"Why you gotta be so mean?"

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  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    WalkingAlong wrote: »
    Are you sure he wasn't listening to a funny podcast or something? Through a small bluetooth in his ear?

    Since this was your workplace, I would be tempted to ask him what his deal was and if he didn't have a real good excuse, maybe even mention it to someone above you. I'm not at all overly sensitive to harrassment but laughing at someone in the gym is pretty over the line. And in the workplace you have the right to respect, legally.

    You're right. I didn't see ear phones but he could have had a Bluetooth. You're also right about respect. Who knows. I'll avoid him like the plague in the meantime.
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    herrspoons wrote: »
    Hip thrusts? Not even once.

    Anyway, you should have whirled round, brained him with the weights, then found his locker key, stolen his car, robbed his house, and, possibly, killed his dog.

    Some would say that's harsh, but they're probably pinkos.

    Haha!!!! Yeah that's a way to deter him from snickering. :p
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    999tigger wrote: »

    Everybody has right to be left alone but nobody is entitled to actually leave them alone, unless they are breaking the law.

    In this case calling it harassment or being ridiculed is very huge exaggeration. [/quote]

    Your English is rather confusing. If she has a right to be left alone, but isnt entitled to be left alone, then how does that work?

    If the laughing is directed at her, then they dont have to be breaking the law, they can simply be at odds with common courtesy or the rules of the gym she is at, which would include respect and no unwelcome interference with other members.

    I am quite surprised you are supporting this other guys right as you see it to laugh at other gym members because of how they are exercising, which is immature at best and downright rude and discourteous. You might find it acceptable, but id have no problem reporting you to the gym or your manager (as its a work gym) if you were doing the same. Be a jerk in your own space and inflict it on your friends.
    [/quote]

    Thank you!! I thought she was a bit aggressive myself.
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    goddessofawesome wrote: »
    Was he looking at you as he was snickering? You only say that you saw him in the mirror but not that he was looking right at you. Did he have ear buds in that maybe you didn't see? Perhaps something funny came on the radio and he was snickering at that?

    There are plenty of times that something will strike me funny -- something I hear, something that I see might trigger some funny memory or I'm just thinking of a certain person or situation -- and I'll start giggling. I'm not laughing at anyone, I'm just . . . . laughing.

    He looked at me and put his head down while laughing. I agree to give the benefit of the doubt and perhaps tomorrow it won't be a repeat of today and I can squat my little heart out. :)
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    disasterman wrote: »
    Possibly refer to Gym Attire for Women thread ? Otherwise, ignore the idiots at the gymand carry on.

    My attire was non see through black yoga pants and a loosely fitted non see through black shirt. ITs my workplace so I'm not about to show nothing off.

  • JeffseekingV
    JeffseekingV Posts: 3,165 Member
    Trust me, if you snickered at him while he was "thinking" he was pulling something heavy, that would probably bruise his ego for months if not years.
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    I had a guy follow me out to my car to tell me
    JeffseekingV wrote: »
    Trust me, if you snickered at him while he was "thinking" he was pulling something heavy, that would probably bruise his ego for months if not years.

    hahaha!!! Probably so. But I would never do that. o:)

  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    JoRocka wrote: »
    People are a$$es- whatever- if someone was doing that I would ask if I had a tear in my pants probably.

    But yeah- you get used to people looking at you doing weird things. It is what it is.

    And I second getting weird looks for doing hip thrusts-eveyrone goes "don't make eye contact!!!" RUBBISH!!! you start putting two plates on there no one is making fun of you. - and then I dare them to look at me-MASSIVE_ LONG_ HARD COLD EYE CONTACT.... because my eyes say- yes- my vagina will rape you- you see this- this steel I'm throwing around.

    WIll.
    RAPE.
    YOU.

    You don't really have to say it- you can just transmit the message with your eyes- people stop looking at you funny.
    ^^ this is encouraging JoRocka B)
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    A bit OT, but tonight I was in the elevator at my building, singing along with my headset on, when someone in the elevator started snickering and said something, that was probably derogatory. I didn't hear it because, as I said, I had my headset on. So, I ignored her and she got off at the wrong floor. ;-)

    Which reminds me, if you take your focus off yourself, you're the only one who suffers.
  • Elise4270
    Elise4270 Posts: 8,375 Member
    My guess is that he was so enamored with you that he forgot how to speak. LOL! I hate to stereotype, but come on..... LAME-O!

    And if its company run, he's out of line! Who's his boss... :p
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    ainarsraciks wrote: »
    JoRocka wrote: »
    ainarsraciks wrote: »
    lana0715 wrote: »
    Please mind your own business and keep your laughing to yourself if you think something or someone looks funny doing something especially at a gym.
    Why should he? How about you keep your "offending" to yourself?

    What I mean is, he finds something about you (if that even was about you) funny... good for him. You find it offensive or discouraging, or intimidating, or whatever... good for you. None of you are entitled not to feel the way you do and none of you are entitled to hide those emotions either.

    It's kinda like sticking your nose in a business what is not your's. It's not his business what kind of weight you lift or what kind of form you have, etc. And it's not your's what he is lough ting about.

    What I'm saying is, it's you who are doing the offending/intimidating, to yourself. It's not him. Might as well be a very fit looking lady sitting there and the she looks at you and you go "don't look at me, you're in so good shape and I'm not, you are intimidating me, are you making a point looking at me?". While she would just look around cos... people tend to do that sometimes, ya know, we have... eyes. In that extreme example is it your fault for being shy/nervous/low self esteem or is it her's for having the eyes? Same concept here.
    lana0715 wrote: »
    Just a bit of my day and hope someone can learn from it.

    I think that that the MAIN person who should learn something from this is YOU. Observe your self confidence problems and work on them. That is a real problem and not guy having a lough about your squatting butt.

    Focus on the fact that you are working on your health and body. On exercises you are doing and not what others at gym are doing. Getting healthy and fit should be about YOU and not about others.

    I probably ended up sounding like an ahole. No h8, m8. Duces.

    Yeah I'm not buying it. out and out laughing at someone in the gym isn't nice
    Never said it's nice or a good thing to do. But they are also not entitled not to, just because it's mean. That's just a consequence of leaving our house - we may encounter some people who are not nice.

    The point is, where does emotion come from? Does the guy laughs and an intimidation fairy flies out of his mouth in your ear, so you get intimidated? Is it he who is intimidating you and doing this to you? Or are YOU creating the intimidation in your own brain?

    All our emotions are crated in our brain, we are doing it to ourselves. Hence it's our fault, not the people's who are "doing" it "to" us. So it's silly to blame it on a guy when YOU are the one crating it. That's my point.

    I understand and agree with what you're saying.

    Best of luck in persuading those who don't.

    I'll be over here on the sidelines just watching though. I've seen this play before.
  • LC932017
    LC932017 Posts: 94 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NCILdSxhIS8

    Haha
    ainarsraciks wrote: »
    lana0715 wrote: »
    Please mind your own business and keep your laughing to yourself if you think something or someone looks funny doing something especially at a gym.
    Why should he? How about you keep your "offending" to yourself?

    What I mean is, he finds something about you (if that even was about you) funny... good for him. You find it offensive or discouraging, or intimidating, or whatever... good for you. None of you are entitled not to feel the way you do and none of you are entitled to hide those emotions either.

    It's kinda like sticking your nose in a business what is not your's. It's not his business what kind of weight you lift or what kind of form you have, etc. And it's not your's what he is laughing about.

    What I'm saying is, it's you who are doing the offending/intimidating, to yourself. It's not him. Might as well be a very fit looking lady sitting there and then she looks at you and you go "don't look at me, you're in so good shape and I'm not, you are intimidating me, are you making a point looking at me?". While she would just look around cos... people tend to do that sometimes, ya know, we have... eyes. In that extreme example, is it your fault for being shy/nervous/low self esteem or is it her's for having the eyes? Same concept here.
    lana0715 wrote: »
    Just a bit of my day and hope someone can learn from it.

    I think that the MAIN person who should learn something from this is YOU. Observe your self confidence problems and work on them. That is the real problem and not guy having a lough about your squatting butt.

    Focus on the fact that you are working on your health and body. On exercises you are doing and not what others at gym are doing. Getting healthy and fit should be about YOU and not about others.

    I probably ended up sounding like an ahole. No h8, m8. Duces.

    This isn't a philosophical debate. It's about respecting others and I can clearly see that's not an easy message for you to grasp. Duces

  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    JoRocka wrote: »
    People are a$$es- whatever- if someone was doing that I would ask if I had a tear in my pants probably.

    But yeah- you get used to people looking at you doing weird things. It is what it is.

    And I second getting weird looks for doing hip thrusts-eveyrone goes "don't make eye contact!!!" RUBBISH!!! you start putting two plates on there no one is making fun of you. - and then I dare them to look at me-MASSIVE_ LONG_ HARD COLD EYE CONTACT.... because my eyes say- yes- my vagina will rape you- you see this- this steel I'm throwing around.

    WIll.
    RAPE.
    YOU.

    You don't really have to say it- you can just transmit the message with your eyes- people stop looking at you funny.

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