Lost motivation after losing 100 lbs

segacs

cee134 wrote: »

Lots of good advice. Thanks. Here is a joke: who balances their check book anymore, or uses checks.

Hey, we're still balancing our income and spending. Just because we're downloading transactions from online banking into a budgeting software instead of using pen and paper... well, hey, that's kind of like using MFP instead of pen and paper to count calories, isn't it?

Technology is wonderful.

(And I still have to write cheques to my landlord, who's stuck in 1975. Annoying as all heck.)

cee134

Just bitcoin your landlord.

segacs

cee134 wrote: »

Just bitcoin your landlord.

Hahaha. I'd love to have a landlord who'd accept Bitcoin.

(Then again, I'd also love to have a landlord who actually fixes stuff when it breaks, does any maintenance whatsoever, or answers her phone when I call to report a water leak. Keep dreaming, right?)

cee134

No there are certain laws about what a Landlord has to do and keep up with. You would have to check to see what your local laws are but it could be worth it. It is usually hard to kick someone out, so you could even (once again depending on your local laws) not pay until they fix things, or at least delay paying.

gothchiq

BFDeal wrote: »

Yeah it's a hassle. The people who pretend it isn't are kidding themselves. You're basically supposed to live your entire life to balance out a bunch of numbers. Want to go out to eat? Nope, think again. You won't know what numbers to punch in. Sure, you could guess but then you'll just worry if you guessed right. Plus you're a bad person for guessing. People will say you're lying about your intake. I mean, you're supposed to weigh EVERYTHING right? I'm right there with you. I'm considering just counting loosely since I've lost all motivation for the process too.

I love BF, he just lays it out there! Perhaps OP and BF could do the My Plate method at least for now. This is how my doctor explains it: Almost half the plate is nonstarchy vegetables (with a sliver of that half being fruit, according to the latest update), 1/4 is some type of carb/starch, and 1/4 is lean meat. No drowning things in butter and gravy; that sabotages you. Cook with olive oil when an added fat is needed. This way you are not logging or strictly measuring but you have a guideline which if you are honest with yourself about the plate divisions, will not "creep" ever bigger. It was developed to work on a standard size dinner plate. You can get illustrations online too if you are a visual thinker.

And, of course, the exercise. Walking, swimming, hula hooping, whatever's fun and affordable for you. Some people park their workout machine in front of the TV so they don't get bored out of their gourd. I think that's a pretty good idea if you have any kind of machine at home. If not, you can do your body weight exercises or calisthenics in front of the TV for entertainment.

I hope some of this is helpful. You already invested so much hard work after all!

segacs

It was a rhetorical statement, not a request to change the subject.

Vailara

Congratulations on the 100lb loss! I've been doing this for almost 3 years too - lost about 60lb, then maintained and now trying to lose a bit more. At the moment, I've had enough of calorie counting so I'm sticking to three meals a day (no snacks) most days, being careful with portions and writing down what I eat. I'm losing weight, but it feels liberating not having to count the calories. Maybe something like that would help?

indianarose2

Noooo!!!! Don't give up!!! So much good advice above. Dig in, try something new but don't give up!!! Everyone is cheering for you!!!! Get some good friends on here to help keep you going. Want to see you in the success boards! Heck! You should be there now!

ana3067

SLLRunner wrote: »

segacs wrote: »

Think of it like brushing your teeth or balancing your chequebook: You don't stop doing these things just because you're tired of them, do you? (Well, I'd hope not!)

The trick is to not make them so central to your life anymore. Find ways to log and track in the background, taking no more than a few minutes a day and not requiring so much concentration. After three years, you probably have it fairly down pat anyway. Meanwhile, find new goals, interests and hobbies to focus on and to motivate you -- ones not related to diet and exercise, preferably. Hang out less on these boards and concentrate on other things you enjoy, other relationships and hobbies.

You don't have to quit. But it doesn't have to define you, either.

This is an excellent idea. I pre-log the day before. Since I eat pretty much the same things, I do a lot of copying from the day before, or meals. Once a day is all that's necessary with pre-planning, or when you decide to make a change.

I've been at this for over two years- one year to lose 44 lbs and over a year maintenance-and I can't imagine my life without logging and tracking.

Different strokes - pre-logging doesn't work well for me outside of certain circumstances or if done periodically. I do much better grabbing what I want to eat for breakfast and lunch, weighing and logging everything as I go (I usually log the items as I'm grabbing them, then just weigh them once they are logged so I can change the weight from my diary). I really only pre-log if I'm figuring out what I want to eat ahead of time for when I get home. For me pre-logging is akin to meal prep, which I hate. I can do it infrequently only.

Best to try different things out and find what "hacks" work best for you

ana3067

gothchiq wrote: »

BFDeal wrote: »

Yeah it's a hassle. The people who pretend it isn't are kidding themselves. You're basically supposed to live your entire life to balance out a bunch of numbers. Want to go out to eat? Nope, think again. You won't know what numbers to punch in. Sure, you could guess but then you'll just worry if you guessed right. Plus you're a bad person for guessing. People will say you're lying about your intake. I mean, you're supposed to weigh EVERYTHING right? I'm right there with you. I'm considering just counting loosely since I've lost all motivation for the process too.

I love BF, he just lays it out there! Perhaps OP and BF could do the My Plate method at least for now. This is how my doctor explains it: Almost half the plate is nonstarchy vegetables (with a sliver of that half being fruit, according to the latest update), 1/4 is some type of carb/starch, and 1/4 is lean meat. No drowning things in butter and gravy; that sabotages you. Cook with olive oil when an added fat is needed. This way you are not logging or strictly measuring but you have a guideline which if you are honest with yourself about the plate divisions, will not "creep" ever bigger. It was developed to work on a standard size dinner plate. You can get illustrations online too if you are a visual thinker.

And, of course, the exercise. Walking, swimming, hula hooping, whatever's fun and affordable for you. Some people park their workout machine in front of the TV so they don't get bored out of their gourd. I think that's a pretty good idea if you have any kind of machine at home. If not, you can do your body weight exercises or calisthenics in front of the TV for entertainment.

I hope some of this is helpful. You already invested so much hard work after all!

Really? Laying it out there? Because I'm just seeing him whine and complain all over the forums and apparently on people's feeds.

Sliver of fruit? HOnestly I like fruit more than veggies so I eat a lot of them. Not as much as I did when I was gaining weight, but a large portion still. Only 1/4 of my plate being meat (and the meat doesn't have to be lean to eat it) likely wouldn't help me reach my protein needs every day unless I ate above maintenance.

Butter and gravy do not sabotage you. You are putting the blame of weight gain/lack of results on something external - THAT will sabotage you, if you ask me. Eat butter and gravy within your caloric needs and you will lose, maintain, or gain.

Why cook with olive oil? Fat is fat, you're not gonna somehow have fewer weight issues because you swap one source out for another.