flirting with friends ?????

kiousd
kiousd Posts: 917 Member
edited November 13 in Chit-Chat
Do it matter to anyone if some one is taken or is flirting and private messages ok
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  • islander_2013
    islander_2013 Posts: 13,378 Member
    its all good up to a certian point
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    what do you mean
  • siport
    siport Posts: 7,429 Member
    flirting is harmless, its a way of having a laugh and getting/giving some compliments and ego boosting. However you have to find the line!
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    Well im not really one to flirt. I was just seeing the general thoughts
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    kiousd wrote: »
    Do it matter to anyone if some one is taken or is flirting and private messages ok

    theres nothing wrong with a bit of flirting, but if you're private messaging things that you wouldnt want your significant other to read then i think thats about where the line is.
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    edited February 2015
    my thoughts exactly. I don't hide anything from my beautiful wife
  • fullylugged
    fullylugged Posts: 67 Member
    Emotions can be powerful and unpredictable. What seems to be innocent fun may result in stronger feelings than you were ready for. Flirting if you are trying to attract someone's attention is not the same as just flirting for fun. The two can be hard to tell apart.
  • VintageMisery514
    VintageMisery514 Posts: 533 Member
    fullylugged wrote: »
    Emotions can be powerful and unpredictable. What seems to be innocent fun may result in stronger feelings than you were ready for. Flirting if you are trying to attract someone's attention is not the same as just flirting for fun. The two can be hard to tell apart.

    I think this was perfectly said. I also think that if you're flirting with people to an extent that would make you uncomfortable if you saw your SO flirting that much, you need to stop and think about what you're doing, the hypocrisy of it, and how it would make them feel if they saw it.
  • Lessofme33
    Lessofme33 Posts: 51 Member
    It all depends on intention....and when it gets to the point of distraction or addiction, its a bad thing. Basically ask yourself.."Would my wife appreciate this?" Turn the tables and think "How would I feel if someone spoke to my wife this way?" ..that should tell you. :-)
  • blktngldhrt
    blktngldhrt Posts: 1,053 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    kiousd wrote: »
    Do it matter to anyone if some one is taken or is flirting and private messages ok

    theres nothing wrong with a bit of flirting, but if you're private messaging things that you wouldnt want your significant other to read then i think thats about where the line is.

    This. Exactly this.
  • Markdjones83
    Markdjones83 Posts: 852 Member
    CElizabth1791 wrote: »
    It all depends on intention....and when it gets to the point of distraction or addiction, its a bad thing. Basically ask yourself.."Would my wife appreciate this?" Turn the tables and think "How would I feel if someone spoke to my wife this way?" ..that should tell you. :-)

    I personally don't like flirting with anyone thats taken because I wouldn't really like it done to me. A little playful jabbing and stuff like that is OK or even a compliment on an outfit or pictures fine but I think that's different than flirting
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    I want to make it clear that this isn't aimed at a specific incedent just a topic of discussion. If in anyway made my wife uncomfortable with something I did or said it would stop right there. And I would hope every man would.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    I don't flirt. I blatantly try to enlist other women and couples for my wife. Keeps her happy while I'm washing the dishes and mopping the floors.
  • blktngldhrt
    blktngldhrt Posts: 1,053 Member
    I don't know how to flirt. I only know how to joke and be sarcastic.

    I do have one friend who flirts too much with me. He takes it too far and it makes me uncomfortable.

    I feel that it's disrespectful to act a certain way around someone who is in a known marriage /relationship.
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    I joke around too. But I'm new to MFP and I see people all over the forums talking in ways that would make me uncomfortable if it was geared towards me or my SO
  • Spnneil06
    Spnneil06 Posts: 18,745 Member
    Depends on if it's mutual. Pervy pm's are annoying. However harmless flirting between two adults is normal. Once it crosses over to more than that, then prob no so good, but to each his own right?
  • Lessofme33
    Lessofme33 Posts: 51 Member
    kiousd wrote: »
    I joke around too. But I'm new to MFP and I see people all over the forums talking in ways that would make me uncomfortable if it was geared towards me or my SO

    Be very selective if you're visiting the "chit chat fun" forums...you can tell by the topic which ones to steer clear of ;-)
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    CElizabth1791 wrote: »
    It all depends on intention....and when it gets to the point of distraction or addiction, its a bad thing. Basically ask yourself.."Would my wife appreciate this?" Turn the tables and think "How would I feel if someone spoke to my wife this way?" ..that should tell you. :-)

    That's just it. My wife is on here too and has been for years. She has lots of guy friends and some of which I've seen post stuff on forums not necessarily to or even about her but actions in general. I just don't want to hafta worry.
  • Markdjones83
    Markdjones83 Posts: 852 Member
    edited February 2015
    If I trust my wife then it wouldn't bother me if someone stepped over the line because I would expect them to say something to that effect.

    I am recently separated/divorce though. So, for me, let the games begin!
  • Lessofme33
    Lessofme33 Posts: 51 Member
    Markdjones83 wrote: »
    If I trust my wife then it wouldn't bother me if someone stepped over the line because I would expect them to say something to that effect.

    I am recently separated/divorce though. So, for me, let the games begin!

    ;) (revs engine)
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    I trust my wife.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    kiousd wrote: »
    I trust my wife.

    Last time I did that, I woke up in a bathtub full of ice water and missing a kidney.

  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    Lol
  • Lessofme33
    Lessofme33 Posts: 51 Member
    kiousd wrote: »
    I trust my wife.

    Be warned of one thing...I dont know how much weight each of you has to lose but significant weight loss can be a curse as well as a blessing...When someone loses weight and starts getting attention from the opposite sex that they havent had before, it can go to one's head and lead to issues... I speak from experience. ;)
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    :-1:
  • kiousd
    kiousd Posts: 917 Member
    I can only hope that doesn't happen. I believe in our strength.
  • NewMeSM75
    NewMeSM75 Posts: 971 Member
    If I wouldn't say it in front of my husband, I wouldn't say it anywhere else. That's just me though. I would expect the same from him. :)
  • Lessofme33
    Lessofme33 Posts: 51 Member
    If you find yourself hiding or deleting things you've done or said, ask yourself why... it's that simple :)
  • yourradimradletshug
    yourradimradletshug Posts: 964 Member
    There is a fine line. If I am with someone I don't normally flirt like at all. I will give compliments and say they are handsome or whatever but never anything past that. I don't call anyone babe, love, or anything like that. I use hun or sweetie for stuff but that's just because of where I am from. I think if you are in love and committed to someone why even want to flirt in the first place?
  • mcibty
    mcibty Posts: 1,252 Member
    kiousd wrote: »
    Well im not really one to flirt. I was just seeing the general thoughts

    Sure sure, I often ask random questions with absolutely no affliation to my own behaviour.

    Wink.
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