Just cannot get the motivation

polkadotty88

Hey everyone... Ok so a few years back I used MFP and lost a few stone. Then I fell pregnant. After having my baby I have managed to lose 34lbs. But since Christmas I just cant get the motivation back, keep binging on junk food and eating ridiculous amounts which are adding upto over 3,000 calories a day; I know! its ridiculous. I really need some strong words from some strong minded people!! I currently weigh 12 and half stone. The lowest I have ever been is 10 and half stone, my aim is 10 stone..... HELPPPPP xx tips, ideas, photos anything!

thanks in advance

mymodernbabylon

Focus one day at a time. Put your food into MFP even if you over-eat. The more you hold yourself accountable, the more it will become a habit and you will learn to eat the way you want.

TimothyFish

STOP IT!

Sued0nim

It's not about motivation, it's about commitment

if you're unhappy about your body commit to yourself

Losing weight is hard. Being overweight is hard. Pick your hard!

GeemaLeema

mymodernbabylon wrote: »

Focus one day at a time. Put your food into MFP even if you over-eat. The more you hold yourself accountable, the more it will become a habit and you will learn to eat the way you want.

I agree! If I go over I have to put it all into MFP to make myself feel a little guilty that I ate too much or ate the wrong things. My other advice is to ease back into it. Don't put too much pressure on yourself when starting back up. I find I can only loose weight if I am in the right mind set so doing it gradually might help you to get more motivated.

Hope that helps

FRJM

I just focus on one day at a time....once I've nailed it for one day, I focus on the following day...it soon becomes habbit. I try not to look too far ahead and focus on little victories eg. saying no to a chocolate for the first time instead of thinking I might hyperventilate if I don't have my favourite choc! Or actually turning up to running club instead of saying I'll go next week....it all adds up :-)

Jwanguy

I agree take it one day at a time. Everyone has setbacks it's just deciding on getting back focused or giving up. Log everything even if you do go over. Do better the next day. Losing weight is a marathon not a race. Hope this helps.

pinkiezoom

how about setting smaller challenges each day, for example, today just choose not to have soda/fizzy drink ( or whatever your nemesis is ) then at the end of the day you will feel a sense of achievement, and this mind set is easier to grow with smaller steps rather than just denying anything you think is bad for you.
Good luck, you have done it before so you can do it again x

Tylerbrook01

I take my girl in her buggy walking everyday for 45-60 mins, because I've worked hard doing that it keeps me from eating more than I should, because I don't like to waste my hard work! And two weeks in it seems to be working,

xblackstars

I understand where you are at, because I too am struggling. I'm at my heaviest 12 stone and I'm 5"3' and struggling. MFP has helped me cut 1.8lbs down already in just over a week, every day I wake up and tell myself I'm going to be more active. I've cut out a lot of things like crisps, chocolate and more fruit and veg. I've also cut out a lot of the fatty meats and takeaways, it can be done. Just keep your head up.

Sued0nim

TimothyFish wrote: »

STOP IT!

I like this

prattiger65

This is harsh, but if you don't care enough, how can anything I say make you care? You have to give a damn.

angieroo2

rabbitjb wrote: »

It's not about motivation, it's about commitment

if you're unhappy about your body commit to yourself

Losing weight is hard. Being overweight is hard. Pick your hard!

I was about to post the same thing, so I`ll just quote it.

Kalikel

If you don't want to do it, don't do it. No reason to set yourself up to fail.

When you want to do it, you will. Nothing will stop you. You won't have to look for motivation because wanting it will motivate you.

NoelFigart1

Losing weight is not a moral imperative. If you don't want to, really... Don't. If you want to, there's your motivation. You want it.

Not worth tying yourself in knots about.

jennalor

I have been in a similar situation, reading this helped me a lot. Best of luck!

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1

chivalryder

"Listen, the majority of you don't make a living from how your body looks. You have real distractions and that enters into all of how you approach your physique goals. There will be times, maybe days in row where you lack enthusiasm to follow your program. It happens – people always have real life to contend with as well. When it feels like a chore every day to go to the gym - NOW – that is the most important time to get out and “just do it”. In real life, consistency is more important than intensity. You can’t rely on “motivation” all the time. That’s a fool’s game, that you will always lose. Remember, often life dictates that you are better off trying to get a base hit, than to swing hard for a home run. If you have to dial it back to get it done - as in "active recovery" then do so. Pay attention to your biofeedback. It is always telling you the truth!"\


~ Coach Scott Abel

999tigger

Motivation comes from you im afraid. Surely you cna write down the reasons why you wnat to lose weight and then decide whether you are prepared to commit and do what it takes to get there? Youve done a great job losing 34, just chill a bit and give yourself some clack then form a plan to get back to maintenance, then small steps to get you back into how you were losing before, if thats your wish. Not as though you are 300lbs+.

DawnieB1977

Have you got some old photos of when you weighed less, or old clothes?

My third baby is 8 months now and I'm pretty motivated, but all it would take is looking at a 'thin' photo to stop me eating over my calorie limit, or get me to the gym if I were having an off day. I also have a wardrobe full of lovely clothes in my pre-pregnancy size, and I find trying them on and seeing them get that much closer to fitting is pretty motivating.

I know the weather is crappy at the moment, but put the rain cover on the buggy and go out for a walk.

I got a Fitbit for Xmas and I love seeing the steps add up.

clambert1273

well you can even look at my diary and see what happened... I started to log, then well yeah.. then tried to log another day.. not so much.. finally after a few days of "trying", I just went back at it and started carrying around my food scale (yes I am a geek like that) and I have found in the last week, I am much happier with myself than my half *kitten* starts

holyfenix

Food is good, If you want to keep eating it more than you want to look good naked then that's your choice. Nothing anyone here says will "motivate" you.





Or you could just say you are on a winter bulk




Not Srs.

Iwishyouwell

Strip down and take pictures of your entire body in florescent light. And no flattering myspace-fat-girl angles.

If that doesn't kick you in the butt, nothing will.

Branstin

It is easy to fall back into bad eating habits when you are new to weight loss. The key is not to procrastinate over it because procrastination doesn't burn fat.

markiend

Well if you have shed weight in the past, then you need to repeat what you did back then.

Harsh words from us, might help right not or may not but we cannot be there to stop you going for the extra slice of pizza. You have to want to do it

So , hard work, logging , lifting and exercise between now and next Christmas and you can achieve your goal...

but do you really want it badly enough... Hope you do ..now get on it

troutrouter

Weight loss is about self-accountability, self-control, and self-motivation.

deksgrl

Decision is necessary, not motivation. You decide every day to take the steps needed to lose the weight. Then, on the days where you didn't do it perfectly, you don't give up. If you blow it by lunchtime, you don't say the heck with it, I'll eat everything all day since I blew it already. And you certainly don't let that bleed into the next day and say, I already blew it yesterday so might as well eat what I want today. You go back to your plan immediately, log it, don't blame yourself, move on.

That said, don't choose an unrealistically low calorie goal that makes it hard to stick to. Plan some treats into your calorie goals so that you don't feel deprived.

Use a food scale for accurate logging. Move some every day.

You will be on your way to your goal in no time.

LeslieB042812

I agree with those who say to start small and build up because that worked for me. Start with committing to tracking, not restricting what you eat but just diligently tracking it. You want a cookie, okay eat it and track it! I think you'll notice that that will help you get your eating under control a little. The next step is to start trying to stay within a calorie range, while still tracking. The key is to take it one moment at a time--committ to tracking this thing right now, rather than tracking forever (or even all day, which can still feel overwhelming).

Some other tips that help with staying on track:

• Pay attention to how hungry you feel when you eat different things. For me, I feel more satisfied if I eat foods that are high volume, high protein, high fat. So, a big salad with skin on chicken thighs will keep me full for much longer than a chicken breast wrap with the same number of calories will. It's easier to resist temptation when you don't feel like you're starving!
• Don't deny yourself eating things you like, rather moderate them. For example, I love ice cream, so I plan to have a serving of ice cream every night. I choose lower calorie options that still taste good, so it's not hard to fit in an extra 100-150 calories of happiness. It makes me feel less deprived and gives me a food to look forward to.
• When there's an unplanned temptation (like someone brings cupcakes to the office), I don't say "I can't have that" because that just makes me cram three in my mouth. Instead, I ask myself if it's worth the calories. If the answer is yes, then I usually choose to wait to eat it. If I still want it after a set amount of time (such as after lunch or after my next meeting) and it's still there, then I'll eat it and enjoy it and know it's worth it. However, 9 times out of 10 I don't really want it as much anymore and it's easier to resist or it might even be gone (in which case I've never been sad not to have it).
• Know your trigger foods. For me it's crisps. I can eat and enjoy a portion controlled amount, but I cannot serve myself out of a multi-serving bag--I'll eat the whole bag (even if I measure each serving out, I'll just keep going back and getting another one). So, when I'm on my own, I just don't buy them. When I'm with my family and they want them for the house, I buy single serving packs. They cost a bit more up front but end up cheaper than me eating a whole bag by myself!
• Most importantly, don't give up! You can do this, one moment and one bite at a time!

Good luck!

emilymean

Set a date, maybe this Friday, eat all the things in the meantime (get all your cravings out of your system). Next, clean out your cupboards and refrigerator, make a healthy shopping list, plan your meals ahead of time and move forward. Weigh yourself, weigh your foods, eat at a deficit, add exercise, look at you 3 months from now all healthy and happy with yourself again. Good luck.

YoWhadup

Think of this: This time next year, you'll be kicking yourself in the *kitten* for not starting today. Imagine the possibilities of having a whole year left to go. Think about, if you start today, where you will be a year or 6 months or even a month down the road!

sjaplo

So that's how the whole birds and bees thing works....you fall pregnant.

Lucky I have good balance.

Chlo92x

I always find it helps to look at fitness twitter accounts for motivation, they post pictures of HOT bodies and diet tips and work out plans and motivational quotes!

here are a few:
@LiftingandGirls
@HeaIth365
@HeaIthyTips
@HeaIthyNotes
@FlTNESS
@FlTNESSpics
@FitspirationaI

I also always get super mtoivated and feel good when I weigh and see results

Think about how you want to look in 6 months and work for it