boyfriend and summer nearing causing anxiety

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  • NoelFigart1
    NoelFigart1 Posts: 1,276 Member
    Look, if you want to lose weight, that's cool, but dayum girl, you're allowed to exist without being a decoration.

    If it makes you feel any better, I wear one of those hides nothing Speedos six or seven hours a week at the local pool, and I outweigh you by a WHOLE BUNCH.

    Don't let your perception of how decorative you're supposed to be interfere with living.
  • west1107
    west1107 Posts: 6 Member
    Honey, if he's telling you to get on with loosing the weight, guess what, he's not worth it! He should love you for you no matter how big, small, tall or short you are! Men are such pigs and they are obviously only after pretty little air heads....I'd give him the elbow.

    You can only lose weight for you!!!! Chin up, big hugs and ditch him there are plenty of morons in the sea and trust me looks are not everything!
  • Sandcastles61
    Sandcastles61 Posts: 506 Member
    Oh my gosh Nikki.~ I want first to apologize for not looking at your profile earlier but WOOWZA girl! You've got to acknowledge you have already lost 59 pounds !! :D<3

    Now I understand why you were hiding in jeans past summers. You've gotta celebrate how far you've already come, keep focused on the prize (being a healthier you with the side benefit of being slimmer and more fit). If your boyfriend has been with you through even part of that journey, he is no doubt proud of you too, just as you were when you met and where you are right now! Keep up the good work, and in a couple months treat yourself to a good self tanning lotion and go shopping for that swimsuit!
  • jpatton15
    jpatton15 Posts: 3 Member
    loveby30 wrote: »
    If he's pressuring you to lose weight before the summer so you can "look hot" Get a new boyfriend. You'll dump over 100lbs right there

    I agree completely. You are beautiful just the way you are. Make sure you are doing this for you and not for him.
  • meritage4
    meritage4 Posts: 1,441 Member
    You can get a flattering bathing suit.. Try a one piece or tankini or /
    When I wear at suit for work (a few times a year) I just add swim shorts over it (Men's as those teeny tiny girl ones do not slide over my hips). it sure beats the folks who just walk on the pool deck.

    Ok for shorts-start with capris, then bermuda shorts and finally daisy dukes! Really the attention will not be just on you! We only get one life-Go LIVE it girl!
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    If he is embarassed to be with you when you wear summer clothes, lose him. If he is telling you he wants you to get used to the idea of spending time outdoors and joining him in activities he loves, instead of hiding because you are worried about how you look, then he is right. If he has a problem with how you look, he should not be with you. If I understand right, you did not gain a ton of weight after he met you, so why do you doubt he likes you and believe he needs you to look different? If he wants you to enjoy life, have fun and stop comparing yourself to other women, he is 1000% correct.
  • kellycasey5
    kellycasey5 Posts: 486 Member
    Is it that your boyfriend wants you to lose weight? If so...RUN away from that. Is it that you are body conscious and won't wear shorts and a suit, but he would love to see you in them? Then ROCK your curves. Not everybody wants to date/marry/be with a super skinny girl. MANY men love curvy women. Heck, I'D rather look at curvy women. Find stuff in your size! The only thing you NEED to lose is the anxiety :)

    On a totally swimsuit related note: have you considered a super fun vintage inspired one piece? Shameless plug but I got one last year and they are super flattering on almost any shape, look EVEN better on curvy larger girls, and are very attention grabbing! If you don't believe me, google some images and you will see the skinny girls look...sort of meh in them and the curvy girls....WOWZERS!!! You will be comfortable and covered, have a great style going on, and girls will ask about your suit GUARANTEED. This way you won't spend your day in the sun body conscious, but just relaxing and having fun! To me, it is a perfect mix of modesty, and has a glamorous vibe going on.

    Shameless shopping plug: Walmart has one- suddenly slim by catalina shirred halter in a ton of fun colors and prints. I go polka dot last year, will probably get the navy floral this year. You will get compliments in a suit like this. I like it because there is body flattering ruching on the front and a little skirt piece covering the front where the *ahem*-legs meet? Great quality, affordable... I have only seen one other women wearing it, and she had it in the red. Check it out, it may not be your style, but they are flattering on lots of different body shapes and sizes!
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