Partners who get jealous over weightloss...?

tmm_0127

My ex would try working out when he was seeing the results I was getting and would get jealous mostly because I have the time to do it and he didn't (worked 40+ hours a week and went to night school 4 days out the week - could have gone to the gym during lunch and on his days off but didn't) and he'd have his ways of encouraging me, but he also liked rubbing my belly saying it was for good luck and pinching my chubby cheeks even though I told him it made me feel awful and to stop ... never did.

Amadbro

My fiance was with me when I was my heaviest at 221lbs 30%+ bodyfat and when I cut to 160 12% you could tell she was very jealous. She'd make all kinds of snarky comments when we'd go to the beach like "oh I bet your just so proud having all these girls look at you"..stuff like that. We sat down and had a serious chat and I think she understands that I don't do it for anyone but me.

sugarkissprincess

Yes, my husband hates the attention I get. Constantly asking me if I'm going to leave him if I find someone better...

ripzone13

My EX husband liked to keep me fat. He was very fit, which makes this even stranger. I didn't realize at the time, but he was always keeping me away from the gym,cooking really unhealthy food, and would scoff at me at the mention of me losing weight. He was very very controlling, and I think he thought if I stayed overweight I wouldn't think I could do better than him. Wrong!
My now boyfriend asks me what I "can" and "cannot" eat, he loves to cook, and cooks everything lean and healthy for me. He even watches my little girl on the weekends so I can get to the gym! That is what I call supportive, and I am thankful for it each day.

dlionsmane

Nope, I've gained all of my weight in the first four years that we have been together. So I am getting back to where I was when we first started dating (and then some). The good part is that since I do all the cooking he is eating better and he is happy about it because he has also lost some weight and his cholesterol is in check! So we both win, plus we like to walk and hike and it's so much easier when you are a healthy weight!

seltzermint555

My husband was pushing 400 lb in high school and lost nearly 200 lb during his 20's (has kept it off long term). He is a big guy, 6'2" and 225ish right now and he's very fit (flat stomach, great legs and arms, the works). But I think he is quite fascinated by MFP, even though he does not use it. He's expressed shock that I have actually lost 1.58 lb per week on average...I think it's the accuracy of MFP that fascinates him and secretly I think he wants to use the site too but for some reason he won't.

The only time he's ever actually seemed "jealous" is when we both ate a lot of road food and pastries and junk on our wedding trip and I gained 1 lb and he gained around 8 lb.

I still have quite a lot to lose, although I'll probably stop around 180 lb. He is happy for me regardless and only jokingly makes comments about "don't lose your bum/hips" but there's no danger of that. I have my mother's bum/hips and even at 120 lb she looked like Kim Kardashian so it's all good.

DrMAvDPhD

Jealous that you are able to lose the weight and jealous of attention that you are getting are separate things.

Neither my husband nor I are jealous about outside attention. We both find it flattering and trust each other to not stray so it's a complete non-issue.

Now I think when we were first starting out, I dropped weight much faster than my husband and he was jealous of my better metabolism. Now that we've been at it for well over a year, I am quite jealous of his ability to pack on muscle (relatively) easily while as a woman I have to really wait for big results. This type of jealousy just serves as motivation :-)

allisonsdaddy

I haven't found there to be any jealousy between the two of us. In fact, when one of us "falls off the wagon" it is motivating to see the other's progress and is an encouragement to keep on.
And she has nothing to be jealous about anyway...she knows I'll love her until all the days stop.

SugarBaby71

I think it has less to do with you losing weight and suddenly everybody wanting you, and more with you losing weight and becoming more confident and happy with your body and some people ( not only your partners) can become jealous of that.

This.

CaraRahl

my fiance started off by encouraging my fitness journey, and now he's starting one of his own so we get to encourage each other

YouHadMyCuriosity

My husband is an extremely fit guy (he has to be for his job), and I have always been a bit sluggish- I take inspiration from him when I can, and don't feel jealous or grumpy when he is getting fit. He has always been an encouragement to me- when I workout more and get stronger, he tells me how proud he is. The times in our marriage that I have gained weight and "fallen off the wagon", so to speak, he has still called me "beautiful" every day, and, when I express dissatisfaction with my body, he gives me helpful advice to get more fit- for example, lifting a couple weights, going for a run.

I have had toxic relationships before in my life, so I truly appreciate having a partner that is there for me- I feel that I would have a hard time being with a partner, now, that doesn't celebrate my successes with me, and still love me through my downfalls.