Weight Above Which You Wouldn't Go

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  • PinkNinjaKitty
    PinkNinjaKitty Posts: 32 Member
    My highest weight was 167 and that was back in May. I weighed 120-130 most of my adult life before that. The weight just crept up and BAM 167. I never want to see that number again. My ceiling is going to be 150. I am currently about 5 pounds above that.

    When I went to the hospital to give birth I weighed about what I weigh today and that is depressing as F@CK! Never again will I let myself gain like this. I hate that people tell me I look good at this weight. I have never stopped working out but as I have gotten older I see that I can't eat junk at all. I gain from food when in the past I could eat anything and be ok.

    I still haven't figured out my "goal" weight. I guess I will know when I get there. I'm thinking 140 would be good. I'm 5'6" and don't want to be too thin.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I never had a weight in mind, honestly. I always weighed more than my friends, even in elementary school when I was many inches taller than everyone (including most of my teachers) so I was used to considering myself "on a different chart". By high school, I'd stopped growing at 5'8" so I wasn't the tallest person around but I continued to weigh more (always over 200 lb by then) and didn't really care!

    I did get a shock when I was over 300 though (just by a few pounds, but still). For about 15 years I pretty much ate whatever I wanted, and NEVER weighed myself, did not own a scale - and when weighed in at the doctor's office, I was always somewhere in the neighborhood of 260-275 (ALWAYS) so I expected that I might have hit 280 but wasn't expecting 307 and that was part of what made me serious about losing weight.

    Now that I am at 169 lb, I don't mind seeing 171 on the scale occasionally but I don't want to see 180 ever again. If I ever get remotely close to 200 lb again I will flip out and get very very serious about weight loss!!
  • exstromn
    exstromn Posts: 176 Member
    edited January 2015
    I always said, "shoot me if I get to be over 200 LBS" It happened anyway, the 200 that is. When I was getting too close to 300 LBS I said enough is enough, I'm way out of control and at the age of 45 my metabolism will just keep getting slower and slower the older I get. I have a goal weight that was set for me, I also have my own "more comfortable" goal weight. I gotta be realistic and know that I will never look like I did in HS again after 2 kids and a 150 LB gain over the last 26 years. I think some people who were thinner or more fit in the past look at weight loss like going backwards in their mind through the years to arrive at that "ideal" picture of themselves they carry around like a snapshot in their pocket. "If only I could get back to that, THEN I would be happy" There is no time machine to help us with that. So much pressure on ourselves can lead to one failure after another, and in the mean time the weight continues to go up. My life was on auto-pilot waiting to be happy and wasting my emotions on food and dreaming of that unattainable HS version of myself that I would get to "someday". Waiting to be happy will only be a dissapointment in my opinion. Living NOW can be so hard if you wait to be happy. I'm still working on that. Good luck to you all!
  • Bj0223
    Bj0223 Posts: 133 Member
    Everyone will have a different answer to how weight gain got out of control. For me, it was being a military wife and moving every few years and starting over so many times. I gained about 20 pounds at each new base. When I was over 200 I was devastated and made changes. I also saw pictures from a recent vacation and was shocked at how out of control my weight had become.
    So far in the last 2 years I have lost 70 pounds :)
  • acorsaut89
    acorsaut89 Posts: 1,147 Member
    Mine wasn't so much about weight as it was how I look.

    For example, when I was 18-19 years old, I was FIT! I mean I was involved in 4 sports so at any time of the year I was playing something . . . I worked out and I was loving life. I am 5'10 so pretty tall and I weighed in at 190lbs. I didn't look like I weighed that but I did. I think because I don't have a petite frame, I don't look like what I weigh. I carry it well and so that's a tough one for me to answer.

    For me, it's about how I look and the size I wear. I was also really muscular and like an Amazonian woman lol . . .

    I got up to 320 by the time I was 23 so in just 4 short years of nothing but purely overeating the wrong foods and not being as active - I started university so in order to focus on my future, I just kind of had to give up the sports I was involved in.
  • livb528
    livb528 Posts: 55 Member
    My previous highest weight was 235. I never really weighed myself in high school but started in college and that number was shocking to me. I couldn't let myself go above that. I lost 30ish lbs twice (gained it back before). Then I got married and had several back to back pregnancies and then developed hypothyroidism which my Dr initially misdiagnosed me so I didn't get treatment. I ended up gaining 40 lbs from it and hit 260. My body had seemed to "cap" at 260 by itself and after I got on meds for hypothyroidism I knew I couldn't go above that weight. Now, I'd love to never be above 200 but I have to get there first. ;)

    As for how I initially let my weight get out of control, I'd been chubby/ overweight since age 9/10. So in my mind I was always the "fat girl" anyways. Also, I had horrible depression that was never diagnosed as a teenager. I binged ate all my feelings and was horribly addicted to sugar. Life was hopeless. I didn't have the awareness or tools in how to fix my depression or lose weight. (And my parents were clueless) I knew nothing about nutrition. Now, it's very rare for me to binge eat and I have the knowledge/ tools in what foods to eat that nourish my body and how to lose weight.
  • krysmuree
    krysmuree Posts: 326 Member
    For me, it was 200. I finally hit 200 a few months back and said never again. :/ Most women are in the 100's somewhere - 110, 150, 180, whatever - but 200? That was a big digit change to me. I used to maintain 172 for the longest time and it spiked up to 198 after my fiance and I moved in together. Now it's 189 and climbing down! I don't ever want to see 200 again.
  • macrotracko
    macrotracko Posts: 25 Member
    130 is my "time to get back at it" weight. I'm 5'3. I also rely on clothing fit a lot. I refuse to buy larger clothing simply to accommodate getting fat.
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    edited January 2015
    I was never technically "overweight", but I kind of freaked out when my clothes were suddenly too tight and I finally got on a scale and was 140-something after being 120 my entire life previously. A 20-pound gain on someone who's always been the same size before was definitely a wake-up call.

    ETA: Now that I've lost the weight, over 125 is my danger zone.
  • Th3Ph03n1x
    Th3Ph03n1x Posts: 275 Member
    LAWoman72 wrote: »
    Wow...well, as a teenager, it was 110.

    At the age of 45, it was 200.

    I got above that anyway.

    Under it now. :)

    It was never 110 that would be underweight for me. It was 200 but I passed it and got to 218. I did try to lose before I got to 200 but then I gained again. doing it differently this time.

  • Ooci
    Ooci Posts: 247 Member
    I never thought about a number. I just felt very hungry all the time. I still feel very hungry all the time. I think it's hard for people who don't have over hunger making genes continuously sending those signals to the brain ( never mind what fat reserves are on the body ) to comprehend how incredibly hungry overweight people often are. I never stop thinking about food, I notice food wherever I go and I want it. I eat it and an hour later I'm hungry again and I want more. It doesn't really matter if my day is 1300 cals, 2200 cals, 3000 cals - I always feel like I could fit some more in, and that would be really really nice. It is an inabilty of the brain to clock the fact it needs no more fat reserves and it is why many people get very very big. And in fact, if weight loss occurs, these drives to eat and replenish fat stores are a siren call which is why we yo-yo.
    -It wasn't a number that made me decided enough's enough, it was the fact my life had become very hard from a health point of view. I though "I look *kitten* at this weight and I will look *kitten* when I'm two stone lighter, and I'll never have the discipline to take it further"

    Time showed me I under-estimated myself.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    When I was in high school I swore I'd never get over 120 lbs. Ah, youth!
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    For me it's more about size. When I was slowly gaining, I'd go shopping for new clothes and if it meant I had to go up a size, no big deal. It must've been the way the brands were sized, yadda yadda. I don't play those games anymore. I'm currently in a size 14 and there is no way I will buy pants any bigger!
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    My weight gradually crept up to 180 lbs before I really felt like there was no way I would let it go any higher. That is very overweight for me. I wouldn't say I was unconcerned when I weighed less than that but that was the final straw weight.
  • tchell99
    tchell99 Posts: 434 Member
    200. I never actually reached it. My highest recorded weight was 188, but I suspect I crept into the 190s at one point.
  • enm2122
    enm2122 Posts: 14 Member
    I'm not for sure if I had a particular number in mind. I just know that I hit my highest at 170 during the holidays, and I was determined from that point on. I'm 5'8", so my healthy range is around 135-165. I have fluctuated between 165-169 the past 5 years, but as soon as I saw it bump up to the 170 range, it made me sick. I'm determined to get down to 150 as my first goal.
  • brightsideofpink
    brightsideofpink Posts: 1,018 Member
    Clothing size had more significance to me than the number on the scale. My mental break was at XL. I had worn XL for so long, as long as they still fit I was pretty apathetic. Until one day XL didn't fit. That was enough of a shock to me. I refused to buy xxl or 2x or any sized pants not in the teens. Now I'm giddy as a school girl when my size L stuff is getting too big :)
  • ElizabethNJ
    ElizabethNJ Posts: 32 Member
    When I stepped on the scale and saw 150, that was the last straw for me. I had gained about 20 lbs in a year & a half. I felt super hot when i was 130, so that's my goal...maybe 125.
  • My heaviest was 255 at the delivery of my first child. Now that I can no longer have children my absolute number is 140. Even though I'd still be in a normal BMI, I feel and look better at 130 or lower.
  • lemon629
    lemon629 Posts: 501 Member
    edited January 2015
    SuggaD wrote: »
    BarbieAS wrote: »
    SuggaD wrote: »
    So when I was overweight, I always had 200 in my mind. That was the number I would never allow myself to get to. What was yours and how did you decide on that number? I'm honestly interested in gaining some understanding as to how people allow their weight to get super out of control.

    That's sort of a condescending attitude. I really doubt that super morbidly obese people get on the scale and think to themselves "Ok, at 475 I'm totally fine, but 480 is just something that can NEVER happen." There are lots and lots of reasons that people gain weight, and there's no one mindset that can be attributed to that happening.

    I'm curious - what's your definition of "super out of control"?

    I'm not trying to be condescending. I asked a question that I am honestly interested in hearing answers to. Why people allow themselves to get to 475 is exactly what I'm getting at. What are the reasons? Just trying to understand. Is that wrong?

    I don't think it's condescending. I've wondered the same thing. However, 200 is not really that high. When I started gaining in the early 2000s, I thought to myself never over 200. I ranged from 170-190 (sizes 10-12) during that time, occasionally getting very close to 200 (size 14). In 2005 I got to 210 and was horrified, but accepted it because I was not ready to deal with it at the time. Then my goal became more about staying in the "misses" size range which I was just barely in at size 16.

    I don't wonder so much about people who get to 300 or any other specific number, it's the people who get so large they can barely walk and need help going to the bathroom and that sort of thing who make me wonder. (What weight that would be would depend on the person, especially the height.) At some point it does seem like the weight gain would stop, either because being satisfied with the amount of food being consumed or stopping the overeating because of the lifestyle limitations, but I know in many situations there are other people who enable the overeater and even encourage the unhealthy behavior.

    When I was in my 20s, I didn't think I'd ever weigh 150 or higher. (I was usually around 130.) Now 150 is my goal weight! I have a lot more muscle now, though.
  • Th3Ph03n1x
    Th3Ph03n1x Posts: 275 Member
    lemon629 wrote: »
    SuggaD wrote: »
    BarbieAS wrote: »
    SuggaD wrote: »
    So when I was overweight, I always had 200 in my mind. That was the number I would never allow myself to get to. What was yours and how did you decide on that number? I'm honestly interested in gaining some understanding as to how people allow their weight to get super out of control.

    That's sort of a condescending attitude. I really doubt that super morbidly obese people get on the scale and think to themselves "Ok, at 475 I'm totally fine, but 480 is just something that can NEVER happen." There are lots and lots of reasons that people gain weight, and there's no one mindset that can be attributed to that happening.

    I'm curious - what's your definition of "super out of control"?

    I'm not trying to be condescending. I asked a question that I am honestly interested in hearing answers to. Why people allow themselves to get to 475 is exactly what I'm getting at. What are the reasons? Just trying to understand. Is that wrong?

    I don't think it's condescending. I've wondered the same thing. However, 200 is not really that high. When I started gaining in the early 2000s, I thought to myself never over 200. I ranged from 170-190 (sizes 10-12) during that time, occasionally getting very close to 200 (size 14). In 2005 I got to 210 and was horrified, but accepted it because I was not ready to deal with it at the time. Then my goal became more about staying in the "misses" size range which I was just barely in at size 16.

    I don't wonder so much about people who get to 300 or even 400, it's the people who get so large they can barely walk and need help going to the bathroom and that sort of thing who make me wonder. At some point it does seem like the weight gain would stop, either because being satisfied with the amount of food being consumed or stopping the overeating because of the lifestyle limitations, but I know in many situations there are other people who enable the overeater and even encourage the unhealthy behavior.

    When I was in my 20s, I didn't think I'd ever weigh 150 or higher. (I was usually around 130.) Now 150 is my goal weight! I have a lot more muscle now, though.

    It's funny you mentioned the misses thing I did that too. I think I would cry if I actually had to shop the plus sizes. I feel like I'm huge as it is.
  • fat2strongbeth
    fat2strongbeth Posts: 735 Member
    It used to be 200, although I never got to that number, but very very close. Now it is 160.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    SuggaD wrote: »
    So when I was overweight, I always had 200 in my mind. That was the number I would never allow myself to get to. What was yours and how did you decide on that number? I'm honestly interested in gaining some understanding as to how people allow their weight to get super out of control.

    I don't think most people give themselves any kind of cut-off. I personally never thought about it and rarely stepped on a scale.
  • higgins8283801
    higgins8283801 Posts: 844 Member
    I didn't have a number. I didn't realize how fat I was until I went to the doctor and weighed 174lbs. I am only 5'2..it was really eye opening for me.

    That was my wake up call.

    6 months later I'm down to 129.4
  • rseneca724
    rseneca724 Posts: 46 Member
    The heaviest I have ever knowingly been was 177 and as soon as I realized I was at 177 I started working to get it off. I managed to drop down to around 150 fairly quickly. In the last few years I have been floating between 135 and 160 and I am tired of the yo-yo. My max is and always has been 150. I haven't always managed to stay there, but refuse to go there again, I am simply not happy at that weight. I am at 135 now and my goal is 130. I'm a little nervous about reaching the goal, to be honest...not sure what happens after that...
  • Ldbg289
    Ldbg289 Posts: 236 Member
    When I was young it was 90 pounds(I'm small height wise). When I was a senior in high school I said 140(you see that the 90 pound freak out didn't last long?)Anyway...when I finally woke up and realized what had happened, I was at 195 and swore I wouldn't hit 200(this time I was right!)
  • gothchiq
    gothchiq Posts: 4,590 Member
    140. Any bigger and I just look sloppy.
  • SingRunTing
    SingRunTing Posts: 2,604 Member
    For me it's more about size. When I was slowly gaining, I'd go shopping for new clothes and if it meant I had to go up a size, no big deal. It must've been the way the brands were sized, yadda yadda. I don't play those games anymore. I'm currently in a size 14 and there is no way I will buy pants any bigger!

    Now that you say that, I think sizes mattered to me more than actual weight. I was a 12 in high school, got up to a 14/16 in college and afterward. My size 16's were getting too tight and I refused to buy an 18. I got on the scale and saw 213lbs and that was the end of that.

    I'm now in a size 12 and those are starting to get loose. So I might be starting to wear size 10's for the first time in my adult life. I think I might have been a 10 in junior high.
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    Clothes size matters more to me. About a year ago, I went up from a 8 to a size 10. Then a few months ago, the 10's that used to be a little loose got tight, and I had to go up to a 12. No more, that's it. Very depressing moment when I couldn't wear jeans that used to be loose on me not so long beforehand.
  • marinabreeze
    marinabreeze Posts: 141 Member
    I'm an outlier here, I think. Being at a larger weight with a 200 lb lost goal - it sneaks up on you, just like it sneaks up on smaller people. It's just that it came in 10 lbs and 15 lbs here and there for me rather than a 2-3 lbs here and there.

    In high school, it was 250 (at the time I was somewhere between 190 and 210 - my weight varied that much). I hit that after my first year of college (2000) and I graduated at 270 (2003).

    Then my number was 300. My last year of grad school I weighed in at the doc at 303 (2012). At that point I felt I failed and made it past my ceiling and didn't bother to make another one. I pretty much gave up.

    What kicked me into gear was weighing myself at 334 and realizing that I was a third of the way to 400 (September 2014). That's what did it.

    I lost 21 pounds so far, hoping to drop more than 13 by mid-April so I can be back in Twoterville by my 34th birthday.
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