noticing. Most of those people are trying to commend you for it, and maybe a few people are uncomfortable with it because your success points out their lack of success.

Sued0nim

You say "thank you", smile, and get over yourself a little

It's a compliment, they have moved on already

middlehaitch

Complements are funny things.
At this years company party I wore a backless dress. The bosses wife told me I had the back of a 30 yr old. My immediate thought was 'hurumph my front must look like the 61 yr old I am'
But in a spilt second the thought turned around and I took it as an overall compliment. After all, I had bought the dress because I loved the back of it.
Spent the rest of the night feeling 30.
Happy new year, h.

ana3067

My weight loss isn't that noticeable, since I'm aiming at lowering my body fat % and not my overall weight. I've received maybe 4-5 comments since I started about my weight, usually just smile and move on.