Am i over reacting?

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  • Kaylee_law_123
    Kaylee_law_123 Posts: 450 Member
    I know mine isn't the popular opinion, but I feel that if you need to demand that your boyfriend stop speaking to your mutual friend completely, something is intrinsically wrong with the relationship. A lot of people are stating in this thread that you are not overreacting and, truth be told, I disagree. At no point is it healthy for a relationship to have to forbid your partner from speaking to someone else. No matter how much you distrust that person, you should be able to trust your partner.

    Are you overreacting by feeling hurt by his betrayal? No. Are you overreacting by demanding that he never speak to her again? I think so. Ultimatums are pretty much relationship kryptonite and if the trust isn't there, no ultimatum is going to resolve the issue(s) you two are facing. He needs to be able to speak to his friend and you need to be able to trust that he's not going to cheat with her, either emotionally or... you know... bone her.

    I don't disagree with you, I don't believe in demanding things from your partner, or telling them they can't do something. I trust my partner completely, I trust that he would never do anything to hurt me, if I didn't have that trust I would go crazy with every girl who talked to him or messaged him, such as the case with his ex-fiance.

    And she does deserve to feel hurt, not for him going against her asking him not to talk to her, but for him simply doing something he knows would make her feel uncomfortable and that is generally shady!

    All-in-all I vote that she needs to move on!
  • d9123
    d9123 Posts: 531 Member
    LOL first world problems
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    I would marry him, and ask her to be the maid of honor.
  • Lacey_Cakes
    Lacey_Cakes Posts: 223 Member
    This sounds like "White Trash Jerry Springer"

    Saying "white trash" is kinda of redundant
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Have sex with his best friend. :devil: :bigsmile:
  • craigmandu
    craigmandu Posts: 976 Member
    My honest opinion....they probably banged....but you have no proof.

    I would go to lunch with the girl just the two of you, and then lie to her and say "He told me all about it, how could you"...and gauge her reaction. My hunch is she'll admit to it.......
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    No you are not over-reacting.
    Dump him, he's a player. Dump her, she is not your friend.
    They probably did **** for all you know.

    Then go and meet a nice man and have a happy life.
  • Lacey_Cakes
    Lacey_Cakes Posts: 223 Member
    My honest opinion....they probably banged....but you have no proof.

    I would go to lunch with the girl just the two of you, and then lie to her and say "He told me all about it, how could you"...and gauge her reaction. My hunch is she'll admit to it.......

    ahhhh smart man, i say go with this plan
  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    If he can't give her up, give him up. Thats my take. They obviously have some kind of connection/relationship if you want to believe it or not. There's nothing innocent about it. He knows what he is doing.
  • Thena81
    Thena81 Posts: 1,265 Member
    dump him sweetie
    your not over reacting, your right on point! :D
  • grantdumas7
    grantdumas7 Posts: 802 Member
    Threesome?
    This
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    get rid of him because if he was dishonest about anything, which he already was I would tell him he can have her because i'm out and then go do his friend....
  • svelt123
    svelt123 Posts: 173 Member
    :noway: Bless you my child!! You are not over re-acting! Your gut, mind, heart, and soul are telling you to dump them BOTH!!!
    These two people deserve each other. They are below your moral standards. She is not your friend! Friends do not do this!
    He is not your not boy friend! He is a boy toy! You are not important to him. He does NOT respect you! and HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU! HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU!!!! THIS IS NOT LOVE, THIS IS NOT FRIENDSHIP!
    What kind of future do you want to have with these kind of people? You deserve to be respected. You want happiness and true love and true friendship in your life! Get Rid of these life destroying people. They will bring you DOWN!! You are wasting precious time! You could be with someone who really loves you. You can have friends who are really true friends.
    Think about what you are doing with your life.
    We are only here for a very short while! Enjoy the gift of life and living.
    I am almost 50 years old and I am speaking from experience.

    You are a very intelligent person. You KNOW what you deserve and what you want out of life. You are a MFP member!
    Do what you know is the right thing to do! You will be fine. Say GOOD BYE to both of these losers!
    Take care.

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