there's just some things you shouldnt say to a new mom

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  • hungryhobbit1
    hungryhobbit1 Posts: 259 Member
    I just need to vent and get this out so I don't go to sleep upset tonight. I'm a mom of 2, one of which I had just 5 days ago. I was struggling with my weight before becoming pregnant, wanting to lose about 80 pounds. Well I weighed myself today and was actually proud to look at the scale noticing Im only 5 pounds away from my pre pregnancy weight. Still have the 80 to go for my original goal but still happy that after 5 days I'be lost almost all my baby weight. Well watching TV with my husband we see an actress on TV which I'm not striving to look like but I said something about her being pretty but not as good as a lot of people say she looks and my husband says well she has a really nice body. Really? Not something I want to hear especially right after giving birth. Needless to say I went to my room and cried and haven't been saying much to him after. I told him how I feel much of anything.idk I'm probably over reacting from horomones and what not but just needed to get this off.my chest before I drive myself crazy.

    Congratulations on your new baby! I remember crying about absolutely everything in the first couple of weeks after my kids were born. The thing is, your hormones really are in overdrive right now. When you start to feel that way try to take a deep breath and remember that it's your body doing this, nothing is actually wrong. I used to weep whenever anyone would ask me how I was, and I felt fine until they asked me!

    I'm sure he did not mean to in any way make a comment about your body. You were discussing how an actress looks and he was probably just making an innocent comment. The next time you feel like this, just tell him that you are feeling very emotional about your appearance right now, try not to make it out to be his fault. (Unless he really does say something awful about you.) Men can feel really helpless when they are brand new fathers. It's good to communicate with him and show him how he can help you.
  • 5n0wbal1
    5n0wbal1 Posts: 429 Member
    From a new mom (and a veteran mom) with a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old, I can tell you that yes, you were overreacting. But it's normal. I was an emotional wreck during both pregnancies and for a little while postpartum. Heck, every day I was pregnant with my second child, I wanted to hit my husband over the head with a frying pan! :embarassed:

    Just remember this: your husband may think someone is attractive, but as a former poster put it, he's married to you, not them. Don't demonize him; he's stuck by you even during the craziness of being pregnant and having a baby, and he still loves you as much as ever, if not more. Give him a break, even if it's only for a little bit.
  • nrcutie88
    nrcutie88 Posts: 7 Member
    He could have said, "We'll not everyone can be as gorgeous as you babe." ;)

    But truthfully, we women do set ourselves up for insult very often with our husbands and they can rarely avoid it. New mommy's are super sensitive! I know this from personal experience.

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